House is made of bricks but home is made of tricks. Do you agree?

Well this family friend justifies this rhyming quote by saying that telling simple lies or not disclosing a few things can actually save your family from falling apart. To an extent it is true - we can avoid speaking many things that are unwanted and can create problems in a relationship. It is about being manipulative. I found that most of the successful homemakers are manipulative. They know what to tell when. The problem starts only when these women start misusing their manipulative skills! I wish i was manipulative too but fortunately/unfortunately i'm too straight and tell all that is in my mind. :)

I am kind of straight forwrd too. If I think not to disclose something (especially to my family), it keeps irritating me and finally end up in describing the whole story. I have done it (not disclosing things) successfuly with my parents, but it is difficult when it comes to husband.

I used to keep issues in mind, but peple (my family members) could make it out from my face. Now, I prefer to express my anger or disappointment right away and get rid of it. Otherwise I keep thinking about that a lot..get hurt...and finally it will turn out to be a big issue. There is an agreement in my family. If anyone of us have anything against the other, we are supposed to express it, discuss about it, forgive and forget, and leave it forever.

Thats good.Don't mind but this is not a contract where you have some clauses,this should be understood,if anyone has a problem or is angry with the other,the other person should automatically understand it & should not make it an issue as some relations don't require any explanation.

It is good to speak out but at times it may hurt one of your family members. So the trick here is to follow some ethics. I do blow my roof more often but act very cool at other public places. So i personally think that all of us should follow home-ethics where you put forth your idea but no one is offended. Both of you are right in a way. Being direct is good, but it can cause damages or scratches to relationships. Thanks for responding :)

Yes, I agree with you it is not that easy to build a home. I forgot to say that this is a very intersting discussion I come across after a long time. Congrats!

hey abhaijith and daliaj - thanks for your appreciations. You both are right it is easy to build a house but making a home is not that easy as they are filmed - LOL. Thanks for responding :)

well i think everyone has misinterpreted what the term "trick" means. Trick need not be of the deceiving nature. A homemaker can manipulate things for good - that is good for the well being of the family. Like compromising, sacrificing, loving, where to add more love and where to be stern - it does involve a good lot of juggle :)

I agree with you, it is ok to tell small lies if they don't cause a big problem, but you should make sure that you won't get caught. So, I will say telling a lie(even if it is small) is a risk. What do you say?

big or small, people should be open to listen to other's comments and critique. It is more like a learship/team managment. One must know how to get the work done from another person and should be more easy at the home front because people are themselves at home. :)