Be Fair......

I often only comment on a response if I have something more to say. When I first started here I was advised not to comment just to say thanks. Lately I have been trying to do even that. I don't want my responders to think I don't read what they have to say and don't appreciate their effort. But I run out of time often.

Miss I will keep on doing my part of the duty,, not worrying about the results,, everybody has their reasons,,Sometimes people might not understand what my response means,, there might be more than one meaning,, its just perception,Lady u keep writing for those who wish to read,,One must not let others keep u back ,, U all agree?

I understand the point you're making. Fairness is all well, cause that's the way to succeed in mylot. And just so you guys would know, you don't necessarily hav to comment on my discussions, I don't get too particular with it, itd be nice if you did, but honestly I don't really comment on others, I probably just respond to your discussions, but in terms of adding comments to it if u respond, I'm not too fancy about it. But if u say the person comments on all others except yours, maybe they forgot you or well I doh know, anyways, keep up the good work, you surely know how to discuss somthing clearly and make your point

I don't think it's coz they don't appreciate your reply,maybe they don't know what to say or don't think they need to reply.I can understand what you're saying,i'm one of those people that don't always reply,i'm sorry if i haven't replied to yours.I'll start trying to reply to all my answers xx

Zandi...I hardly ever respond, because I guess I didn't think the responder expected it. But I guess if everyone feels that way, I will just have to do better, and respond to you after you've responded to me, and then you can respond to my response, and then I can thank you for responding to me again...lol

Hi zandi, There are so many interesting things to read at mylot that I feel pulled in different directions. I've only been here a week, and with my new Email account too, I'm a bit overwhelmed. Sometimes it's hard to comment on something other than thank you. But I have experienced someone starting a discussion and then they've disappeared, like they took a flight to another country.

Hello Zandi .. I usually do comment all the responses on my discussion , even if they were not so good at least I will thank the responder for his response I hope you find all your comments are commented :D

Hi Zandi, I can understand your disappointment too often it happens to me too, but I still respond to the same persons discussions as they are my friend and to me it is only courteous and nice to let them know I am around, wether or not they respond...so try and let it ride above you my friend, dont feel hurt or dismayed if you get left out..you do still have freinds that do, hugs LoLo

NO, I probably would just ignore their next discussion. Time about is fair play in anything, i think. Ican't imagine anyone ignoring your discussions or responses because i see how much thought u put into both of them. I have always told u how much i enjoy always what u have to say . I know u don't have to be reminded how selfish people are but i'm reminding u anyway.

I don't get too upset if my responses get skipped once in a while, Sometimes, other than thanking me, there realy isn't anything to say and just thanking some one is against MyLot terms of service..People who skip them all the time are rude. If that happens to me, if they're on my friends list, I shut off the notify. If they can't be bothered to reply, I have no problem finding others who will.

I understand the point you're making. Fairness is all well, cause that's the way to succeed in mylot. And just so you guys would know, you don't necessarily hav to comment on my discussions, I don't get too particular with it, itd be nice if you did, but honestly I don't really comment on others, I probably just respond to your discussions, but in terms of adding comments to it if u respond, I'm not too fancy about it. But if u say the person comments on all others except yours, maybe they forgot you or well I doh know, anyways, keep up the good work, you surely know how to discuss somthing clearly and make your point

Hello zandi ! All know that you are one of the most regulars here.I dont think they ever want to skip a comment to your response.Its just that its like running out of ideas.Usually I also wont comment on all the responses I get to my discussions.It doesn't mean that I target a particular mylotter's responses not to comment to it , it just happens.It might be the same case for you.So dont worry & dont think of not responding to those who dont comment to your response.There might be several reasons to it.Cheers!

i know i have discussions where i have not replied to some of the responders... its not because i bypassed them, i swear i read all the responses in my discussions, the reason i cant reply to some of them is because i cant say anything to their response, and i have read in the faq that posting just thank you is a not allowed, or is not good... although i have read in some discussions here that it is ok, it will not only earn anything. i have also read in another discussion where the user was upset because all she got as a reply to her response was 'thanks for your response' which i dont want to happen to me if i ever reply something like that and upsets the one who posted the response. i try to go back to my discussions in other days and read all the responses again especially when i find nothing interesting for me to post responses and think really hard enough to say something and reply to the responses posted that i havent replied before. for me personally, i am not bothered if my response is not replied by the one who started the discussion, all i think is maybe because they have nothing else to say to what i have posted.

Yep, i always try to be fair in my responses. Giving my oppinion, but making sure i point out that it is just my oppinion. I also try to offer some helpful advice and actually comment on some of the stuff that the person has said. Id never just critisize someone, think its not fair to lie to them, youve got to be honest but at the same time youve got to think that they are just human and will get upset and annoyied if you just insult them or say bad things. Maybe its just me but i like to treat people how i would like to be treated. What do you think?

I would probably not go back to a post they make but mostly I stick with friends as I get emails all day from them and I do respond back as much as I can

I agree with you Zandi that whenever we write a quality response or a response with our heart, we expect that the host of the discussion should post his/her comments on our response. However, when we find no comments, we feel little bit disappointed (including me). I have experienced that in 5 out of 10 cases, I do not get comments on my responses, despite the fact I always try to write quality or say meaningful responses. If my response is one liner, then it is another matter. Similarly, I try my best to post my comments/counter-comments on the responses received. I sometimes skip one-liners, which I do not find worthy of comments.

Sure I would, if I can relate to their discussions. I feel that just because the person doesn't comment to your response, doesn't mean you've been passed up. There could be a number of reasons why this happened. And if there wasn't a question involved in the response, or even if there was, it doesn't always mean it will get commented on. I myself have been guilty of doing this. I'm certainly not trying to hurt anyone's feelings. However, to make up for it I try to respond to a discussion of theirs, if I can. I don't always get to though as I'm on a slow connection and I have a life outside of mylot.(Who doesn't?) Please don't take it the wrong when this happens. I'm sure it's happened to the best of us from time to time.

Hi zandi, You know this is the reason why I hardly create new disussion because I can't find enough time to respond back to all my responders. That is why I only respond to my friends disussion as of the moment. But you have a point with this as I see some discussions and the starter only choose among responders to comment back which I think is offensive.

Exactly. I too have been noticing the same trend of late. I have responded to many discussion but not even 25% comment I have reachieved from them. Why this attitude? If you are not interested to discuss why initiate a discussion and leave it like that as if our response had no value at all. this is too bad. I have the instance of answering or commenting back even after 4 months after the response was posted.

-sheepish grin- I'm guilty of doing this on occasion. Sometimes I get responses to my discussions that I'm not sure exactly what to say to. It isn't that I don't appreciate the response any less than others, but that I simply don't have anything to say that would contribute to the discussion. I could say something like "thanks for responding", but I always feel like it detracts from the discussion rather than adds to it. Though I do understand what you're saying about you taking time to comment and expecting the poster to respond. To be honest, I don't even pay attention if my comment is overlooked. If someone responds to a comment of mine, then that's great and I'll carry on the discussion if I can respond to the comment, but if not then I just leave it at that. :)