How do you handle criticisms or corrections?how do you react?

Criticisms is good if it is done or said in a nice way. I can handle criticism as long that it can help me and help correct my ways. I'm not a perfect person I have so many flaws and I'm counting to those people around me to point it for me. I just want them to be polite in doing so or else I will bite them. lol.

Proud people don't like being corrected. Open ones don't mind. Insecurities and judgment and preferences have everything to do with it, I guess. Personally, I say thank you when I'm corrected and I think the correction's right. What gets to me is when I'm in a conversation where all the people are trying to upstage each other, it's so annoying. When you say something, people get too defensive, when you're not even getting at anything. When it comes to that, I keep quiet or just leave.

The fist tendency is to react like one's ego is hurt. This is natural. But then it benefits to pay attention to the criticism levelled at us, so that in case it throws up a very basic defect in us, which we ourselves are trying to bury, then someone else mirroring it for us is really helping us face ourselves. The thankfulness, could be higher if the benefits of winning over the weakness in us had helped us in a great way, later in life. Thus the best way to face or harmonize with criticism, even if it is stated by our critics in a hurting manner, is to concentrate on the benefits of correction rather than on the person who levelled it against us or the manner (unsavoury) in which he/she has said that.

Yes it all depends on your tone in correcting me, also my mood at the time of correction. Insecurities may be a part of it for some but I know I don't have insecurities. This was happening with my ex for awhile. He would talk almost like to say are you "stupid" or something. That would make me blow up. I have been living without this man for years and now you come into my home and try to correct me in things that I do, all because I don't do it like you. This is part of the reason he is my ex. now.

I am not very good at handling criticism. At all. I am kind of like you - I shut down or get defensive. I do think esteem has something to do with it. My husband will always tell me that I don't have to defend myself, but I always do it anyway. I also hate to be wrong. I will begrudgingly admit when I'm wrong, but not always. I actually don't mind being wrong as much as I mind it being pointed out to me. My husband has worked out a way to criticize without making me feel so bad about myself, which is nice. He will start by saying that it is simply constructive criticism and that in no way did I do something wrong (usually this is about something I cooked for dinner). Then he will suggest ways I might improve the next time I do/cook/say that thing next time. That way, I don't feel like I am a total screwup and I can actually move forward and correct myself and improve. So, in a way, I see what you are saying about not minding being corrected, as long as it is done in an appropriate way.

Yes, it depends on how you are criticized. I someone criticizes me in a nice and peaceful way, then I consider it constructive criticism and I really make an effort to change. I can handle constructive criticisms nicely. But if someone criticizes me in a shouting, loud, and obnoxious manner, I get defensive and mad too. Sometimes, I even purposely not change for the better just to annoy that person because he/she was very rude to me. Yes, I do think that insecurities, pride, and low self-esteem affects the way we react to criticisms. Pride most especially because of course we don't want to let others know we made a mistake.

well, for me I dont like someone to correct me. I know myself better than anyone else, and also I teach myself well enough to do thing around. especially, if my love one correct me(husband), my words will jump out for sure. To tell the truth, each one of us have different self esteems and you can't correct them if you are already old enough to teach someone else. I mean, if you are old over 20 years old and ask someone else to correct you, would you change? I dont think so cuz you are old enough to think what do or what not to do. The only person that can correct you, IS YOURSELF. if you want to change yourself then you have to start learning something that you want and interest to change. I am not saying I dont like to change but my husband is not good enough to correct me yet. His mind is still too young to think about something that is important. He is a good person but about family or deal with someone else then forget about it. I am the only one that do the rest of thinking. I think for him and think for others. you shouldn't feel bad, he just like to pick on you... and if he wants to correct you then he should not tell how or who you are at all. He has to show you what will be done, without show all the real person to you and that doesn't make any different to you at all, right? if you dont like to deal what you are in now... take some times to change and learn a bit at a time... nothing is bad and nothing is too late. he is not good enough than you.

