Who would you like to end up marrying?

Thank you for your opinion. Are you a man or a woman? As a woman I have different perspective although i do agree on you at some perspective. I would rather end up marrying a guy who loves me more than a guy i love more because I feel more secure in some way. As a woman, when we receive attention, affection and love by a guy for sometime...most of the time we do tend to develop some positive emotions towards such person. If we love the guy now ... chances are we will eventually fall harder -- after sometime. In my opinion (only), guys are designed differently. When they love a woman -- they Love that woman...but if they love that woman less than her love for him....there is that huge possibility that her love wont be returned as much as hers.

If I absolutely had to choose, I would want to love him more than he loves me. I wouldn't be able to live with myself knowing that he adored me and I didn't love him as much as he did. I would feel so guilty and be totally miserable. On the other hand, I can accept if he doesn't love me as much as I love him. I like to think that I'm a pretty giving person and I try to do as much as possible for my family, so it wouldn't deter me in the least to know that I had more love for him.

That's a darn good answer Phyrre! I like how you think. It's pretty unselfish and has a good point.

Yeah, you're so very right. I think to make it last, there should be an equal love. But if you really have got to choose between the choices given...which would you choose?

That's a tough situation you're in. I guess marriage can have like a psychological effect on people. When I was in my early 20's, I found myself in a serious relationship with this guy after a heartbreaking breakup with my ex. This new guy was so into me...he's kinda really crazy bout me and i knew it. At first, I thought omg, having someone who loves me sooo much is like suffocating me!!! I wanted to get out of the relationship..and i dated other guys. Then I realized, as a girl...a woman...having someone who loves me more that i love him is so much better that the other way around. I guess its kinda selfish of me to think and feel that way...but as women, when we feel sooo loved we tend to develop our feelings that easy and that fast unlike men--in my opinion, if they are not so much into the girl, chances are, they will never will. I think your gf needs time, you know. Living with some1 for her, maybe is great for her--- so why mess things up with marriage ---or she might be thinking that marriage is so final and legal that if things happen, getting out of it is so much difficult than whre you guys are at in your relationship.

I would just want to say congratulation! Married life can be so much beautiful when you married the one you love, according to my dad. I guess you've married someone very special and that makes both of you very very lucky. Continue the love and all the best!

Heheh...that's funny because I feel the same way too although not for the reason of him leaving me...uhm, well maybe that's it too. I mean, following that line of thought, it boils down to one thing. SECURITY. when you're married, i think, security should be there..referring to emotional, financial ,etc. But would you be happy?

I would say that was my initial thought upon asking myself this question. But when I read Phyrre's opinion, I said to myself, am I being selfish to want to be loved more by a man I would end up marrying??? Maybe so, maybe not to others...what do you think?