Do You Know Me?
By worldwise1
@worldwise1 (14885)
United States
June 13, 2009 2:23pm CST
When you respond to one of my discussions do you take the time to check out my profile page and try to learn something about me? I often do this when responding to a discussion posted by someone who I am not familiar with. I believe that it is helpful to prevent us from forming snap judgments about the poster if we do a bit of research into just who they are. Some profiles are more enlightening than others, but I tend to avoid those who don't wish to divulge their gender or age because that information can be very helpful. What are your feelings on this? Are these bits of information useful to you or would you rather not even know?
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
13 Jun 09
Ok wrong Discussion I have blond moments but I am sure I went to reply about the Firefox so I shall now move my Response to that one (sigh) I am so sorry Sweetie
Ok response to here I very rarely respond to to any that do not come to my Email Box as I will only respond to Friends but if I do then yes I sometimes check their Profile but not all the time
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
You are not alone, gabs.Sometimes the mix-ups that I experience keep me laughing for days.
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
14 Jun 09
Worldwise I know you now. When I first joined myLot, I had to check profiles all the time. Now that I have been here for almost 3 years, I have talked to all of you regulars so much that I dont have to. I have talked more to some of you than I do to my family. I know some of you better than I know my own friends. I hope it will always be this way. dl
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
Being in possession of an excellent long-term memory, dloveli, I can remember when you first came to myLot!I am happy to count you among my friends whose profiles I don't need to study.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
I think you have the wrong discussion, gabs, but I'm happy that you tried the add-on.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
13 Jun 09
I never look at profiles. To choose a friend I choose by the posts you write. If I can respond to many of them , then I add you to my list. If not, I don't. I really don't care about age or gender , it is the point of view that is important.I respond to post where I am very passioniate about or I can help. It really doesn't matter about the poster'd profile.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
14 Jun 09
I've had that happen to me before.It was the avatar, she was using her favorite star and I didn't know until I read a post and was confused and checked her profile.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
I only mention age and gender, sarah, because it can be helpful to know when you are interacting with members. I remember some time ago when I had mistakenly assumed that a friend was a man. It only came to light during a discussion where we were asked to describe what we thought some of our myLot friends might look like. Boy, was my face red!
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@georginaswift86 (111)
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13 Jun 09
I think it is great that you do this and I have to admit that occasionally, i have made snap judgement calls when people post certain things.
However, I mainly come on this site to voice my opinions on different matters as I rarely get the chance to talk about such a wide range of topics in my day to day life. I have many social encounters but certain discussion genres seem to be discussed more than others. That is why I like it here, it is versatile and to me, who somebody is does not change my view on things. Maybe their arguements will...
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
Yes, georginaswift, myLot is a great place to voice your opinions, rant, socialize with others.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
14 Jun 09
Hi worldwise, Honestly I never check out. I just go ahead and post a response when I find a topic interesting like i have done now. i did not go to your profile page and look you up, but am planning to do so now LOL . I personally am not too bothered about any of the details about the members except the topic at hand, but, once a member becomes a friend then I try to get more details through his/her profile..
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
Sometimes, kiran, I will receive a response that makes me think, "Now, I really need to learn more about this person!"The response could either be outlandish, inflammatory, or something especially nice.
@bobby_12620 (1099)
• India
14 Jun 09
Ya i rather do it offently when ever i submit a respone to a disscussion who has a meaning ful topic and which i am intresed in
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
I don't need to check out the profiles of my friends, stephcjh, because I have gotten to know most of them pretty well, but I do like to check out the profiles of new members who cross my radar.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
14 Jun 09
I normally don't check the profile of a person who response to my discussions unless he puts some views that trigger my curiosity. The only time that I check profiles is when there is a request for friends. I wish to know who they are and scrutinize their activities in mylot. You seems to be a senior member here based on the numbers besides your name but it seems that we have never crossed path before.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
I suppose there are tons of members whose paths I have not crossed, zandi, but they usually don't easily forget me.Dare I say that I am very outspoken on most issues?
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
I usually don't check a person's profile before answering his or her discussion. It's just so time-consuming. This may seem like a bad thing, but I believe that I could already get to know a person based on what's written in his or her post.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
Maybe it's a personal flaw, angelajoy, but, for some reason, I like to know if I am interacting with a man or a woman, and I can usually guess fairly well the age range they fall in.