I found some criticism is good if it dosent make you feel like a child and that doesnt have anything to do with your self esteem,if the corrections is actually going to help use it.it cant hurt. but if its just a person just criticize to make you feel bad then it just a lot of noise.

hi ezekiel71 well if it were my husband who felt he had to'corrct me like a little child, I would demand an apology;one does not correct adults, only children. as an adult I demand the same respect I would give my husband, I would not correct him at all, nor should he do that to me. we already had been raised by our parents, neither of us would need second daddies and mommies to oversee us and correct us. So ifyour husband thinks he must correct you then he thinks he is not your hubby so much as your daddy and must teach you. tell him you are an adult, you do not need correcting.Criticism is one thing but correcting is wrong, wrong, wrong. I feel the day that a spouse thinks he or she has to correct me is the day I file for divorce. okay to criticize ones ideas but not to correct. I am not insecure, I do not need a second daddy, and my self esteem is just fine.

Criticism are naturals but it carries a great deal of effect. If you will get affected with it you will become weak and you will be prone to attack by others. In my experience, I handle criticism with a laugh! I just don't mind their criticism because I know what are my views and what my principles. I don't care about what other people say because they are not the ones that feed me!

Suggestions, advices are good and i always get that from my husband. I also get praises, kisses and hugs when i do good. So i am so sure that my husband just want the best thing for me and not telling me off when i do things. Its like we do this to help each other. He dont mind me giving suggestions too but we always know we are both smart to do things in our own decision. We just respect each other views and principles in life. We call it team work when we need each other to solve a problem. Happy mylotting and smile always!

I was quite a lot in a same thought with your husband ezekiel71. Sometimes a person will react as the same he said if a person couldn't handle some criticisms or corrections. Its true i guess, that the insecure feelings will spread in our mind and body. But i think that's only happens when a person are not properly ready to have criticisms or corrections. I'm saying that because i ever feel like that too.

The manner in how you say things means a lot of difference. You can say "YES" in different ways that would mean differently. Criticism is pointing out a flaw in you. That alone sometimes is very repulsive to me. But then, if someone would tell me in a nice tone or correct me in a nice tone, I would definitely see the positive side of it. From my end, I would contemplate on my mistake and see a better way to correct that mistake. If it were said to me in a way that is insulting, then that would make me feel incorrigible. You can say that a criticism is constructive if it would be told in a way that would help you to be a better person.

I think that this kind of reaction it's more related whit pride. I know a lot of people that reacts in this same way. I, personally, have already got used to it, but some people can't, and this can generate some bad discussions and things like that. In my opinion, your husband was right when he said that you should accept the corrections just as a way to improve yourself. Errors can be good when you can absorb the learning of it.;););)

Sometimes - as with my husband - it isn't what he says....it's how he says it. The quickest way to start a fight is to speak to someone like they are a little child and you are better than they are. That attitude has caused many fights between my husband and I. I finally had to explain to him that he can say what he needs to say without being condescending. He's working on it. WHen he ascts like an jerk, I tend to treat him like one. I don't think that's me being insecure. It's just me standing up for myself. Someone has to.

Hey, Well I actually don't really mind if someone criticizes me or tries to correct me. I actually am quite open to see what the other person has to say about me or what they have to say by correcting me, but I'm not sure if everyone is like this way. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!

Ezekiel, constructive criticisms are all right. You take the good points and willfully try to make your person or your project better. But if criticisms come from a husband and says you are insecure for not accepting the criticism, perhaps it is better to go for counseling. A spouse must always say something positive for the betterment of the partner. If the spouse accuses you of having insecurities, that is a form of mental abuse. I wish you luck.

I 'm always often for criticism and correction. I those word where I learn my mistake. When no one criticize and corrected me. How can I know and correct my mistake. I'm am not a perfect so other have criticize and correct me.

I prefer to be corrected especially if it comes from my husband because I know that he only wants the best from me. And that he wants me to be a better person. It is natural for a person to react on it negatively at first. Like me, I do react negatively sometimes. Who wouldn't feel hurt in a way, right? But at the end of the day, I actually appreciate it as I shows that the person who corrected me really loves me.