Some Of Us Really Do Have Monster-InLaws!!!
@lwilliams1981 (14)
United States
June 18, 2009 4:31am CST
I have been married to my husband for 2 1/2 years now. We have a 2 year old daughter and I have a 9 year old son. We have split up countless times, sometimes just a few days and once for almost 6 months. We have been back together for 9 months now and doing great.... except for his mother and her side of the family. She will not let go of him and she controls and ruins everything. I couldn't even plan a birthday party for him this year because she said she always has him a crawfish boil on his bday. I had wanted to cook and have the family and his friends over. Needless to say she talked to everyone and I didn't get to have it for him.
Then she ruined our daughters bday. She decided to plan one at her house without even letting us know. So I was going to be fair and decided to have our daughter a bday dinner and cake the night before then go to her house the next day for the party she wanted to have. She got mad and did not show up and neither did the other family members. My mother and step father drove 4 hours to be here for it.
The only reason my husbands dad and stepmom didn't show up is because they were out of town. Needless to say his mom caused a fight and we didn't bother showing up at her house the next day. We went to the coast instead and took the kids to the beach and stay out there for the rest of the weekend.
Should families get so upset over traditions when their children have grown up and have families of their own? This goes on every year for all holidays. It's a constant fight just to go out of town to visit my family on holidays. Christmas in 2007 was horrible because we went to my mothers and his mother and grandmother insists the whole family be there on Christmas Eve. This past year we spent it with his family so now this year it should be my turn to spend it with my family. Right???
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@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
18 Jun 09
Hey are you my sister in law... Actually my MIL was great till I had children then she turned into the devil right in front of my eyes. I have no idea what happened to her, but she morphed. She knows better than I do, she has a better idea of how to raise my children and the holidays are always an issue, a major issue in fact.
I did start taking up for my self and my children this past Christmas. I hope that she gets the point. This is my house, I appreciated other ideas on how to do things but do not come to my house and change my rules..
I hope things improve for you soon..
@lwilliams1981 (14)
• United States
18 Jun 09
My MIL was only normal for a couple of months after me and my husband got together. She got upset when we decided to get married and I was already 5 months pregnant. She tried to ruin our wedding and did not show up.
She started to potty train my daughter at her own house about a month or so ago without my permission and now it has screwed my daughter up completely on my ways of potty training. Ugh, I just get sooooo mad about this woman. I can't say she comes to my house and changes rules because she expects everyone to come to her and do as she says. I just try not to send the kids over there or anything anymore. She taped my sons mouth shut in front of a house full of people because he talked back to her. May I add that this is not her grandchild by no means. I had him long before I met my husband. Would she do that to one of her own??? NO! She only does it to the ones that she doesn't adore. If it wasn't for her health problems I would probably go buck wild. Then again she really does ask for it sometimes cause she acts like trash when she gets upset. May I add that it is quite often!
@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Oh, my monster in law is the same way. My husband and I have worked out the whole your mother is not the most important thing in your life anymore part but Christmas still sucks. At least you get to see your family on Christmas because I have yet to spend that holiday with my family. Oh, 1 time I had Christmas at my house and his family came over and my father came over but, that's it.
Ya know, I even had our wedding planned out so that certain people that spoke would talk about how a man grows up gets married and starts his own family and both of the preachers (we had both of my uncles that are preachers do the cermony) talk about the same thing and that stupid woman still didn't get it.
I could go on but, there's not enough room here LOL But, honestly it boils down to your husband standing up to his mother and standing up for you before it will all end. My husband's mother would call almost every week for him to drive out to her house to "change a lightbuld" "run the sweeper" whatever else she could think of and I just told him it's either me or her and since you sleep in my bed you had better figure it out quickly.
@Vickie7978 (164)
• United States
18 Jun 09
Wow, sounds exactly like my MIL. She's the same way...has to be in control of everything and I can't do anything right. Holidays and hubbys birthday are horrible! Year before last we had a fight over the cake. This year, I tricked her. We went camping. Yes, you should spend Christmas with your family this year. Mil should just get over it. I have been married 11 years now and I think my mil has finally decided to give me a little slack since her plan of our divorce isn't working out. It's still not great, but a little easier. My hubby sees it a little better now too. Last year, The whole fam was going to a water park and my mil bought my hubby and his dad matching swim trunks. It was so funny. That's cute when your 5 not 30. I love it when she does things like that. Needless to say he didn't wear them, but I still enjoy reminding him.
@start20090509 (52)
• China
18 Jun 09
for what need to consider our own,believe in themselves
my friend there are many families are not happy,but they still continue to life,
To protece their own, to their,to children ,to the future life.To protect their
own. I wish you good health
