My Boyfriend is Obsessed...

How old is your boyfriend? Has he always done this? Is it taking up a serious amount of time? If it's something you can tolerate, then give in and let him look at the things he likes. When there's money involved, let him know that you have to spend it on the really important stuff, and buy those toys for his birthday, or holidays.

Have you made investigation in his boyhood? It seems that he has not reached satisfaction on his boyhood stage and he had not played toys of today's trend. Going back to boyhood desires means he is filling-in the missing part of his growth.

Well I guess just let him know how you feel about that. but never force him to stop since it may just hurt him. For me, I think the approach should be done subtly and should not be stopped immediately. Just tell him your sentiments and agree on something that is both acceptable to both of you. You should never try to change you BF abruptly because that is what he is and you should respect that and same goes with him he should also accept you from who you are and accept that you don't like his attitude of being obsessed with toys. But somewhere there you two should meet halfway to agree to something.

well, each one will act differently and will addict to something that you might not think it should be. My husband love playing video game so much and loved to buy video game for PS3. and you know it costs a lot and he will not just play one game right? Now, he learned and he doesn't do that much often now cuz I cut off his expensive and told him not to buy anymore dvd for PS3. he could rent it but not buy it. And another thing, he loves soccer, and most of the time he will buy a new soccer shoes. So, one day I pull those shoes out for sale and he was like, why I have so much soccer shoes? I told him, these are yours and I will sell them out if you keep buying them. It is hard to stop him from this but once in a while, you give him a treat of it... he is guy that love toys and nothing else right? so let him see and feel it but don't buy it, or pick up some good reason for him to think not to buy it. good luck

No offense pero parang bata pa yung boyfriend mo. Women these days don't want to have a boyfriend to be a kid, immature, but one who is man enough to be mature and set aside things that are childish. You should step up your game and tell him off that there's no point having so much time to buy toys. For what purpose? If it is for collector's items that he displays in his room that I can understand, but if he being like our age in the late 20's still plays with them then that's something wrong to tell you the truth. Time for your boyfriend to grow up. I'm just being blunt about it. No hurt feelings.

It seems as though he is "window shopping" for toys because you said you don't have the money to buy them and it reads like he respects that and does not spend all of the money on toys for himself. If that is what is happening then I don't see the harm in it. I wouldn't personally enjoy going into toy stores all of the time with him but then again he might not enjoy dress or cosmetics shopping with me either! If it were I, and he were Not buying the toys when you are in the mall, then I think I would tell him: "Why don't you go and enjoy looking at the toys for a while and I will go to the "dress shop" and we'll meet back here in a few minutes"? That way you don't have to "window shop" for toys with him and he doesn't have to "dress shop" with you!

Everybody has different hobbies and interests, I think that it would be very demeaning of you to stop something that he clearly enjoys thoroughly. I am sure there are a few things about you that he does not necessarily enjoy having to put up with. But relationships are about compromise, as long as he does not spend all of your savings then you really have nothing to complain about.

In my opinion this is more of a guy thing. When it comes to male type toys they can never get enough. It is the same when they have an obsession over cars or anything really. As long as it isn't hurting anyone then i wouldnt worry about it too much. And he isn't spending all your money on these things so I would just leave it alone.

Well, I am over 40 and I still buy Barbie dolls as I collect them. My husband doesn't really care that I do it, but I am sure that he doesn't want to go look at them as much as we do. However, he can wander around to the other parts of the store if he wants. He likes to go to the farm auction here and I don't like it but I will go at times to be with him,because we accept the fact that we each have things that interest us but not the other one of us. However, that is part of what makes me love him . We can't all be alike, then we would be boring! Accept the fact that he likes those kinds of things and that he might collect them some day and try to take a little interest in them or go to a different store while he looks at the toys.

Every guy has a hobby or passion. For some guys it's cars, for some it's sports, for some it's toys. I think you should just be patient with him. It's not a dangerous hobby. You have your own hobbies too.

Your boyfriend is like a child. He doesn't outgrown yet his likes for toys. Hold on there...because you love him there's nothing you can do about it.

well if he doesn't really buy all those stuff then they are okay. Splurging is bad always. So if he spend all your savings then you have a problem

sexyposh if you really love your boyfriend sooooooooooooo much, then all you have to do is support him in all his interests. Collecting things is a hubby and is a good hubby, there is a benefits in collecting chosen stuffs which a relationship cannot give. Just support him and continue to love him.

My boyfriend is obsessed with video games . Work was really slow for him last month ( but luckily he gets paid for 40 hours a week if he works or not ) and there was so much that he could be doing that was productive instead he was playing video games ... the whole time ...i was so frustrated . He is a great guy and I kniow i cant change him so I guess I will have to gt used to it :)

This is where you have to decide whether or not you can live with him just as he is. You can't force someone to change and the changes have to be something the person really, really wants. I mean, you might convince him to change for you but that usually wears off after a while.Maybe rather than try to convince him that he doesn't like toys....maybe it would be better if you both work out your finances together. Work out something where you both have a set amount of personal spending money. Make a rule that the savings account and the bill money are not to be touched by either of you without discussing it first and both agreeing. If he wants to spend his spending $ on toys...that would be his choice but the other $ is off limits. Good luck

What's wrong with that? If you love him,then accept him --all of him. It seems that you have the problem and only because you dont have the same interest. That makes him happy--so go with it. I'm 39, and will always be a toys R us kid. My all time favorite is spongebob-I collect everything I find--because he makes me smile. That doesn't mean I'm not capable of being a responsible adult. How can a person control what sparks his interest? So should we go collect stamps because a stamp collector said it's what we should like? Open your mind and don't be so selfish.

Ok men will be boys... Toys are his hobby or thing he like I sure you have somthing that you are also obsessed with too. I think that you should stop being so against it. I mean think of it this way he could still be spending all his money on the toys and you couldhave a financial issue but he had boundaries so let him enjoy window shopping.