Should I share it here? I think May be can get some help for friend....
By subha12
@subha12 (18441)
India
June 11, 2009 4:26am CST
First of all do not take any offense. I have a good friend. She was my room mate when I was living in other city. She has got married to her Bf last December.Though we are in different city, we are in constant touch. Today morning I mailed her to ask what is going on.
After came the mail where she told she is bit concerned about her husband now.
Actually he is otherwise healthy. But she says in a month or so, he has started wetting bed at night. He is also very embarrassed and down. They have seen a doctor. After many tests the doctor says there is no such medical problem but he is suffering from Primary Nocturnal Enuresis.He is having over acting bladder and as he sleeps deeply, he can't wake up. He had history of late wetting till age of 12 but that was occasional.
Now its almost 5-6 times weekly. The doctor says to use protection like adult diaper.
My friend says he is ashamed of wearing too and is very diminished in self confidence.
Plus the situation worsen last weekend when he had bad stomach upset and with wetting he messed a bit too.
He could not control himself.
Do you think the diaper reduces the urge to control in wetting?
or can it be the reason as he had bad stomach upset, he did mess? or it can be like a constant problem.
But My friend is very supportive.She loves him very much now also despite what is the problem.
Want all advices which can help my friend.
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10 responses
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
11 Jun 09
Should I share it..........
Well you don't mention how old your friend's husband is but typically with most men in their latter years this isn't such an unusual problem. Please tell your friend to continue being supportive of her husband. There is no need for him to feel embarrassed if it is something that he cannot control. Tell him to put on the diaper and no one will ever know. Since she love him very much it shouldn't be a problem for her to stick by his side. Besides marriage is for better or for worst and we never know what will happen. One day the shoe might be on the other foot and she would want somebody to help her. Take care and happy mylot.
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
the diaper would really help him, as it will control the mess and he would not worry about peeing anywhere and getting himself wet from it...
have they tried alternative cure? herbal medicine or something... this is the first time that i have heard of such a condition. maybe there is some herbal remedy that can help him if there's no medicine that the doctor can prescribed him.
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@peedielyn (1207)
• United States
11 Jun 09
The adult diaper would work, but with a nightly visit to the bathroom too. If she can get him up every two hours (that is if she can stand it) and get him to the bathroom, this could kick in his body timer and maybe reconstruct his bladder control. I came on here to get help with my kids wetting the bed and finally broke down and talked to my doctor again. He said to let them wear the pull-ups to bed but to save money in buying them, keep them dry. I asked how, and now my alarm is set for every two hours to get them up. They have dry nights, I have dry sheets and for the most part (with the occasional accident) we are waking up dry. See if this will help. And I wish you guys all the luck in the world.
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@dropofrain (1167)
• India
12 Jun 09
I think he can start wearing a diaper so avoid initial mess bubt try and improve on this habbit by keeping a constant watch. He can always go to the washroom before going to bed. Second, he can try out waking in the middle of the night and going to washroom. These things should make a difference.
@FinanciallySMART (41)
• Jamaica
11 Jun 09
Hi subha, this guy has to stop making pride stop him from wearing the diaper. He also need to start build back his self confidence. I would suggest that his wife sit down and talk with him express her love for him and also the impact this is having on her. He need to understand her concerns about this because if she is not careful it will lead her into depression.
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@guixiu81 (30)
• China
11 Jun 09
I believe adult diaper will be better to his situation,it should make him feel better, I think it's the reason that he had bad stomach upset,he should keep open mind. In order to solve the problem, he should see more doctor, different doctors have different experience, maybe other doctor have alternative.
Do you ever think of acupuncture?
@raghwagh (1527)
• India
11 Jun 09
I think first of all you friends husband should not loose self confidence. There is solution for any disease now a days. So they will find a solution for their problem. But now it is more important for your friend to support her husband and help him to recover. I think there is nothing wrong in using diaper as suggested by the doctor. Also I think they should take a second opinion. But the more important thing in this case is maintaining self confidence.
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@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
i'm so sorry about the situation your friend is in right now, it's pretty tough, really. i don't have a medical advise except to let them both go to a health expert who cam medicate the condition of her hubby, it's better that both should undergo counseling too in order to handle the difficult situation. i really wish you and your friend's family well.
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@kelvidpang (160)
• Malaysia
11 Jun 09
So sorry to your friend's husband. If i am in his position, i'll like him too, feel ashamed and the self confidence will diminished. Maybe try to look for other specialist who can find out the root cause. May god bless him.
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