I want to have a baby,and bring it up by myself.
By aisme1860
@aisme1860 (46)
China
June 18, 2009 2:30am CST
I am 29Years old, MAN,Come from China, and Live in China.But still be alone. no gf.and no much money.I am more silent in my life.and I have no money to buy a house, a car....more thing wat i want in my ilfe. But I love gods,cats,flowers...everything in nature. Because i love life.
Now, I have a crazy idea. I want to have a baby!!! I want to bring it up ny myself,i can feed it, teach it...I believe I have the abilities. I am not a swindler. it's the real voice from my heart. I want to have a baby with someone who come from USA, Europe, who are white people...
Hey...is it a crazy idea???
But I love baby,it's ture.
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9 responses
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
19 Jun 09
There are many babies that are waiting to be adopted. So it might be a lovely idea for you to think of adopting one of them. You sound like you would make a caring and loving sort of parent. It would be so rewarding to watch him or her grow up. Older children are available for adoption too. I hope that your dream to become a parent will come true. Good luck.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
Dude...that's cool. But are you sure you really wanted
to raise a baby? Having a baby in your life is a big
responsibility. How can you work if you have to take care
of the baby. Think many times before committing to it.
@aisme1860 (46)
• China
20 Jun 09
Thanks Dude, thanks for your comment. I will think about it. This idea will not be carry out this year or next, I just think about that, if after 2 or 3 years, even longer, I will take this idea. I think it's good for me in my life.
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
There is nothing wrong with wanting to have a baby, but it is kind of rare for a man to have the desire to take care of a baby. Raising up a child requires a lot more than just your finances, it requires your time, effort,sacrifices and a lot of patience. You may want to volunteer in a local orphanage first and try to get a feel of how it is to take care of a baby. See if you are really up to it. Then if your finances would allow you then decide if you will push thru with your plan.
@aisme1860 (46)
• China
19 Jun 09
Thanks Silverglint, thank for your suggestion, i think it's a good way for me. yes, i took care a little girl 2 days when i was still in my university, may be 4years old, she's from the local orphanage , she's cute. we get alone very well in the two days. i remember that, it's on the Christmas eve, and the Christmas day. we have a lot of fun. I took her went around the campus, buy her toys, and watch cartoon movies....it's a happy day then.
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
hello aisme1860,
It's just normal especially in your age to have an idea of having a baby. But first you must find someone to be your partner for life. In this way your dream of having a baby will come true.
I'm sure you can find one for you have a descent job. Not much money for now but eventually with all your hard work, perseverance, effort and wisdom, you can be able to buy your own house and car.
If you're considering to have a partner in life you'll do everything. If not you can adopt a child.
@aisme1860 (46)
• China
19 Jun 09
Thanks Robert, thanks for encouraging, yes, i think and i need to do it's make a good preparing for my crazy idea. and yes, i think it's better to have a own baby, not adopt one. we, chinese, can't throw away traditional eye on baby. to me, in the deep, maybe it's same to me. I think it's not crazy to have a baby, but it's crazy to have a baby with other racial women, eps, white racial. right? why i have this crazy idea? maybe i just want to have a different life.
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@aisme1860 (46)
• China
19 Jun 09
i love the cute babies. i think i dont wanna find a white gf. is it incompatible?
@aisme1860 (46)
• China
19 Jun 09
Yep, I know most of our people cant accept this crazy idea. but i think it's a better way for me. if i have a boy, it's better for me to bring up it,i think.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
18 Jun 09
Hello dear aisme. We are from the same country with the same culture. I am sure that you know about the saying that when your luck as well as chance pays you a visit, nothing can prevent it from doing so. I am sure that Miss Right will chase you some day if you are full of hope towards your life and work. Although girls nowadays are more practical in life when considering their marriage, for sure, there will be someone for you. Maybe she is just next to you without your finding it.
If you really want to have a baby of your own without getting married, then to adopt one is not a bad idea. It is not easy to bring up a child with either a single father or a single mother as there is so much to do for the baby. It is not as easy as ABC. Think about it before you take a real action.
Anyway I wish you good luck to find your Miss Right soon.
@aisme1860 (46)
• China
19 Jun 09
Hi williamjisir, nice to know that we are Chinese. Yes, you know in the ture life, I feel so incapable. Even that i feel it's so terrible in my life. sometimes i want to make a gf, but...anyway, now I feel afraid to love. and i don't want to make a gf again. i think i am a self-contemptuous person. I can't get out from it. maybe it's because the poor family. but now, i am working hard to improve my family. sometimes, i think i will be alone in the rest of my life. maybe it's the only way .....thx, compatriot
@aisme1860 (46)
• China
19 Jun 09
Hi Meandmy3, thanks for comment.
Yes,I think it's a good way for to adopt a baby. anyway, i think i will work hard and to prepare the enough food before i take the action. i think i need to keep waiting.
@leiann_561 (332)
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
It is not a bad idea to have a baby but be responsible in bringing up the child and give him a good future and instill to him moral values.
@aisme1860 (46)
• China
19 Jun 09
yes Leiann, i agree with you, i know it. i will prepare it before i really have a baby. I just love kids. i think. maybe i need to make great efforts in the coming future.
