Should he stay or leave?

I think your friend's brother is imposing on her generosity and kind gesture there. It is cool to stay free a day or two, or at most, up to a week. But if being done over time, and often once a few while, then your friend has to be firm, start asking for some financial bills, or just saying that she can't afford certain things and needs her brother's help. Put it in such a way that she needs his help financial wise, instead of asking him directly to pay things that he just shuts his eyes off to. Today, it's just him crashing, but who knows tomorrow, he might bring his girlfriend or something, and saying they will move out once they have the buck. You never know with these things and sometimes siblings take advantage of one another.

This is a simple problem.the best method is kicking him out...

My question would be does it bother your friend or just you? I mean its her brother. My brother always has an open door to my house. He can come and go as he pleases. Come and eat what he wants stay as long as he wants and I expect nothing from him. Why because I know that I have the same open door at his house. Its family and when its that close of family we all tend to turn the other cheek. I guess it all depends on the relationship she has with her brother. I mean if she dont like it then she can change it. Chances are she really dont mind her brother being there. Its kind of relaxing to be around ones sibilings. At least it is for me.

Isn't that one of the good things about a family? That you have someone to turn to in times of trouble? I am not sure what really the score is with your friends brother nor do I have an idea with the current state of your friends finances. But personally, I see no reason why she should not help her brother if her brother is in trouble. But, if her brother does not have money because he doesn't want to take a job, then that's another story. She should talk with him to iron things out. So she could explain as well what he really feels about.

Hi!! do think he should be helping her out. If he is visiting her place too often then he should be helping her as much as he can because some day or the other she might get fed up of this. So he should be told about this because as long as you wont let him know he wont be changing his behaviour, Let him know about this.

Yes he should definitely go go go......

I'm assuming that she has complained to you about this. What she needs to do is complain to him instead. I know that working part time only, he is probably having troubles financially and probably has bills to pay. I am guessing that he has almost no money or maybe none to spare. I know if it were my brother, I would help him out for a while...or i'd try to. Still, I work full time and with the economy as it is, I struggle to keep me and my daughter afloat. It would be difficult to support another adult for long, I'm sure. She is in a very tough spot....family is family and we usually help each other as much as we possibly can. Hopefully he will get a full time job soon and help her out....maybe even reimburse her a bit for the time he spent there.

People will take advantage of you for as long as you let them. Your friend needs to have a serious talk with her brother because he's having an impact on her finances by staying there as often as he is. She should let him know that she's not running a motel or a soup kitchen and, if he's going to be staying there and eating her food on a regular basis, he needs to help with the additional expenses he's causing. Even if he is her brother, he should be responsible for contributing something.

Sounds like your friends brother is a moocher and needs to kicked out! Your friend shouldn't be putting up with that crap! No one should be! If he says he has a job your friend should ask him to help out,with some money,when he is at her place! If he refuses or is lying he should be thrown ouT Then to make should he can't get in without her knowing,she should change the locks on the doors! This brother needs to grow up and start taking responsablities for himself!

Your friend should kick him out if he really that lazy. Or why not sit down peacefully talk to him. Like you said, after all, that is her brother. She might consider helping him out, or he might have some financial difficulty. They can talk it out like brother and sister. A family should help each other out. If he really looking to get a real job, give him sometime to prove that he is not that kind of person, or a parasite.

The one that can decide it is her sister. If her sister complain about that then she should tell her brother to share something for the needs in daily living not only ate there and no giving of some comtributions that make her sister happy. If he thinks for it , he should conmtribute anything to make less finances in her sister.

I think she should have a talk with him and let him know that she wants him to help with the bills. If he is not willing to help, she should tell him he isn't her responsibility and ask him to move out. It could get to the point to where he thinks it is ok to take advantage of her....and it will only get worse!