How do you cope?

So he left just like that?!?! This is the man you married?!?!? Well he's not a man - more like a boy. He made a commitment and now just because he "doesn't want it anymore" - wow, what an @$$hole! No other words can describe him. You know what, good riddance! Tell him to stay out. Make sure you have full custody of your kids -that way they don't grow up thinking that a "man" can just leave his wife after he made a commitment to her just because "he doesn't want it" anymore. You also need to let your friends and family know what's going on - you need all the support you can get. You MUST put one foot in front of the other - your kids need you to be the strong woman that you are! Good luck and God bless.

It is always hard when one is caught off-guard. I would just try to cope and move on. Of course, your husband would still have to pay child support which can be a breather for a single parent if he does take that responsibility.

What didn't go right when you were together? Forgive me that seems to be a right question to ask in this circumstance. Humanly speaking many will just blame your husband (he is still your husband under the law) without pausing to find out his own side of the story. Unfortunately, we may never be able to do this but we can ask you. That's what I did at the beginning of this comment. I feel you should first take out some time to ponder on the relationship you had with you husband when you were together. Can you decipher why he decided to leave? How close were you? Were you compatible or you tend to disagree more than agree? Before you file for divorce try to work out a win-win option that may be able to save your marriage if you still love him. I feel you still love him but the shock of his sudden departure may make you take a decision that may not be in the best interest of both of you and your young children. Please carefully consider this comment and other comment from other respondents, be calm, believe that you have the capacity to overcome this challenge only if you stay focused and realistic. Be more objective in your assessment of your present predicament and what might have led to it. I believe you'll overcome.

Wow, you poor thing you must be devasted. it is hard enough when someone leaves even if you do not have children. I think you should get yourself a good counselor and go from there. You will also need to get yourself some good legal help. Perhaps the counselor can point you in the right direction. There are also support groups on the web that can probably help you with your direction.

Well I say that you have to find your way and find it fast because you have two small children and you are going to need to have yourself togather for them. It was fun while it lasted now you have to pick up and move on with your life just as he is going to do with his. I think that the best thing to do is keep yourself busy so you won't have so much time on your hands to be thinking about it.

what you do from here is you survie. Use all of your engery to take care of your children. I know it hurt I know you are shock that in a sentece your whole world changes. At night while thebabies are sleep you cry or do what evry you need to but you hold strong for them.