Why are parents who make difference between theirs kids?
By icesmile
@icesmile (7160)
Romania
June 11, 2009 12:37am CST
Happened with you too? Your parents make a difference between you and your brother or sister?
I have a sister, i am elder sister, but we never understand each other, and i am sure that this is my mother fought. My mother all time pay a lot of attention my sister...and even now, when i am more mature i don t understand why.
Is a big difference between us as sisters, she is more, spoilet, don t finish the school, had a adventurose life, with many partners, but because she all time argue with my mother a lot, she win.
I am not jealouse, but i really don t understand, even now, when we both are mature, my mother act same.
But here is a problem, my sister is like my mother, all shes life was almost life in the mirror with my mother life....maybe here is problem?
All time when i say something about my sister, because she make a lot of mistakes, she have 2 kids, and let both one with his father, other with my mother, and she start a new life again and again, my mother try to protect she, and say that my sister is smart and know to be happy in life.
T o be happy mean to let your kids alone, and try to find other partner all the time?
Do you have problems like this in your family? i mean your parent make a diffrence between you and your sister or brother?
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7 responses
@expressnature (265)
• India
11 Jun 09
For my parents me and my sister are same. I have the same problem,but my parents not always travels the same road. If at one time they support for me,then other time they support for her. There will be compensation done by the parents.But your case seems to be a critical one that your sister is always supported. I think there is no problem with you. You should make attachment with your mother. You should prove to your mother that you are better than your sister.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
11 Jun 09
There are 5 kids in my family and I'm the oldest and my 4 siblings believe that my parents favor me. There have been many jokes about this in my fifty plus years. One was the three older sibling were visiting my parents in Florida and we all walked in together but my parents came right to me. My sister and brother looked at each other and said see we all come here to visit and who gets the hugs first. It was funny and I just laughed it off but I'm sure it gets to my siblings somewhat. My parents will say they don't favor anyone of us, but I can't help thinking that they do in a way. I think with firstborns there is a special connection with their parents that no one can help. Its just the way it is.
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
11 Jun 09
All children...all PEOPLE have different personalities and different needs. Most parents love their children equally, but they cannot treat them exactly the same.
Some children are in more need of attention. Some children actually SEEK more attention. They can be more likely to go up to mom or dad and GIVE them a hug first. Some children are more reseverd and withdrawn. They don't look for physical contact.
I love my children equally. They both like hugs and stuff and they both GET hugs.
I also tell them both that I love them very often. But, they have different needs.
One likes to go out often and has lots of friends. The other one has more fears and needs more of my attention. They BOTH accuse me of treating the OTHER one better. They do that when they are not getting their way or when they are arguing and I am telling one of them what they did wrong.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
11 Jun 09
I don't have this problem in my family. However, I've seen some families having this favoritism thing and I've seen a mother scolding vulgarity to the less than 10 years of age perhaps daughter and totally so cooing the toddler son, perhaps around 2 years or so. It's not the ages, but vulgarity compares to cooing and loving words? Very different and I could draw the thick line there.
It's sad to see these kind of things happen and I really dislike favoritism in any kind; especially between siblings. Parents should show a good example definitely for the healthy growing stage of the different behavior patterns and temperamental children that they have.
Parents should show a good example definitely for the healthy growing stage of the different behavior patterns and temperamental children that they have. @mye_drew (182)
• Israel
12 Jun 09
not all parents have different treatment to their kids.but there are parents do practice diff. treatment due to favoritism.this is attributed with the conduct of some of their kids. the treatment of some parents depends on the manners of their kids.there are a lot of factors why some parents do practice favoritism.
@kelly_hello (132)
• China
11 Jun 09
I have a little brother..seven years younger than me.
Maybe my parents will treat me better than him duo to he addict to computer games
and at an awkward age....but we still love him..
we are family...
@rohitha123 (69)
• India
11 Jun 09
we are two children to our parents me and my elder sister.since i am then younger one my mother used to play with me frhom childhood onwards even ther were situations when my sister was depressed a lot.even though my sister loves me like any thing i know tthat there were situations when she felt a lot though i wanted to convince her i could do nothing.i think all the elder ones in the families face this sitution but i think they should really take it light because the younger ones are younger to them .now afterv some days a new pet came to our home now my mom is after him leaving me.
