How do you handle the the negativity in a relationship???

To me it's hard because I'm the type of person who can easily be provoke. What I'm trying to say is that I only have little patients with things. But now I'm learning how to control my temper and listen to my partners explanation before everything else.

hello there. just now, i find it hard to adjust and do something about a negative or down feeling with my relationship. i don't understand. whew! i hope it will be better tomorrow. i just call and text him and ask him stuffs.

first off, i hope your girlfriend had that beauty rest and you didn't try to bug her last night when she wanted to sleep. lack of sleep sometimes make the brains go haywire or even cloud judgement... so a good sleep is verrry important if you want to avoid that kind of negativity in your relationship. that said, i'm assuming that the recent situation you mentioned was about the "invasion of privacy" thing about the ym? that was one big misunderstanding. and being in the receiving end of an accusation is not a good feeling. trust issues bring a lot of negative vibes in the relationship. whatever brought the negativity on, it is generally best not to confront it headlong. if you dive into hot water too soon, you'd get scalded and perhaps freak out. let it cool down a bit. the idea is if one of you is already hot-headed, the other must remain calm. two hot-heads would just clash and an exchange of heated words can become harsh. when you already know you are not the one in the wrong, be the voice of reason and handle the situation with great patience. if you are on the receiving end of an anger or accusation, don't be reactionary. perhaps the other person just need to vent out feelings and let off some steam. different situations call for different approaches to avoid negativity in relationships. just react positively and avoid hurting each other. since you already know the kind of words that would hurt you... never throw it back to the other person. coz that would surely hurt. in relationships, we learn as we go on. we commit mistakes and learn a lesson or two. there are couples living together for several years yet continue to clash because not everyone will be completely in sync with each other. just don't ever let the negativity consume you or the both of you. btw, thanks for the friend invite.

Hello darksorrow, I am glad that you are really trying to be an understandable person in a relationship. You are right that each and every relationship has its own ups and downs from time to time. Love can be very amazing part of one's life but it is not all about happiness, right? As for me, whenever I have a hard time in my relationship, I try to 'isolate' myself and think of all the things over and over again. I always try to find the answers like did I do something wrong or why thing happened like this and not like that. If I were to blame, I will try to be a better person and to say 'sorry' is not a hard word for me. But I do believe, whatever happens, there is always a good reason for that.

I just get over it, eventually.

well its quite simple for me though just dont let anger rule over your head coz it blinds you up and would lead you to that negative feeling you have this things are expected in all relationship bro and just think of whats important in your relationship and what really matters the everything will go smoothly with the relationship you have ....dont expect to much and just stay a gentleman as possible. this trials are made to define who you are when it comes to relationship remember love is for the though ones and not for the coward good luck and regards to your girl....