Life is taking too much time and testing my patience too much
By subha12
@subha12 (18441)
India
June 18, 2009 6:18am CST
These days there are everywhere "no", "No".Be it searching for new projects, be it searching for new jobs or any other things in life. In this place its not that with others.They are getting projects before they need, they ask for new job, they are getting it.
Only I am hearing No always.
I have observed its always so in my life. Everytime, there is something to happen, my turn comes after all that too after a long period.Onsite? that too I have not got.Its nearly 5 years.
I wonder why life is so much unfair with me? I have done nothing wrong. Or I have not done any damages to any body.
Why all the people get what they want only I am deprived?
Why God take too much test of my patience?
Why God is always rude with me?
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7 responses
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
hello subha12,
I understand your feelings but I believe don't blame HIM for everything that is happening to you. Take that in a different way - like as a challenge or a test. Maybe for now, it's not working but with all your hard work, perseverance, effort, faith and wisdom someday, everything will be great. Maybe it's not time yet.
Never lose hope. Just keep on trying.
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
25 Jun 09
It's hard to fathom God ways. We just have to have faith.
@bdugas (3578)
• United States
18 Jun 09
Don't think it is God that you should blame, maybe he is trying to tell you something that you need to get out from where you are. It is only making you merisible where you are. How much longer can you hold on with out work. I know what you mean when you say life is not fair to you, but sometimes it is us and the things we do or hold on too that makes us feel this way. I myself some times wonder how many test we have to take in life,seems there is always one.
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@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
18 Jun 09
Subha, I have been watching your posts for a very long time. I tend to stay out of them because I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I felt that I had to say something today. Please, don't take this the wrong way when I say this, but isn't life being unfair to you that is your problem, and it isn't God testing your patience or being "rude" with you. The problem, is that you have a negative attitude. I know that many things are happening in your life that are negative, but from the way you post it seems that your negative attitude is bringing these things upon you. As soon as things go just a little south, you start thinking the worst. What you don't know is, your subconscious brings about what you believe, so since you think the worst is going to happen, it does.
The best way to change your situation is to change your way of thinking. Start believing in yourself and your abilities. Believe that a change will come to you for your benefit. You will see that once you start thinking in the positive mindset, positive things will start to happen for you.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
19 Jun 09
I appreciate the way you say. But still I would say its not the way I think the bad things are happening to me. It is happening because I can't be "Bad" like others. Till few months ago I thought and took it very positively that I would be very well in this project till the end of it. The work of myself was so and the same case was with the way they reacted. But how should i know some people back stabbing me as they can't appreciate my growth so that I am released from this. Was it my negative thinking?I guess no.Even when giving an interview for a prospective requirement with all my "abilities" it proved something very crooked. They approved me but my Resource Manager restricted my assignment as it could prove her discredit. then what type of thinking should I need. I totally believe I am born with bad lucks and omens . I have never seen good times in my life.
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@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
19 Jun 09
Don't worry about others being "bad", you don't want to sink to their level. Besides, the wrong that they do to others will come back to haunt them. I know its so much easier to say than to do, but get positive and stay that way. Once you do, positive things will come into your life.
Even being released from the project you speak of, keeping a positive mindset will attract more and better positions to you. The people that need your services will be alerted to your positive attitude, and be drawn to you.
Even having great ability can be overshadowed by a negative attitude. Maybe while interviewing you showed that you were not confident in your ability. No one will hire a person who isn't confident in his/herself. Even though you were restricted in your work by your manager, if you kept a positive attitude and did your best, your work would have outshown her restriction, and her higher-ups would have given you a position anyway.
I know what I am giving you sounds like a simple fix, but most times it is the thing most simple that works. Just keep a positive attitude. Read a couple of books about how you can do it such as Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, or Success Through a Positive Mindset by the same author. I know it works, because it has worked in my life. If you put it to use, it will work for you as well.
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
29 Sep 09
Hey,
Well I don't really think that God is rude to you, I think that it is probably the world that is rude to you. I think that everyone has an unfair life, and I just think that everyone needs to personally try and be happy and deal with it. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
18 Jun 09
Life is unfair to everyone from time to time, weather it be a child that you want so desperately have and can not as a result of infertility issues, the perfect job or the house. Sometimes we have challenges and obstinals in our way to overcome. God dos not work in that way, he is not punishing you for something you did or did not do. Hang in there, turn to God in prayer and know it is okay to question him and question why you are in this position right now. I hope and pray that things turn around for you soon.
God Bless
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@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
I'm in the same situation as yours but I never mind about it that much... I keep going until I find that something is for me. It can be frustrating, yes, that's for sure, I remember having the same feeling on my first year after my heart surgery and I feel like I can't do anything anymore... I always fail in the medical exams and every time during an interview when I hear the tone, "we'll call you", that's rubbish just say "no", that's what's on my mind...
I wonder about that too, why some people get so lucky, but there maybe times in their lives that they have experienced the same way as we are now, they just didn't quit and they keep going until they are there. I have a classmate in CPA review school she failed in the exams 4 times, for two years she kept going and now she passed the exams... I may not have the same spirit as she had, but I know for sure there are other things out there that belongs to me, I might just be looking at the wrong place and at the wrong time.