did u feel that your mother control your life?
By mapuang
@mapuang (612)
Philippines
June 11, 2009 9:54pm CST
i live with my parents. im the youngest in the family and aside from that im only the girl. so my mom is always with me since we are business partner. sometimes i feel that my mom control my life. im always cry if i feel this. sometimes im thinking to stay away with her and live alone. but i dont want to hurt my mom feelings. what will i do? please advise.
how about you do u have the same problem with your mom?
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5 responses
@phyrre (2317)
• United States
12 Jun 09
It sounds like your situation is exactly the same as mine. My mother and I were so similar that she was always afraid that I would make the same mistakes she did and so she was overbearing and tried to control everything I did to try to prevent it.
If it's really so bad that it's making you cry, try to talk to her about it. She might not realize how bad it's making you feel and to what extent it upsets you. That might clear some things up.
If you don't think that would work, then try to find someone you can confide in and talk to. When my mother and I started butting heads, I always went outside and called my aunt and complained to her and then I'd feel better and could deal with things more rationally and my mother always knew who I was calling and that I was talking about her, but she would wait her turn and call my aunt afterward and then vent about me! And after that we'd usually be ok for a while.
And try not to worry about hurting your mom's feelings. Try to approach her level-mindedly and not when you're angry so you won't say things you might regret.
Besides, when you move out you might realize just how much you miss your mom! I always thought my mother was overbearing and a pain and we argued just about every day, but now that I live 850 miles away from her I miss her terribly and we talk every day on the phone!
@mapuang (612)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
thanks for the advise, i try to talk to her but after a week its go back again. i dont know what am i going to do. maybe your correct if i move out i will miss her so much. i hope someday she will tell me that "your free now do whatever you want to do in your life"...
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
They say that parents knows what's best for the children.
They always have your best interest at heart. But they are not
always right. In your case you must talk with your mother about
your feelings towards her. The truth will set you free. AS for my mother
she doesn't control my life.
@selvalathamylsamy (14)
• India
15 Jun 09
my point is, mom is the only person in this world who encourages yo,protects yo,cares yo so much,only heart which always thinks abt ur success. so yo jus think tha wha ever she does is only for ur favour. so my advice is,pls don come away from her.better yo can make her to realise abt ur freedom, make her to think in ur position.. but pls don come away from her.
