So... you got into a fight..

I guess it depends what the fight was about and who's fault it was. If it was no one persons fault and they called me first I probably would just let it go and not try to bring it all back up again just to say sorry. If it was my fault and I was sorry I probably would bring it up briefly so that I could say I was sorry. If it was their fault I would bring it up again if I expected them to apologize to me. I have a friend who right after highschool we had issues. i married the guy she had a crush on in highschool and it drove a wedge between us slowly. Then when we moved out of state she told me to have a nice life. Long story short I was mad she blew me off and being a teenager I wrote a mean nasty note to her. I regretted it as soon as I did it. She wouldn't have anything to do with me after that. I wrote a letter to apologize and she never mentioned it. I see her every once in awhile because she works with my best friend so she goes out to the bar with all the girls from work. We just don't talk to each other. I've been tempted to say something, but I'm not sure where to start. I don't feel I should have to keep apologizing for something I did 10 years ago.

If you have actually forgot about it....and moved on then just keep going...don't rehash....don't mention it unless its mentioned to you...or if some sort of indication or litte thing is mentioned about it. I would just act like nothing happened as I wouldn't want to think I wasn't over it.

I have had a falling out with a person. I haven't spoken to her since. But she insulted my hubby. So I have moved on, without her. Her 'relationship' decisions and her difficulties are no longer my problem or concern. I don't think I could speak with her without getting steamed about what she said. Maybe it is short sighted of me but my hubby and kids are not to be insulted. To me that is unforgivable.

I dont know, I guess it depends all on what the fight was about if it was really serious then it could be hard to get past it. If it was a something or nothing fight then it might be awkward but possible to get past it all.

maybe just go with the flow...its not that bad if we try to swallow our pride sometimes and be the first one to make the move..if it bring good results then why not..every ones deserves forgiveness and everyone must know how to forgive..world peace ..:)

we are friends and we still friends so what happend went in its time,and by thinking after fight if am wrong i'll appologize and if he is wrong i'll forgive him/her but i'll say that he/she is wrong in deplomatic ways without hurting feelings again. Thats what friend for.

I always have fights with my other siblings. The kind of fights that just taken or derived from small things. They are really not serious and it's me who always apologize because most of the time I'm the one who is always at fault.lol.

In matters like this, I say that your conscience and the depth of the friendship play a large role. Do you feel you need to apologize? Then do so, but without rehashing the whole fight. If you feel you are owed an apology, are you willing to let it go if the apology doesn't come and continue the friendship anyway? Do what you feel is right : ) Karen

Honestly it would depend on the person and the amount of emotion that surrounded the fight. Granted people say that time heals all wounds, but there are some cases that those wounds are the same or even worst.. But if you really want the person to understand that you want to apologize for something that was said or something that you did... Then just apologize without bring up the reason.. If the other person decides to bring the subject to the for-front then just take it by ear.. I am guess you are not trying to rehash these old feelings, it sounds like you are wanting closure.

I usually approach the person and apologize. By that time I see no reason to not just let your guard down and admit you did some wrong things without mentioning that they did something wrong for them. Sometimes I think when people try to make things better after awhile they bring back old stuff you kind of "point the finger again" just to feel better. I've seen it done many times in my life. So I've learn to simply apologize and admit my wrongs without mentions any action of their part. By doing so, I can feel better admitting my faults and carrying on with my life. Also my day if it may be able to get resolves right then and there. I hope if your going through some arguments it can get resolve well.