@aikhong (661)
• Malaysia
14 Jun 09
Hi...i usually do not check the profile of the person who start the discussion when i respond to the discussion topics. There're so many of the members here and there are so many topics to reply to each day. So if i have to check out all the profiles of the posters here, then i think it will take me quite some time. However, i do look at some of the posters profile once in a while. These are when i found the topics are quite interesting and it lets me have the interest to know more about the person. Besides, sometimes i also will look at the person's profile if i feel that the person is interesting (reflected from his or her reply), and get to know more about that person.
The information get from looking at others' profiles does not really useful for me. It will be just a little fun to do so.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
The only profiles I check out, aikhong, are of the members who I come into direct contact with. It would certainly be a waste of time to check out each and every one.
@djsimonmlb (413)
• United States
14 Jun 09
When I speak or reply to a discussion it all depends on the person's avatar or their responses that make me follow up on them and check out their profile. I'm usually not too interested in that type of stuff because it wastes time but if you seem interesting, I will give it a go. Now that I wonder, I want to know how many people check out my profile. To the view counts! Lol.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
I would find no reason to check out your profile, djsmonmib, unless your discussion leads me to learn more about you, or if you made a friend request to me.
@etomaggie (47)
• China
14 Jun 09
I think it's helpful for us more or less to read someone's profile page before responding to a discussion.But I occasionally to do so.One is because I'm a new comer and I only joint in some of discussion by now.Two is because of the speed of surfing in the Internet is slow,so it will a little long time for me to open a webpage,so I seldom read someone's profile page.But honestly,I had read yours before I responding to this discussion.In fact I'm a girl with great curiosity,so I think I will read the one I will add comments on his discussions in advance in the future,maybe in the coming summer vocation.At that time,I will be stay at home and the speed will be quick than now.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
The profiles come in very handy, etomaggie, when a responder makes certain comments that get your curiosity going.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
On rare occasions do I read the profile of the one who posted. I think what is more important for me is the content of the post and not much on what the profile says. But it doesn't mean that I give less importance to it. I read yours , by the way. Have a nice day.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
The profiles allow you to learn quite a bit about a person, jules, or, in some cases, very little.
@GardenGerty (160708)
• United States
14 Jun 09
I like to know the various things. I sometimes look at a discussion and then I get curious. I like to know when I am guessing right about someone. I think I have looked at your profile from time to time.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
With me, GG, what you see is what you get.I've never been bashful about divulging my age, gender, or likes and dislikes.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
19 Jun 09
I sometimes do this and generally find that there is no age or gender. I feel that someone who has grown up in the same era as me will have more things in common. The generation gaps can alter perceptions in a huge way. If the poster is much younger and from an Eastern country it can put a whole different slant on the way I will look at the discussion. That's just an example of course.
@Qaeyious (2357)
• United States
13 Jun 09
There are two reasons I would check a member's profile:
1) The member is requesting to be a friend. I also started doing this after I was spammed after accepting a friend request. I accept it if s/he made and/or responded to posts that were not exclusively for making money.
2) Less often I would check it out to see what part of the world the poster resides. There have been many occasions I would start responding but then would realize that the circumstances could be different in other countries or continents.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
That is a wise route to take, Q. I really need to go through my friends list and weed out some who don't belong there.
@anandjee (282)
• India
14 Jun 09
no my dear friend, iam looking to the matter only who is creater the subject it is not necessary , for nay topic response my dear friend,
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
But, anandjee, how is it possible to call someone "friend" if you don't take the time to learn something about them?
@Sandra1952 (6047)
• Spain
13 Jun 09
I don't check the profile page before responding to discussions, as there are so many members on Mylot. However, I always check the profiles of friend requests before accepting. I wouldn't become friends with someone who I didn't have anything in common with in the real world, and I certainly wouldn't do it online. Also, the spammers request friends just to bombard them with referral links. If someone has lots of friends but hasn't posted any discussions or made any responses, it usually means they are spammers and best avoided.
Also, if I feel someone is on the same wavelength as me from their responses, I may check the profile and submit a friend request. Interesting topic.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
I have noticed, Sandra, that although some myLotters offer scanty personal information on their profile pages there are many who give you enough to go on so that you can choose wisely.
@mhethess (379)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
Hi worldwise, It is good to be wise even n choosing friends, even here at my lot, good that you have time to look at other's profile and a sort of knowing better the person you are having conversation with but sometimes it takes alot of time and for me I am not too choosy for I do believe that everybody here at my lot are all friendly and if I happen to encounter people who seems not friendly I hope I can help her or him. Thanks. God bless friend.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Jun 09
You sound very smart, mhethess, and I really don't have to do it very often because I tend to interact mostly with those on my friends list. However, there are times when I will just pick random posts by people I know nothing at all about, and this helps me to learn a little something about them.