rude people
By Jo Hill
@Carpathian (582)
United States
June 12, 2009 5:00pm CST
Hi, I know some of you have meet someone who is just rude. What do you do when you meet someone like that? I have a woman that I am working for and she is just rude! If she wants me to stay late at the job then she will not sign my time card. If she wants me to do something that is not my job and I tell her I can't it is against the rule's then she will make me do other things twice. She calls me all the time on my cell phone to tell me things that can wait until I get to work. She wants me to work on my days off. She is a real pain to work for. But, the company will not give me anyone else to work for right now. So, I am sort of stuck with her. I invited her to my wedding awhile ago. Now, she is inviting her neighbor's too. So, much for RSVP. So, How do you handle someone who walks all over you or take advantage of you and your time? Anyone, think they can help me out there? Let me know your worst rude person!
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17 responses
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
12 Jun 09
It sounds like she is thinking of you more like a friend. Don't answer your cell phone or better yet, turn it off. I think she is trying to take advantage of you at work, so keep saying no. Eventually she'll get the message. Congrats on your wedding and it's good you invited her or she would have probably called you during the ceremony. LOL
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
14 Jun 09
Sorry Cuz, but you need to put your foot down. Report her behavior to the company, let them know your not going to work with her anymore and let them deal with it. She is abusing you, your job and the companies policies. Until you stand up for yourself, she'll keep doing it. Only you can stop it...
Personally, I wouldn't have put up with it this long. I also wouldn't have put up with her inviting her neighbor's...but that's just me. Do what you got to do.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
13 Jun 09
If she is your boss right now, there is little you can do except quit. However, that I believe is not an option so I think you should just trudge along, expecting little immediate reprieve. Grab the next available opportunity at getting your department changed.
Regarding myself, I have the most foul mouthed boss you can ever imagine. Nothing I do seems to please him yet he knows that I am a regular and sincere worker, in fact that is what has kept my job till now. I avoid unnecessary interactions with him as much as possible and just do my job. At least that way, he gets less opportunity to walk over me. When I have to stay late, I just have to so I accept it, though I must say the days are few.
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
hello carpahin
why the hell you are waiting , if I were in your place I would have left the job a long time ago !!
I usually treat people in the best way I can , but if they appeared to be rude I will make sure to treat them as rude as they are and let them feel how others feel when they do that .
have a good time
@PEETRE (59)
• United States
13 Jun 09
There really is no reason for people to act that way towards anyone. I think when people act that way it is a power thing and I think they have very little self esteem. I guess the only way to deal with it is to stand up for yourself and put your foot down. You need to let her know she cant walk all over you and I bet the first time you stand up to her she will back right down as she will see she doesn't have that much power over you. Good luck...
@ahmeertahmad (46)
• United States
13 Jun 09
I have found that life is full of so many problems that I don't have time for people that make problems for themselves. When you show a rude person that their actions don't affect you it enrages them. You're essentially showing them that you don't care about them and most rude people feel that they're the center of the universe. Take the high road and feel the twisted satisfaction of knowing you're setting the other person over the edge without doing a thing against them.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
It is a common experience to everyone that we meet rude people - school, workplace, or everywhere. Even here at Mylot. I had a past discussion about the same topic, i guess once or twice.
One was about a former schoolmate who is truly and unceasingly rude to everyone. She only know you when she needs you. Same with your topic, I had a former coworker who is super rude and selfish. We have different responsibilities, but she loves to pass on her responsibilities to me. Of course, I have to decline.
No so much abou those rude people. Handling thm is quite a tough job to us because our patience is tested. What I did is ignore them and do what I think is right. Ignoring them is one way and praying for them is another.
@anetteh (3590)
• Sweden
13 Jun 09
Hi and god morning Carpathian. Sounds you have got some pain on your hands. Really hard to handle I gather. Have you tried to talk to this person, telling her how you feel about this way she is treating you? I probably would do so. Well, I have rude co - worker that are very rude to many of us at my working place. But I am not silence and I let her know how I feel about her being rude and spreading bad feelings around her. Our working place is a place for elderly and we work as asistence nurses both of us, and therefore we can not be rude to one another there.
I can imagine that Your rude person
is a person you do not really talk these things about. But I think that it is time for you to set down your foot and tell her of.
is a person you do not really talk these things about. But I think that it is time for you to set down your foot and tell her of. @glesil_00 (1142)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
Much better to avoid rude people if it is possible. If you can not then give sometime to make them realize what they are doing is not good. Wait for the good timing that you will say or do something that they will be awake of what they are doing. Do not keep under their word if they are not your superior. If they are, complain. If you are afraid you will loose your work, it is much better to loose that than you will continue to suffer from them.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
I know I'm not the nicest person ever.
I can be rude depending on the other's person
treatment on me. If he treat me right I'll do the
same. But if he is rude then I will make his life
a miserable one...just kidding.
@nitu1952 (286)
• India
13 Jun 09
A WORLD WHERE various types of people exist.someone has such a behaviour which one does not really like. some also has a atitude peroblem.people usually have the habitn to put intereference in someone's normal flow of activities. this is really very bad habits of indians which results into angerness for a long time.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
I will be flexible for them and be true to them.
We have different behaviour to adjust so we just
understand his attitude . But if too much we can
suggest if he listen to it. Might be positive
ideas for him to ponder it. Friendly talks about
what he says.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
I am sorry that you are in that situation. It seems that the person you are referring to is your boss. Maybe , this person is your boss and you are his subordinate. But you still deserve some kind of respect like all of us humans deserve. It is very uncalled for that he tags along some friends (that are not invited) to your wedding. That is totally rude.
@MsAshley (39)
• United States
13 Jun 09
This saying right now has never let me dow, Kill them with kindness. After you show here that you are just trying to do your job and you aren't paying her no attention then eventually she will figure out that shes the one with the problem and then she'll change her whole attitude.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
12 Jun 09
If this happen at work, then I will quit. I can't deal with a person like that at all, especially when they use you without noted or take advantage on you. I used to work for chinese people before and they were like @@@ ... my manager always put me late and always let me clean up for 15mins and never pay for that time at all. I got a break only 10mins and other got like 20-30 min. I was in school that time and tried to stay in a job and save money but everyday seem to be so bad, so I decide to quit.
Another thing, you can talk to your other boss if you have one... but if just her then you should look for different job now and then once you get it, quit!!!
No clue or No advice how to deal with type of people, but if you are in the US then there is a number that you can call to report about employer. Good luck.
@darkangel079 (1498)
• United States
12 Jun 09
That is one thing I don't like meeting up with is rude people. I've met people like that before being arrogant or giving ironic answers back. I can't recall my last rude person because it has been a while. But what I do know though is back in the Philippines I did come across a rude person who I never knew and wanted to pick a fight out of nowhere. To make it short, I had the guy on the ground in a submissive move and he apologized for his stupidity. Honestly, for people that want to be rude to others sometimes need a good kick in the butt to calm them down and for them to think twice again.
@sdboy619 (83)
• United States
12 Jun 09
Yeah rude people suck! I came through some of them. I remember in the gas station pumping gas and some young kid was trying to sale me candy and I said no thank you and he gave me a dirty look. He then called me a cheap punk and I called him out on it. He tried to play it off and just ran off like a scared trick.
