single for a really long time!
By enciel
@enciel (368)
Philippines
June 12, 2009 4:50am CST
hi i have been single for 24 years with no experience or whatsoever in dating or anything. there have been guys who wanted to ask me out but either they gave up easily or i just don't have the same feelings for them. i am a conservative person if that adds up T_T too i am nearing my mid 20's and i think it has been an oddity to most of my friends and co-workers for me to not be able to experience even having a boyfriend. they say i am too choosy but i really am not i guess it's because those who ask me out are people i am not attracted too or guys i don't feel a spark:( and now nothings happening. i am beginning to be scared of what will happen to me. i am still waiting for that certain someone to come but is there hope for me or am i a hopeless case? has anyone ever experienced this? T_T
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5 responses
@kryzell (921)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Dating is not a contest. Not because everybody else is doing it, means you have to be in it too. Besides, I don't agree of dating just for the heck of it, even if you know that you are not comfortable around each other, or there's no spark.
I am also single at the moment. Mind you, for my past relationships, I have always been choosy too. And even if I was, and I thought I was wise enough in choosing, I always end up hurt... How much more if I jumped to a relationship that I didn't think would work right from the start? I might've hurt myself more.
With this, I advise you not to be in a hurry. Take it easy and enjoy...besides, the greatest gifts are those who comes unexpectedly...
@enciel (368)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
yes i know i am not competing for dating i just want to find the one. I could care less if i dated just a single guy for my whole life but found the one i'll spend the rest of my life with T_T anyway i am usually not in a hurry, what use is it to be in a hurry if there's no one to feel the hurry with. I believe what you said though that the greatest gifts are those who comes unexpectedly! I have been waiting for a long time in everything in life :( I hope it does come to both of us too!
@kryzell (921)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
You know what, everytime I respond to discussions related to this, and the one who I responded to, give back a wish (the same wish you did)... it means a lot already. I am just crossing my fingers, that with all the wait I've had, and all the pains I've been through, I just wish the one coming is worth it all. I sincerely wish the same thing for you. And I'm hoping that the one coming for you...is simply the one you'll spend the rest of your life with. And hey, there's no such thing as trial and error in any relationship... Don't keep trying, just accept the best one coming :-)
@1awesomesenex (25)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Jun 09
Hello, Enciel(160), How are you? Cheer up! Maybe the guys who come around are
not on the same wavelength. Maybe,you are listening to a different drummer.
There is soooo much that is shallow and hollow that people exhibit nowadays....
Continue pursuing your interests as far as you can,for in the final analysis,if you
are not happy with yourself and doing the things you like, you can hardly be happy
spending time with someone else(it will take total sacrifice to see him enjoy his),
and I don't think that's what you want to do.You are still YOUNG.Don't worry.
The old saying "good things always come to those who wait" is still valid, I guess.
1 awesomesenex.
@enciel (368)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
hi awesomenex thanks! some people do say that i am still young but sometimes it scares me too to know that i am not that young. i guess i haven't found the guy that is near my wavelength haha but boy is he that hard to find!
you are right though i should probably try to enjoy stuff by myself until i find him (which i hope is soon)!
@wardiane (18)
• United States
13 Jun 09
"hi i have been single for 24 years" "i am nearing my mid 20's" This is two quotes from your statement above. Which is true,?........I am confused...... No wonder you are single and alone. If you wait for mr. right, you will be ,WOW.....old and grey. No hope for you,go have lots of loving till you get the right person...and fast you ar almost ..what mid 20s??.
@my_name_is_coco (4333)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
I've been single for 2 years already.I have no complaints.I love my singlehood.you are free to do whatever you want,without any complaints from a partner.no need to hurry in finding a partner.instead,go out and make male friends.you never know,someday you might end up having a relationship that started out as friends.
@enciel (368)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
hi, yes i know what you mean i am currently enjoying my freedom being single since that is what i am forced to do with anyway lol, i do have some male friends but i guess it is hard for me to make friends especially with guys i am sort of the shy type, i think i have improved being friendly with guys though but anyway i guess i'll have to work on it better :D
@jipohao2009 (7)
• China
14 Jun 09
I have single for 3 years. I think somebody is serious to feeling. You konw that love is nothing, it just let two person go together.Of course, you don't know that does that persont match you, but,if you don't try, you won't know forever. I think it is exciting when you fall in love with somebody.
