I face a dilemma, should I choose love or go abroad?

I say continue your education. You can stay in touch. If you think about how long people live, 3 years is nothing. How do YOU feel about going abroad but staying in the relationship? If younwant to but he refuses, it's his problem and if he tries to say you can't go, what else is he going to try to control you in the future. If he can't wait 3 years for you, maybe he doesn't love you as much as you love him. Another thing, go, keep in touch with him while you're away and see if he tells you not to call him anymore. If that does happen, you will find someone who desearves you.

Its true that you can't be in love if you don't see each other for such a long time. Actually, it can't be said that you won't be in love, might be, your feelings and affection for him or vice-versa might decrease. I think, you should choose going abroad and build your career. All the best

We are in the cyberage now. People meet and fall in love online. You will be away from your boyfriend, it is hard. But we have chat programs which can help the two of you communicate. But I guess, your boyfriend really wants your physical presence. And not doing so would break his heart. You being away and not being with him would only prolong the agony. Well I guess, your boyfriend knows better. I wish you well.

I think you should choose going abroad, the education is more important than the love in youth. It is obvious that your boyfriend didn't support you going abroad for education, I think he didn't love you very much, he can't believe that you will come back with him in three years. If you lose your boyfriend, you can find other in the future. But if you miss the opportunity, it is difficult to get one again. So I wish you make a correct decision. Have a nice day!

You know what, we have the same situation but the solution is quite simple..Why not let him go with you...It would be nice knowing that both of you are in abroad studying right? :) But in the case that he doesn't want to go with you, might as well choose your career because if he really loves you,he won't hinder you from achieving your goals and dreams in life..The reason why our head/brain is above the heart/love because it want us to think critically and logically.. tc ;)

I was in the same dilemma three years ago. I had a relationship a new one but I know I love the girl so much that I sacrificed a better job abroad as a OR stuff nurse in germany. I was in love crazy in love until now but after three years of relationship which ended this may somehow I realized if only I took the opportunity maybe I wouldnt have been left out. Colydf there are no promises of which to choose both if you willing to sacrifice going abroad because love its a decision to make every decision has pro's and con's for me somehow i regret that i didnt went there but the memories I have with my love one is worth a thousand experience which no one can take it from me. Even the ending is not a happy ending for me its still worth it.

I believe that if the two of you are meant to be then you will find each other again after 3 years. I think that you should pursue your dreams, you might have regrets in the future if you decide to stay for your boyfriend but then it turned out that you are not meant to be.

Hi colydf, I just believe that if it's really for you and your meant for each other, no matter how near or your far your really meant for each other. Time sometimes also tested your love for each other how strong it is. Love doesn't hinder your priorities, especially when you also need to reach your goals. Anyway it's for both of you in the future or if not for yourself. Love Ain't everything! Have a nice day to you!

It is really a big problem you face. Your BF doesn't believe you, but you don't want thathis heart leaves yours. You may think what if you don't leave. Will you still be together in the same city? Will you get similar education like the abroad UNIV? Write down whatever you will get or lose if you leave or stay in China on a list. And you can get a help. Hope you to make a great choice.

If I'm in your position I choose go abroad.I also got a chance to go UK.And that college accepted me but I have no money to pay.So I will not be able to go.But you have chance.So go ahead.You can find someone who has trust in you.All The Best!

Hi there colydf. Its really difficult to decide when you don't want to give up any of the two but you have to. If you choose to study abroad, you will meet tremendous opportunities in life and the chance to explore and learn more. If you will stay and be with your love, then that said opportunities will be out of your hands but you will still have your boyfriend. Do you love your boyfriend very much to give up the chance to grow more. It really depends on how much you like to sacrifice. Try to weigh things, the disadvantages and advantages of the decision that you'll make. Goodluck and happy mylotting.

you should go abroad and prioritize first your career.anyway, if he really loves you, he'll make a way to communicate with you.Love can wait.

Hello there colydf...I know you're in a dilemma and it's indeed difficult.But you see, opportunity rarely comes in our life...And also true love not only waits but also supports a loved one towards success...So grab the opportunity girl. If you explain it well to him , he won't only understand you but supports you too...Assure him that you want to be successful not just for your own future but for the two of you... So, worry no more okay...

Hello this discussion is one year old, so what decision you took, are you happily married now, might be blessed with a cute baby, please tell us, thanks in advance.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers.