do opposites attract?

I think opposites can attract, but having the same interests can also give you lots to talk about and therefor get people attracted to each other. I think that opposites are only attractive if they do or have something that you would love to do or have aswell, but it's not a trade of yourself. For example, I once read that we go through several relationships with people to learn something from them we want or need but haven't got. Someone who is insecure might fall for someone who is very secure about himself/herself, but the relationship won't last pass the point that the insecure person has learnt to be more secure. Than he/she will choose a new partner to learn from, untill you find someone that complements you and you complement him/her. I don't know whether it's true, but it sounds like there is at least a little truth in there. A relationship is growth and hard work aswell as love and attraction.

This is true of your parents my dear. We balance each other out and that is very important with personalities that are so very extreme in one direction or another. I will always need help staying grounded in reality and he will always need someone to pull him out of his shell and show him that the world is a far better place than he believes it is. As different as we are and as much as we may clash though I know he will be there for me no matter what and he knows the same is true of me and that is the main key to our love that has lasted 18 years come July 4. I only hope that in your life you will find some one that fits as perfectly and makes you feel as safe.

I think that sometimes opposites are drawn to each other, but not always. I have had relationships and friendships with people who were very different than me in some ways, but there always has to be some kind of common ground. For example, I'm very introverted, but before I married I tended to date people who were extroverted (with some exceptions, of course). My husband and I are pretty similar in a lot of ways, though. We pretty much like a lot of the same stuff, but our taste in music is almost completely different. We're both pretty quiet, but I think he's more comfortable talking to people than I am. Our similarities are enough so that we (mostly) get along, and the differences are (mostly) ok. Sure, we drive each other nuts sometimes, but I guess all couples do.

I'm not sure. It's hard to say. My fiance and I are nearly identical in our philosophies, goals, wants, morals, ideals, etc. We THINK the same. But we don't act the same. I'm open and social, willing to goof around and embarrass myself and have fun. I make friends easily. My fiance is more introverted and he only ever makes a handful of friends, but he's always extremely close with the friends he does make. He's a bit more shy and such, too. So I guess we're not really polar opposites, but we're similar where it matters. :) I think that's the same throughout most of my family.

Lot of people often find others that totally opposite to them are the ones that attract them the most. I've seen many cases that people end up married to someone that were considered as 'not their type' before they met him/her and they still live a happy marriage for now as your parents do. Maybe the reason is when you look for someone as your companion for the rest of your life, you would be looking for the one that can fill things that are felt incomplete or considered missing in your life. If you look for someone that is similar to you it would be much easier for you to accept him/her, but that will not complete the missing pieces in your life. It would be like putting a piece of puzzle on top of a piece of puzzle instead of looking for the right piece to complete your puzzle. That is why good girls often attracted to the bad boys type instead of the nice ones. Hope that would gives you another insight of your problem Cheers, GBU