Are you a lover or a fighter?

I am different when I'm with different people. lol! with friends I'm kind of a fighter , but with the guy I like, kind of a lover. lol~~~~

I can see where you're saying about being a fighter. You said about you have been pushed around a lot during the years. I know how that feels, must've been horrible though. However, I took the time in my life to learn martial arts such as MMA, aikido and kick boxing. However, I keep my cool with people. If say someone wants to rant or start something, I'll just let the person talk. However, if they dare to even touch me or make a move, then of course I'll defend myself, counter attack and take them down with no hesitations. If you're a fighter, learn to control yourself and it all depends what your definition means of if someone bothers you.

Both, I am a lover and a fighter. I love my boyfriend with passion most people cannot imagine, but when someone threatens me, my loved one, my friends, or my way of life, then I get to fighting. Resently, when summer classes were cancelled. My college mates and I fought tooth and nail to stop the the summer class cuts, but sadly, we lost the battle. Damn college got what they wanted.

I am a lover 90% of the time, but when provoked I will defend myself. I am lousy at turning the other cheek, because then the other guy always wins. If I just let people do what they want to me, they will think I am a doormat, and I am not going to give them that satisfaction, but I'm not going to go around starting fights either.

I am an extremely nice person but my father taught me a long time ago not to let anyone walk on me or try to take advantage of me because I'm a female. So, I don't. I might give someone a warning that I'm going to rip their head off before I do it...or I might not.

I tend to stand up for myself or my kids,being peaceful is what I strive for,walking away is something you learn over time,not having many situations where this happens these days,ignoring someone is more harmful to them then answering back.If necessary I do fly off the handle especially if someone upsets my husband ,i cannot stand that,one man tried to say my husband had scratched his car rubbish it was already scratched and all he wanted was my husband to pay the repairs on his car,No way and I told him straight he could not get away fast enough,big bully my husband could not beleave it,he sticks up for me as well.

I am a very nice person with a fierce temper.I just cannot stand stupidity and hypocrisy.I flare up and and lash out at these people who try to play the monkey with me.Well in spite of this character I am known as lover with a golden heart.Well an angry person need not be a bad person.There are so many calm vile creatures lurking around.

i guess i am both a lover and a fighter.lol i love people and life ,but i won't let anyone step on me or my.i give better than i get .i 'll tell you to back off and if you don't heaven help you.i just don't get mad i get even.

Always been a fighter!

I couldn't fight my way out of a paper bag. I'm not just non-assertive I'm a downright coward. I'm so scared of confrontation, my brain just refuses to work and nine times out of ten I will start to cry. I can't help it. I'm in my late fifties and I'm still the same. I wish I could be different...just be able to stand up for myself.

I am mainly a lover and not a fighter. I stand up for myself when I have to though. I will be nice to people also if they are nice to me but that is very rare for whatever reason that may be.

I prefer to resolve differences in a peaceful way, but I don't like being taken advantage of. I am afraid perhaps I can be a little too trusting sometimes, but if I was to live my life not trusting anyone, I would feel pretty miserable. If someone isn't willing to settle things and starts shouting or becoming violent, I will then stand up to them, but it has never been something that I enjoy doing. - Derek

I am a lover....until you push me too far. I can be the best friend you ever had...but I can be the worse enemy too.....someone you wish you had never met....

I am a noble pugilist. I love to make others feel good. I am in love with intimacy. If I see someone doing wrong I have to intervene. I refuse to be treated with disrespect unless I have given cause to it. I will fight the hardest fight I can as long as it's for a noble cause or for my own well being. I think I might be a nice blend of both, but when it comes to the fighter side of me I will do whatever it takes and I will become a destructive force. Like you dloveli I spent years being pushed around. I was the kid with the big brain and big glasses and didn't play sports. i was beat up over and over again. I only believed in pacifistic response and then when I was younger I saw the film Straw Dogs and then I saw Falling Down. I refused to ever be pushed to the point that I would snap. I learned to fight and then learned more. The bullies that had picked on me for years were warned and they didn't listen. I was only suspended for 2 weeks, it was a mild punishment. The principal took pity on me since I had warned him and my teachers too. They never picked on me again. he hee.

I think i am a lover. I don't usually bother people back. I will just ingore them. I have a friend is a fighter, you do things which is bother her, one time is okay, twice, three time, opppss, you are in dangerous! I actually like her personality! I agree with you, no matter you are a lover or fighter, all you do just trying to protect yourself.