Do you think your mom or dad was over protective?
By tamron123
@tamron123 (276)
United States
June 15, 2009 3:06pm CST
I think my mom was! She wouldn't let me do anything with out her there. I remember when I was a kid I wasn't allowed to sleep over with friends that she new for ever they had to come to our house which sucked because my dad worked night and we had to be quit all the time. Now that I am 41. In my adult life I think I rebelled. I just went wild! I have gotten in so much trouble. Because I was so sheltered. I also think it made me to be a people pleaser and not be able to make decisions. Because I was never allowed to. Does anyone else feel like that?
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@blinder (6)
• China
16 Jun 09
in my opinion ,my mom always protect me from the society ,she thinks there are too many cheat in the world .but my dad encourage me to try more ,to know more friends .my dad always persuade her to allow me do something new .so i love me dad very much ,and i also know mom's care,ilove her too ,i feel very happy in my family
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
15 Jun 09
I think my parents were in the middle. Sometimes there was stuff that we didn't get to do that other kids got to. But for the most part I think they were great. We didn't get to watch scary movies. I had a decent curfew as a teenager and i got to stay at friends house and go to school dances and stuff like that. I hope that I can be the same with my kids. I want to be protective of them more so in away because there is so much more that they could get into then there was when i was a kid. Or I guess its the same stuff that was always there but now kids are doing it younger and younger.
@tamron123 (276)
• United States
15 Jun 09
You got to do more then I did I felt like a prisoner. I also had no say in anything. For that I just went wild. I have settled down but those first few years man I partied.
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
16 Jun 09
My mother, yes, my father, what father? My grandmother wasn't too over protective. My grandmother took care of my brother and me since we were born because my mother was a single mother.
@orevro (715)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
since i'm the youngest and i'm the only one left who isn't married, my dad seems to be over protective of me. I'm already 24 years old and when i go out, i have to give my dad all he numbers of my friends. he needs to know how many boys and girls i'm meeting. what time i'm leaving the house, what time i'll be back, my transportation to and from the place. i know it's for the best but sometimes, i think it's a little too much!
@asweetie (1187)
• India
16 Jun 09
hi tamron,
Every parent is protective of their children. Not even in humans but also in animals , this is a basic nature of the animal kingdom. We live in a big city where crime rates are high and so it is very necessary for parents to be as much protective of the kids as possible. Yes my parents would definitely see what kind of friends i pick and once i was in 12 th class and my parents found we got a male friend who can be trusted very much and they can send their daughter anywhere and anytime with him and he would make sure their daughter would reach home in one piece safely no matter what they relaxed and now that i m 21 i have got lots of freedom but still phone rings if i am out longer in night or if i am in a new city.
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
They are. When I was in high school I applied in one of the schools in Manila but I never had a chance to enroll there because of them. The queuing took 5 hours so I finished the mere application at 10pm and I get home at 11pm. My father was so furious when he asked me where I went, but before I get a chance to tell him he already pulled me by my hair so I cried. Sometimes they are being unreasonable. I grew up fearing that the moment I came home late I'll receive same punishment or even worse. What hurts more is to know that they don't trust me. I know that there are bad people all over the world, but I learned not to attract them by avoiding places like that. From then on I always come home before 6pm coz I hate to hear them nag. Luckily I'm married now, and my husband's family is not that kind of a freak when it comes to our community.
@chingmerry (414)
• China
16 Jun 09
i think my parent were very open.especially after my rebelled period,they think i wouldn't do anything to make them letdown,so i made many decisions by myself,but actually,i have done many things will make them crazy if they know what i have done. some was right but some was penitential,so i think your mum has her own reason to protect you so much.
@fly1987119 (28)
• China
16 Jun 09
for me,it's not my mother but my father,he is real over protective for me,at present,am twenty four years old now,but he treat me still like a child.he forbiden me out when the time is 7 pm.i cant stay over outside.if there are a boy call me,he will be very nervous and ask me all about that boy.but am never feel trouble about the behavior of my father,because i know he love me so much,me too,hehe
@Akila016 (70)
• China
16 Jun 09
I think my mom was,too.She always treats me like a kid.If I go out with my friends she always ask me who I go with.And she don't allow me go back home over 10 o'clock.Or she will always call me.Once she give me 7 calls in 10 minutes.Sometimes I feel so confusing.