You can forgive somebody who like to talk in your back? I hate this!!

When someone talks behind your back, it only shows how much insecure the person is. This is what we call here as crab mentality. You will not let other people get ahead of you. Instead of trying a way to improve yourself, one would fabricate stories that would hurt the other's reputation. It is bad and sadly, it exists. I will surely forgive someone who has done something like that to me. But for sure, I will be wary of his actions and I will not get near this person. I don't think that this person deserves a single minute of my time.

There are people like this in my office. A woman who works as a maid here is the leader of the group and she is so shrewd, we all trusted her a lot an now we found out that she has been telling each other of the secrets of others. She was thinking maybe that we are not very close to each other and when we came to know that we were stunned and we have stopped to talk to her now. So honestly I cannot forgive her so easily because she has betrayed me while she had promised that she would never talk about my personal things with others.

It is something which I also don't like. Talking behind us or talking in front of us about other people by anyone, even if it is me, is a very bad thing and I feel that such people have no other work except for gossiping about others. I can never forgive such people who talk whatever they want about others without really knowing others. When a person is talking about others or when we are talking about others , first we must be perfect to point others mistakes. We ourselves have so many flaws. How can we show fingers at others and that too in their absence.

i have heard somebody who talked about me in my back when i was young,i would be boring at that moment,i also not like talking about somebody behind of them, i face few times when i grow up.my friends are not so boring to talk each other in one's back.i would keep some distance if i met someone like doing this.

I won't use the word "forgive" or not as technically speaking he is just doing something that makes him and only himself bad. I am what I am and there is no need that to hide or be worried about others talking about me as long as they are telling the truth. But then, I also dislike this kind of people but I tend not to show up because if they talk at your back and you show how annoyed you are, most often they will continue and start to fake up stories that you simply don't have all the time to deal with.

First of all speaking in the back is a bad habit. One more point is you are not pointing the mistake done by him straightly which will lead him to do the same mistake. I like to openly speak in front of him not in a harsh manner but in a polite way. Even after that he do the same, I will be somewhat harsh!

If the person talks about you, there are only two things you can think of - he simply admires you or he is envious. So it is enough that we forgive someone who talks about us, afterall he didn't get whatever we have.

it depends what kind of thoughts and taking this people said in your back or without our presence too!!In some cases are just things wihout a real meaning just o talk or to say about another person..in other cases they are really bad topics about you!!So normally i don't count this people or this topic so simply i ignore these so i think if you worry too much about others you are loosing just time even because you can be perfect or like a saint but people will find always something to say about you of negative so..it doen't matter...

I have been a victim of back talk. There were people in my work before that has nothing to do but create issues and do a lot of back talking about people. I have forgiven them but I don't trust them. A friend of mine told me that usually people like this usually do this because they do not have much to offer or they lack the skill. So instead of working on they backbite people to raise themselves up. Sad to note that this worked out for those people in my workplace before. Well, I resigned from work and now is happily my own boss. So in my case, I do forgive them but do not trust them.

I admire your spirit ,because i can't bear people talk me back with others . Sometimes, i doubt if some one talk me back with others . And i don't know how i am ,who i am , what are my advantage , what are my weakness .I am in self-contemptuous . That is a bad thing ,right ?

I am also a frank person. If I don't like something, I say it immediately.. I just can't bare those thoughts bugging me. Because if I just spread his/her flaws to other people, it wouldn't help, that person will be the same. But if people spread gossip about me, yes I will be irritated.. In fact, there is also member here in MyLot who made a blog that me and my boyfriend are the worst people on earth.. I went berserk! because it's all lie.. But then I realize she's just bitter.. So I just let go everything... Because I know to my self that I am fair and I am bless...

ya we face these kind of peoples daily in life.Its better to avoid these kind of peoples n to stay away from them. if they speak about others to us na then they will surely talk about us to others. If its a good thing its not a problem but mostly it wont happen. People are used to speak at the back about the wrong things only. its the human nature. one should not care about these kind of peoples and should stay away from them.

Of course, I hate it. I'll remove him or her out my life, if I think they hurt me so bad.

I hate when somebody talk about me in my back. I like to have honest friends, not liers. If somebody want to tall me something, or want criticize me, i am here, and i can face it. Is a to big effort to see who talk, why talk, maybe is better for everybody to see what they have in theirs yard.

well like you said everyone talks about someone. even myself I don't like to talk bad about people because I feel its useless and I have better things to do with my time but I do find myself sometimes engaging in conversations with my best friend or sister about things going on around me for instance, today my sister told me about our sister in law being treated bad we did discuss that,some people may call that talking behind someones back I call it concern... but I know what you mean and its good you don't engage in bad talking. but know the people you least expect to talk about you, talk about you the most

sadly, gossip, backstabbing, are something that isnt easy to avoid. people want to talk. in order to talk they have to find something to criticize so they'll observe their surroundings. i hate it too. as much as possible i wont hear or participate any of it because i fully well know that when were not watching them, they'll talk about you too. as the saying goes, dont do to others if u dont want others to do unto u. the tongues of some people is difficult to control. that if i hear something talking about me and backstabbing me, i would like to cut them off so they'll just shut up..LOL..but i know it wont work because attacking back will make things worst. you'll end up being the bad guy too. the best i could do is just leave them alone and not pay attention to them... in time they'll get tired.

I won't say gorgiving or not but I won't particularly like it. I think I will stay away from that person, I would rather not know he/she talks about me than talking about him/her back.

People who talk about you behind your back is a coward.I know someone who is like that and i found out the hard way.I did not forget that they were not to be trusted so if i have a friend round and the person is here i wait until they have gone befor me and my friend talk about anything.So there are other ways to avoid a back stabber from doing it again and again.

i frankly don't care, but i don't talk behind someone's back. if i got something bad to say about them, i say it to their face.

This is something that i find many people have a problem with. I also had a hard time with this thing called forgiveness. My only suggestion is going to sound a bit religious and i do not want to offend anyone through this but it's through the love of God. By loving God and understanding that he forgave all your sins cause face it we all are sinners and we all talked behind someones back some time or another. We have to just search for the love we have inside and express that love outwardly by Forgiving.