you belive if someone tell you someone else said this or that about you ?

It is always hard to say whether the other person is telling false or truth. But many times it can be understood from the body language of the speaker. I can do taht most of times.

If you ask me, that all depends who is telling me. If it was my best friend and I will believe it instantly! For those who are not so close, I will just nod to the conversation and pretend angry. Then totally ignore the whole conversation!

I couldn’t really be bothered. People are welcome to their opinions, I have no say on what who thinks about me. there are a few select group of friends whom I can bank on, all other are just there so I would never walk up to them and verify something they are supposed to have told about me. we have a saying here ‘there’s no tax on talks’….so its free and people can jabber as much as they want.

Yeah, I'll ask the person who talked about me whether it's true or just a slander. I can't believe it until I know the truth.

Hmmm..i can relate to this discussion. Last friday i just had a confrontation with a so-called friend. Ive been hearing things from my other friends that shes been saying a lot of bad things about me. And i always let it go knowing that i dont believe it since we are together most of the time. There are 4 of us in the group. This went on since last year. Few days before the confronation, ive been hearing a lot of it again from 3 common friend. So i have to confront her about it already. I was mad! really mad! i was yelling at her. Maybe he good thing about the confrontation is were at work and i wont be able to hit her or we might get suspended for fighting inside the office. The sad things is, she put the blame to the 3 people who told me what shes been talking about. The reason why i made the confrontation is because it hurts me knowing were together most of the time and shes been talking behind my back. and 2nd, i want to know her issues,or i might have done something to her to do such thing. But during the confrontation, she just stayed quite and im the only one talking. which clearly shows she guilty because she cant reason with me. really sad...we really cant trust all of our friends..it takes time to really call a person : best friend.

Yeah I have this problem a lot too, and yet I am the sort who would say what I had to say to a persons face and not behind their back. I find that people take what I say in an ordinary conversation and twist it around to make me look bad it does my head in. Plus others would rather talk about a person behind their back rather than to their face and that winds me up too. I tell you, its hard being friends with people these days!!

I have a few occasions to have this happen to me and it is very disconcerting. I would not mind being berated if there was some reason for it.

well no I don't believe them at all !! coz alot of bad people and they may want to break the relationship between me and my friends so, I pretend like it's wow and then I would ask the same person is that true ?? and so on .... you know that we shouldn't believe anyone even if they mint the truth they may understood it in the wrong way , thats why !! and I know alot of people who destroy their friendship or what ever coz these things

Selom do I face such problems.I would just smile if I were told that another person is talking about me behind my back.If that were nice words,things will be different.I dont like talking about another person's advantages or short-comings behind his/her back.It will do me no good eventually.its said that bad news has wing.So does good words.

I really don't mind if people talk about me behind my back--or even to my face, for that matter! I try to live my life the best way I know how and I try to behave in a way that I feel is appropriate and right. I try to be polite to others, to not get into trouble for foolish things, to work as hard as possible, etc. In other words, I live according to my own set of morals and values and as long as I'm living by those standards I feel that I am doing a decent job in life and I am acting well towards others. So if someone wants to talk bad about me than that's fine because I don't think I'm a bad person. Sure, I do bad things once in a while, but I try to atone for them quickly. :) No one's perfect, you know. But I don't let my faults bother me too much, either. Things happen.