Who has authority?
By Ritz100
@Ritz100 (1169)
Yecla, Spain
June 16, 2009 7:17am CST
Ive seen that either myself or my partner take charge of certain situations in life, for example who tells the kids off, who commands that people in the house obey, who controls the dogs, who deals out the love and thanks and appreciation? It can get confusing when you dont want to be the baddy, but doesnt someone have to do it? How far do you go to prevent chaos in your home and what role MUST you play to keep the peace?
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4 responses
@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
I may not be in that kind of domestic situation yet but knowing myself I think I would be the submissive/complacent one initially. I would be nice in everything. Nice in asking them to do their chores, nice in reminding them about their homework, saying yes if they want to go out but with proper chaperone/companion and within a reasonable amount of time/distance, etc. However, if after being nice and all those reminders that things still has not been accomplished then I would take charge and be the 'baddy'.
Though I think that it would still depend on the dynamics that I might have with my loved one. I mean might be those areas in the home where I can gladly let him take charge and there are those that I cannot give to anyone else.
Well, Im just trying to say that knowing myself, if there isnt anyone taking charge that no work is being done, then Im gonna have to step up to the plate and take charge myself.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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17 Jun 09
Hi Ritz100,
Well its only my hubby and me also the two cats so I have the authority but hubby thinks he has, even the cats don't take no notice of him, they only listen to me, lol! hugs.
Tamara
@wittymomma (103)
• United States
16 Jun 09
That is hard... I always make my husband play the "Baddy" I yell a lot though.. I tend to get onto the kids more then him.. But when it comes to actual discipline, he does it. I think a lot of times it is your attitude/etc that decides who does what role.
Now us being Christian... My husband is the head of our household.. Well he is suppose to be... and is for most part. lol.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
16 Jun 09
We should take command in our specialized fields without any hesitation.For example,one who is good at maintaining the house hold things should take care of the budget,one who can teach morals in a convincing way should deal with kids,one who is clear about managing things should plan,etc....Likewise,we should take the necessary roles and should not want to take all the charges,That would mess up things and relationships.Cheers!
