Would you do anything to make others happy no matter if you were going to...

I have been told that I am a people pleaser. Some of my choices that I have made in the past to help others has just totally blown up in my face later.. It didn't matter what I went without, or what was going through my mind.. I am learning that its still okay to help others, and make them happy; but there is a line. This line should not be crossed. I tend to help people anyways.. I feel in the end someone else needs that help and if I can do it.. Why not? Low self esteem has a lot to do with it. When I am feeling really bad about something, it lifts my spirits when I help someone else. It makes me feel better at the moment. Sometimes that one moment is not worth it though, and I end up feeling a lot worst. I guess its finding that happy medium that everyone talks about.. I do not want to become some greed person that takes everything, and never giving back.. Helping people is very important in my life.. That fine line seems to be invisible at times...

if the price for making someone happy is to hurt another person but me i would try to avoid it. but if i should be hurt, it doesn't mather, it wouldn't be a first time.usualy i am saying directly my oppinion, but with years i've learnd to keep the distance between mine oppinion and and sarcasm that could went out of my mouth. Just in case :)

It took me a long time to find an equilibrium of love spent and love received. Finally the solution was so simple but nevertheless had to come from a wise advicer: I have to treat all others like I would want to be treated by them and the quantitative rule is "666" as follows: I should spend ... 6 units to love myself ... 60 units to love my family/relatives/friends & enemies ... 600 units to love my God (doesn't matter which religion). Now my love life works.

I am the type of person who do what I thought is right. I don't things that can make other person happy but also make other person sad or suffer.This is not right and the people who has this kind of behavior has attitude problem.

hi ddhawkins 63, making others happy is an art and you have to be sincere in your efforts and any smartness in showing how much effort ur putting can back fire and yes i am one of those persons who finds it impossible to say no to my friends or family and many a times i get hurt in process of pleasing others and it is not even worth it and i am trying to understand how to say no but i got a friend who would do anything we friends would ask him to and he knowing fully well he is being used and it would take him lot of effort and time to do it , would do the work smilingly and wont ask anything in return nor would ever even show a sing he did this for us. Now these kind of efforts are definitely very much appreciated.

I think it is hard to answer.To the people I like or I care, I'll do anything I can to make them happy,sometimes I even say some goog lies,such as "your new clothes is so fit to you" and so on.But to the people I don't like or I hate ,I'll say the words without modify,never care about hurting his or her feeling. Maybe I am some selfishness,bue who care, I just want to be myself!

I'm one of those people that always has to be liked by everyone and I can't stand it if anyone dislikes me. So, because of that, I tend to have a difficult time telling people no. Unfortunately, it allows people to walk all over me and I not only hate it, but I'm getting really tired of it. I keep telling myself that I'm going to start trying to say no, but when it comes down to it, I usually go back to my old ways. *sigh* And I think, for me, it's a self-esteem issue. I'm kind of lacking in that area and always have been.

Having been the same way most of my life, I can tell you it's the need for approval and lack of self respect that leads people to want to please at any cost. Believe it or not, most people are willing to accept "I just can't do that right now" or "I'll do this much but the rest is up to you". I spent 50 years trying to please everyone, to no avail. I learned the hard way that I'm the only one I absolutely have to please, besides God, and the rest of them take care of themselves--and they will, because I'm a much more enjoyable person to be around now because of that realization!

Up to last year I would do anything to make persons happy. Thinking about others and putting them before me and then when I looked back at when I need help and there were none available I stopped pushing out so many effort. I still help others but now I think first before doing it. Is it low self esteem or selfishness I don't think so it is that when you mature you see life more and not under the cloudy glass that we used to see it through.

If I am not happy how can I possibly do anything to make others happy? Anyone who is hurt by one sticking up for oneself is childish, selfish and self centered. My time and wants and needs are just as important as the next person's. I don't go out of my way at any time. I do what I do to be helpful when and because I can and want to do it. It is a privelege and not an inconvenience but I don't let anyone take advantage of me either.

i have done that before and all i discovered was that i will continue to make myself unhappy while those i was making happy are even laughing at me thinking that i am a fool, most times it does not work and one will be left in agony while others will be happy, i still do the little i can do for now to make others happy but not giving myself totally into it

I was once in that situation. I felt so down and depressed. It felt as if someone is caging me and making me a worthless person. When I finally got out of the situation, I felt relieved. I have enjoyed the freedom I have now and it feels so good.