Would you like to marry a richman?
By luna198
@luna198 (96)
China
June 14, 2009 1:40am CST
Hi,now i have a problem,one of my good friends haven't got a BF,so her parents are very anxious,yestoday she told me that her mother's friend introduced a boy to her,the boy has a very rich family,also the boy is handsome and be good~but my friend is wiorried.Her family is not very rich,and she a strong self-esteem,What an she do? My good mylotters,plese help her~
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12 responses
@GraySpirit (103)
• United States
14 Jun 09
My advice to your friend is to think about what her needs are now and what they will be in the future. Sure, romantic love is important in any relationship. But as a couple grow older and have kids, other things become important in life. Financial issues, career, and life goals all start becoming important as you age.
I would not advise anyone to marry just for love or just for money. I would marry someone that I felt who would be a good partner in life, that I can communicate with, and who is likely to develop along similar ways to me.
If you marry just for love, the worst that can happen is that you find yourself in an unhappy marriage because you can't provide for your family.
If you marry just for money, the worst that can happen is that your spouse takes a different path in life and discovers that you're just extra baggage to lug around.
Find love, but also find someone who will grow with you and create a good life for your family. Money is the central problem in most divorces. So I wouldn't ignore financial stability entirely.
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@GraySpirit (103)
• United States
14 Jun 09
You are welcome. It is good to learn from the mistakes of your elders.
@zzyw87 (1254)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
I would love to marry a rich man. If I marry one, I would not have to work so much anymore and I would be able to focus on my hobbies. But of course, my condition is that he needs to be a loyal, good, honest, and loving husband. It is also imperative that we love each other before I would marry him. If the guy and the guy's family does not care if the girl's family is not that rich, why should the girl worry so much?
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
15 Jun 09
My step-father is a very rich man, and he is also the biggest jerk and the worst person that you can possibly imagine meeting. Men with a lot of money can be the worst people in the world.
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@shikimurei (284)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
If the guy would like her then eventually love her? why not? check if they have chemistry.
@pbrockington (500)
• United States
14 Jun 09
Ok dating should be about attraction. Dating for money... or dating a perosn with money is nice but its not everything. I was told by my grandmother that I was pretty so i would not have to worrie I would one day have a great life with children and a man who would take good care of me. well I look for that man. We together had many nice things but het beat me if he had a bad day at work if he was drunk or any other reason he could find. when I got out of that mess I understood that love is about more then money. Now dating a poor man is hard. But when you have a man whom is all about you. whom loves you, you have a gem.
I belive that men love hard once in a life time they have a first choice and then everyone else is the other option. if you can be a man's first choice. he will love you hard and even if you are poor he will work hard to give you a great life. He will understand that you all can build a great life together.
@Archie0 (5652)
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14 Jun 09
Say I do! But marriage shouldn't be about money. It should be about love! I have the richest man in the world. But his bank account and wallet is empty. He is rich in love. Even though we don't have a pot to pi$$ in, or a window to throw it out, I feel like the richest woman in the world at times, because I married him for all of the right reasons and money wasn't one of them.
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
14 Jun 09
I married for love and and have never been sorry about it. My mother used to make a joke and say "It is better to be a rich man's darling than to be a poor man's fool." She said the same thing about older men versus younger men. We laughed about it, but in the end, love won out.
Marriage is such a personal thing that only the two people involved will know if it is going to work well for them. They must think of their life plus the life of any children they may have. A warm friendship with mutual respect can turn into a long love affair. It is up to the two people involved and if they work at it.
@friendship4lyfe (520)
• Saint Lucia
14 Jun 09
Well if i meet a rich guy and we like each other and i think there is a slight possiblity of love in the future maybe.Love is the strongest thing next to faith,its like a glue.Money cant buy happiness and cant bring enjoyment.The richest man/woman who has no love might be more miserable than the poor man who cant pay his bills.I definitely would trade a rich man for love in a heart beat.Your friend should take her time and get to kniw that guy.
@mgraham126 (156)
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15 Jun 09
When I was younger I used to always say that I want to marry a rich man now I am not so sure financial stability is good thing, she is young maybe she should make her own wealth but take each day as it comes with this boy.
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@inkstainedheart (455)
• United States
19 Jun 09
Assuming we are talking about arranged marriages, I have heard that many people with arranged marriages have become best friends and some even grew to love each other. Will these two get to meet before marriage?
@veedhya (72)
• Mauritius
14 Jun 09
I think that it depends on your friend...if she likes that rich guy it's ok..she can think further of marriage...and if she'll marry him because of his money...I don't think that this is a good idea...
I agree that money matters a lot nowadays but with money we can't buy love and I believe we need love that is the most important for a happy married life...So I suggest that if your friend like that guy, she can go further with that relationship
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