Jealous Mother?

Why did you have to say "Don't anyone dare tell me to try and compromise with her", because that was exactly what I was going to say.LOL. Now that I can't say that,let me think. Well, this is a tricky one. I think my answer is going to be of no use, but let me give it a shot anyway. :) The thing is, may be you are reading into this the wrong way. I don't know about how your guys are.Maybe there are somethings that irritate your mom and so she is concerned about you and hence does not like it when you meet your boyfriend. On the other hand, your mother is a woman after all. May be when she sees you having good times with your boyfriend, it brings back old memories/wounds that have still not healed. I am taking a risk, but I honestly think you should try and talk to her. Please don't abuse me ..lol.. God bless you :)

It really depends, you know the type of personality your mother has, your relationship with her...you not too close? It'd matter. I'd just suspend judgment since I don't know both of you. Anyway, I'm a mother too, and everytime my daughter's bf comes to visit her in our house, it's ok with me. I'm just civil to him, and even my husband. Actually, we don't like him to be my daughter's bf, but we just have to accept, not necessarily agree. There it goes. Since I'm one who also thinks about my daughter's welfare, I allow even her bf to come along with us in family outings and vacations. That's how I love her...I don't want her to get hurt by not accepting her bf. For me, that's being cruel to her, so I get your mother's reaction could be interpreted differently although I'm not sure what it is really. I guess you just have to prove to her that your bf deserves you, who knows she will have a change of heart.

I think that you look at your mother from wrong angle. She may want to protect you from "bad boys". She has also right to keep her privacy. Every visitor in your house is possible lock of privacy for the rest of the household... i would say that regardless of her personal life, jealousy is the last on her list for her own daughter....

well first how old are you. I can understand her not wanting your boyfriends to come over if you are under age in your teens. also if you are over 21 you should be on your own so you don't have to worry about your mom's getting mad or disapproving of your boyfriends. instead of bring him home you guys should go out and enjoy yourselves.

I think you are just thinking the wrong way. Why not see the situation in a positive way, I mean what she is doing is preventing you from something bad that might happen. Why not ask her frankly about that matter so that you will know the answer why she is acting like that. My mom is also like her she doesn't want my boyfriend to come over in our house and she also prevents me from seeing him and I know why she is doing that. So I won't make a mistake to disappoint her. And because I did not listen to her....something happen to me. Let's just say I made a mistake like what she is expecting if I will not stop seeing my boyfriend.

My mother gets jealous with my boyfriend too! I'm 20 years old, graduating student. She warns me to stop talking to him in the phone if we had spent several minutes talking to each other. If I go out in the house like for example in school and I got home late, I know my mother is already mad because she won't talk to me and I can feel it she's not in the mood. And when my boyfriend visits me in our house, my mother is not comfortable and she won't entertain him and she won't eat with us together either. I understand why mother's get jealous especially to their daughters. They are just securing us from unwanted pregnancy or anything that can lead us miserable with our boyfriends. Mothers consider their daughter's age as well, If you are still studying and don't have a permanent job, I'm very sure mother's are going to be very protective and sensitive but if you are on the right age and earning your own income, I'm sure they won't be worried that much. Blame me for being a naughty girl don't worry I'm looking for ways not to be a pain for my mother. I love her much and I'm looking forward to be in the right age at the right job and at the right time, she'll accept my boyfriend to be my husband! I'll definitely ask for her blessing!

it may not be so. But anyway, there can be some underlying problem with her and your Bfs. Have a clear chat with her about these issues.

Ive read some comments that was left but unless you've been in this situation you'll never know what its like. However i on the other hand have been in this sitaution LOL...Shes Jealous LOL thats just it point blank its not about you or the guy its about her. Sence her realtionship Failed years ago shes not happy and in most cases when the mother isnt happy she dont want the daughter or son to be happy either. And will drag you down with her. Im going threw this kind of situation right now myself but of course my mom dont like anyone dont matter if its a guy or girl she dont like them because thats who she is. LOL She likes to be in control over what i do and dont do but its like i tell her its my life i will life it the way i want you can either be happy for me and except it or leave your chioce. She has actually pushed my brother so far as he has moved out of the state to get away from her trying to tell him what to do and not to do LOL. So i dont think your taking it wrong by no means.

I'm sorry, I think you're viewing your mother in a wrong perspective. You're 17 and I know how it feel to be in that age. I don't have any problem my mother but it was my father. He insisted on sending and picking me up whenever I went. It's like he's constricting my movement and who I wanted to met (of course, he chased boys away~~~) But as I grow older I realized, he's protecting me in his own way. And I am thankful for that. Your mother might feel the same. She doesn't you to go through what she had been through and wanted the best for you. Try to understand her more.

i think your mother just doesn't want you to end up like her as far as having a relationship is concerned. maybe she has a fear that what happened to her might happen to you. as a mother myself the greatest fear i have is to see my child get hurt, if she does the pain i feel is more than hers. i think all mothers are like that because of the love they have for their child. no mother would want their child to be hurt or in danger, if they can only take away the pain their child is going through they would do that. what i suggest is to have an open relationship and communication with your mom so that you can express yourselves and discuss whatever is bothering you, and on her part she can also explain to you why is she acting that way. there's nothing wrong in trying.