Was your mother a woman who teach you everything what you must to know in life
By marianna45
@marianna45 (1399)
Romania
June 16, 2009 12:55am CST
I mean you was good friend with your mother, and you listen all the time shed advices?
Are mothers who can share with kids all what they know about life...and are woman, mothers i mean who can t talk open with kids about what kids must to know in life.
My mother all time was afraid to talk with me open, because she was a simple person with not to much school, and because my father was an intelectual, he all the time talk with me, teach me, and in a way don t let she to make me so much education.
He was a good father and in a way was a mother substitute too.
I don t blame him, (he is die now), and i don t blame my mother too, even she was some guilty because don t push him to let she to be my friend too.
But now, to maturity, i have no connection with my mother, we are like 2 strangers, even we care each other, we don t have nothing in common, maybe was my mistake too, because all time i was so busy with school university, after this with my family, and never try to make she to understand me.
I love she a lot, i respect she, but i can be there where a doughter must to be in she soul...i feel this.
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@Ritz100 (1169)
• Yecla, Spain
16 Jun 09
I spent my childhood listening intently to my mothers advice, she was very open and honest with me (if not too much sometimes) and most lessons I have learned since in life, I remember my mother had tried to warn me about.
Teachings are all well and good, but I do think we need to make our own mistakes in life and learn from them.
That said, I am still in contact with my mother, but we are not as close as we were when I was a child and she was my teacher.
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@marianna45 (1399)
• Romania
16 Jun 09
I really sorry because she don t try when i was kid to be more mother...i love she a lot, but i can t be friend with she, this was our problem all the time
@kmaram (2533)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
Hi there, i dont really talk to my mother regarding my daily life. I can say that she's not really a good person to give advices. But i love her so much, eventhough shes not a good adviser i respect her and love her so much. Now that i am mother of 19 months old daughter i want her to grow close to me. I mean when shes grown up i want her to talk about everything to me whatever happens in her life. I wanted her to be close to me and dont shy to talk to me whatever happens to her. And promise to be a good adviser to her when the time comes.
ANyway, enjoy your stay here .. and keep the love to your mother =)
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@marianna45 (1399)
• Romania
16 Jun 09
I know what you mean...you know woman who don t was very close with mothers, will be with doughters, because they know what must to avoid in relations with mothers
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
16 Jun 09
Dear friend,
If I go on show my mothers positie side there is lot. But one of the main thing I got from mother is to respect women. Even though I had faced many worse side of women harrassments I do still see there are good women whom I respect from my heart. I do came to know that as a women my mothers always got positive side from everyone. I do feel there is something positive in all these women even though there are many negatives. Moreover it is also clear that all women are not good and all men are also not good.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
16 Jun 09
My mother was not very open about things either. We did not talk. It was more like that I listened to her lecture for hours on end. She was very critical. My dad was the one who I turned to for advice...the one I could talk about anything with. My mother and I were never close. I think that once I was much older that she wanted to be closer to me but by then, I had stopped even trying to be that for her. I didn't feel anything either way about it. I did not need her approval or understanding in order to be happy. I took care of her in the last year of her life and during that time we did have some decent talks and I came to understand her in a way that I never did before. Agree with her ways? No but I understood a little better. What I learned from her is the importance of communicating and part of that is listening. I am much closer with my girls than her and I were.
@Akila016 (70)
• China
16 Jun 09
Hi,marianna.I think I am same to you.My mom is a strenth women.I can learn much things from her.But she is so busy,she doesn't have time to talk to me.She sometimes think me as another person who isn't me.She treats me as a child that make me so sad.Though we love each other. we have seriously generation gap.
