Do you have any online friends that bore you to tears?

I am grateful to those who added me as a friend and those that approved my request for friendship. I hope the few friends that i have here won't delete me from their lists just because i rarely respond to their discussions. There's a lot of topics here to choose from and oftentimes i can only pick a few. I also don't expect my friends to respond to my posts because i know not everybody has the same taste for discussions. I saw some of those posts about deleting a friend because they don't respond and i am saddened by all these. I wonder how they define friendships...does the word "friend" get some other meaning from them?

I think that's common here and to be honest, I wonder what they are really looking for. I do check in with the people I know, but I don't expect them to beat feet to anything I put up in here. That's not what it's about. I don't blame you for wanting to delete a person for that and I think a person that has to send you a message to get more traffic here is here for the wrong reason.

I have not come across such weird kind of friends as the friends I happen to have in my lists are those who are very understanding and believes that if they don't see me in their discussions mean I can't relate well to their topics. My appearance in their discussions is sporadic and the same goes to them. No one expects us to be Jack of all trade that tries to fit in to every discussion just to please our friends by giving a line or two of senseless words. I think more than half of the so called friends in my list are yet to come to my posts. They have been comfortably sitting there without lifting their hands to support my discussions and I have not done any drastic action to delete them. Well, I can say I am a collector of friends without benefits but are only decorative accessories to my profile page. LOL

MMM....Never thought of that.Never faced one like that.In today's busy world...all have their priorities and time for them.i feel bad...but what else can we do? i dont like deleting my friends even though they dont respond sometimes.but it may be different for some others.i dont blame them either.hope u dont have any of them like that.

hello Citychic,don't be sad,i agree with you,which that freedom and individuality is a beautiful thing,just do what you want to do,be happy~

I am new to myLot but I have another online friend that only communicates with me when she wants to talk about her love life. As many of you know the time we have alloted for online work is limited and we try to do as much as we can during that time so I have always tried to keep chats with friends quick and to the point. This girl will email me and say its urgent and once I log into messenger will spend up to 3 hours regaling me with her love life details. I suppose I am a bit of a pushover for letting her do this so long but she goes on about how she has no one else to talk to and how she is feeling so horrible and how I am the only one she can talk to. Probably more like i am the only one who will listen anymore. Lately I have not logged into messenger to avoid her as the last times I noticed that she never bothers to ask me anything about myself. In fact last time I told her how stressed I was that I had been given 30 days notice to move out and when I mentioned it at a later time she didnt even have a clue as to what I was talking about. I guess anything I tell her just gets ignored. So how do you get rid of these people without being rude?

Everyone wants to be your friend but then when they become you friend you don't hear from them anymore.

If I have friends who don't respond to my own discussions, I don't care. Because ultimately, I do get their discussions, and I make money by responding to them. So getting their notifications helps me out by putting a discussion right in front of my face so I don't have to search for quality discussions. I've never got any messages from mylotters complaining I don't respond to their discussions. But I don't rule out getting them in the future.

Lucky me...I have never had that problem. If I did tho...if someone were to start sending me e-mails and whining that I never respond to their discussions then I would stop being such a problem for them. I would delete their friendship immediately....end of problem. I don't have my notifiers on and I respond to discussions that I come across and that grab my attention. It doesn't matter if they are a friend or not when it comes to that. On here, being a friend is not an obligation to respond to every discussion but it does give us access to pm each other if we want.

Hi Citychic! What I define as a 'friend' would never include the whiners, those that (to coin a phrase from Alice which I absolutely adore) throw their rattle out of the pram to get attention Friends, if they are such, understand each other and there are some kind of unwritten rules which bond them together, Neither 'expects' anything from the other but each is there to lend a hand and a shoulder - each of them not just a one-sided thing. If I get entwined with those sort of creepy crawlers I get the bug spay out. From what I see from previous responses this particular bug is causing havoc for many of us and many of us got caught in it's web Good riddance cos with friends like that who needs enemies?!

Hear! Hear! I never delete friends for not replying to all my discussions. Heck, who has the time to respond to every discussion every friend posts? I post on the ones that catch my attention, and believe me that takes enough time out of my day as it is. So if people want to delete me because I'm not following them around and stroking their ego like some sick sycophant, then delete me, but for crying out loud, just do it and don't bother me with talk about it! LOL I think what I'm saying CC is that I agree with you!

I try to respond to as many of my friends as possible,but i only respond to discussions that i can answer.I also try to respond to alot of other discussions of people that their topic interests me.I have never had anyone say or even leave me a message having a moan that i have never responded to their discussion.If someone did leave me a message moaning i would just explain i only have so many hours in my day and alot of those hours are for my children.Happy mylotting.

I don't have any friends like that on mylot yet, and I hope I never do.. Just because you are someone's friend does not automatically mean that person is going to respond to each and every one of your discussions.. That would be crazy, considering there are some people that have hundreds of friends.. Lets get real here people, its the subject that makes people right, not who you know.. That may work at other websites but this is highly unlikely here.. And I haven't been here that long, I know not to expect that.

Hah - Citychic, you are soo right! I have ppl that msg me saying how they responded to my discussion so I should respond to theirs, etc etc.. Heck, I'm trying the best I can :) Usually if someone begs me to respond, I don't b/c I can't be bothered!

I wouldn't consider anyone like that a "friend". I'm very quick with that delete button myself. Yes my main purpose here is to earn a bit of cash, but I'm enjoying myself as well. I'm not here to see how many friends I can collect, I'm here to have a good time. So I am picky about who is on my friend's list. If I find that I don't like someone, or can't "get into" their discussions, then yes, I will delete them. No I won't tell them. It's nothing personal, I just rather save my friend's list for people who's discussions I enjoy participating in.

Well I think they think you were close to them that's why they miss your comments here. Don't be mad at them, they are just making friends.

I have a friend on MSN who is like this, and because of him I have to appear offline everytime so that he does not bother me too much, he is a good friend but I do not like when someone ask me the same thing everytime and says that he forgot. I thought I was wasting my time with him and then one day I deleted him in my friends. In mylot I have never encountered this problem, well I respond to discussions which are in my interests and which are interesting enough like this one.

I was nodding while reading your post. I never thought that someone could have experienced same thing I had. I kept on telling myself , what on earth is this person doing? He seemed to feel that he owned me and I need to be with his side 24/7. It had become infuriating to tell him that I also have other much more important things that I had to attend to. One would even make me feel like I was neglecting him. I just ignored him totally, because it would be a waste of time explaining your side. Have a nice day.

I'm new here so I haven't had that experience but now that I know it's possible, I'm thinking i'll just lay low on the friend department for a while. I've been in yahoo groups and people would do me that way. Writing ridiculously long emails and then expect me to respond with an email just as long or I must not care enough about them and God forbid i be busy and wait a day or two to reply. People who are too needy like that seems to get attached to me because i'm a good listener but then it seems like they get dependant and uh...very scary by the end of it.

In fact,many people have encountered this problem,we should look at how each person is treated ,I respond to most of the others,because other people send a signal to you,and that he still believe that you,in that the response to courtesy,so I most of all time,not back then,are some silly questions ,annoying people,I do not respond.