@MsAshley (39)
• United States
16 Jun 09
Well no sad to say, I had a great mother but i can't say that she taught me everything in life that i needed to know. I really don't think that she really could cause the times change so much. I think that if she woulda then I wouldn't have had as many hard times as I did. As far as her always being there for me she was always there and now that I have gotton older are relationship has grew into a really great friendship.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
16 Jun 09
My mom did not teach me everything in life…she did her best as per her convictions but these were not enough for facing the world. My mom typically belongs to the old school which lays a lot on moral values, honesty, sacrifice, helping other and so…she brought me up with those values. All fine except for the fact that not everybody is the same and a child should be taught how to retaliate at the proper places and save his/her own interest. A little bit of lying is also necessary at situations and no, that does not make the sky fall down. Some manipulation, some deviation from the straight path, al these are necessary for survival…my mom never taught me these
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
I guess im lucky to be one of those daughter who's able to talk to thier mom openly, talk about anything. But this openess started when i had my own son. Before that, theres this invisible wall between us where im sure both of has have a hard time getting through. Its was hard, but its just happened simultaneously, that we can talk about anything. Maybe when you grow up and will be able to level up with your mother, that u 2 can already talk about anything. It was nice, becasuse you know deep inside, whatever secrets you tell your mom., you know its safe with her.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
My mother left us for another man when we were young children.
She was barely there...we were much closer to our father because
he never leave us. He never married another woman. But I love my
mother just the same in spite of everything she done to us.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
i have to say yes...its my mother who was there to taught me almost everything that i need to know in this life...she's always be my best friend.we can talk freely anything and everything but still my respect for her as a mother is there...
with regards to your father, i envy you for that because when i was younger i am not very close to my father...we have some family issues but again even if we're not that close the, respect for him as a father is there! but now, i am very glad and proud to say that everything in our family is on its best...we are not rich family but we are happy. now, i have a closer and open relationship with my father and we are like a "peer group" in our family, which includes me, my brother, my mom & my husband! and all this i thank my mom for her sacrifices and her patience and above all i owe all of this to God. glory be to Him.
with regards to your situation, i am sorry that your father is no longer with you but those memories you had with him is really nice remembering and about your mom...well its never too late to develop a closer relationship with her...what if you make the first move for the two of you to start a better relationship..not only as mother-daughter relationship but also a friendship between the two of you...believe me, there's no more better friend as our mothers!
thanks and have a nice day!
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jun 09
I am sorry to say, but i don t wear in good relations with my mother, even i love she a lot. She don t was the best in giving advices to me...more important was man in shes life...she was married 4 times, as i was as doughter.
Every time she forgot about me, and if i say something about shes hisband will be a real war. I don t blame she, maybe shes relations with man are more important...but i never were friend with she
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
My mother was the greatest when it comes to teaching. She has the passion of teaching anybody. We we're taught at a very young age everything and even we are older now she is still there to guide us as well as give us the best of everything. She definitely played the role of a mother who nurtures us and guides us every step of the way in life. Because of that I thank her for everything and I hope to follow her path with my son.
@candy2306 (576)
• India
16 Jun 09
Mother is the person I cherish in my life! I lost her in year 2006, but till today all her advise is what I hear when I'm down or other down around me. She has set an example of a good and caring mother. Though I miss her so much, her sweet advise and patience give me this courage in life! I will definitely take her role 100% toward my children in future! Love you mom!
@med889 (5941)
•
16 Jun 09
My mother is a very good friend of mine, she listens to me when I talk which I think make her the compassionate one and the caring one in our home. She is ready to help and scold whenever It is demanded. So she has a good sense of everything around me. Recently she is a bit annoyed because she heard that I am serious with my boyfriend whom she thinks was only a friend, so she denies this relationship to turn to better in the future.
I tell her mostly everything but Ihave to admit that I do not tell her everything. Me and my boyfriend made love so I didnot tell her and there are many things which related to our relationship which I did not share to her. I find myself more comfortable to tell my sister or my boyfriend himself.
Nowadays my mother is not talking much to me because of the choice of the boyfriend but I know her very well and I know she will accept and make my dad agree too.