My daughter is Locked up now.

I read you rlast post. It is heartbreaking for you but in one way I am glad that yo9u will have a few days of time without the constant stress that you and your husband have had to endure. I can understand how your heart is breaking. I do hope that it can all be resolved and that she will learn from this. Don't ever beat up on yourself over this as from your post I could see that you ae a good Mom. many blessings

I think she will take something from it, you can be sure of that. And as a female myself, I tend to cry when I get myself into sh*tty situations to say the least, always thinking subconsciously people might take pity on me, after all we're females, and let's be honest that's what we do. It rarely works, and when it doesn't at first, I get disappointed my ploy didn't work, but in the end, I'm gald someone could be stronger than me to tell me no, write that ticket, or in your daughters case lock her up, it taught me a more valuable lesson in the end. Sooner or later you will have to pay for you've done, it will catch up with you. She'll be alright, and so will you. You're a good mom it sounds like kudos to you.

I know how difficult that is, I hope your daughter learn her lesson and this becomes a stepping stone for greater things in the future. Good luck.

I felt sad hearing about your daughter. The mere fact that she is crying in front of the judge that means she is having difficulty accepting the five days secure detention. I just wish I can travel deep into her minds and discover what makes her the way she is. It is good that she will be able to realized that she need to change soon for the good of every ones especially her family.

It's always hard to see your child cry, even if they maybe deserve what they are going through. Hopefully, she will learn from her mistakes and turn her life around now. On the bright side, at least this is happening when she is a juvenile and not being tried as an adult. It will also make it easier to get off her record and not haunt her for adulthood. Best of luck to you and her.

I also read your first post....and I wish you, your daughter and your family, good luck, and hope things will turn out for the best. It is very heart breaking to see a child making such a mess out of their lives, and not be able to save them from themselves. I've been there in your shoes. It's not fun! My heart goes out to you!

Yes, I remember responding to your post on this...remember I had told you about meditation and yoga to calm her down. Now that she is gone and you are free to ponder over, I'll definitely hope things go right for her and she herself takes this free time to mull over her own feelings, bahaviour and future. Good luck to you both and I hope you keep us updated.

I am so sorry that your family is having to go through this with your daughter. I hope that the 5 days in juvenile jail will help her realize that she has so much left of her life. She has time to turn it around. The next 5 days will be hard for her and for you guys. I just hope that this will help in the end and maybe she will learn to respect you and your husband. Good luck with everything.

I did not get your discussion last week so I have no idea what her problems actually are.They don't lock up someone her age for nothing.I had a son that was extremely naughty and in the end he moved out.It did not get as far as your situation.I do undestand what it is like to have constant strain,my friend has has a lot of trouble with her daughter.I want you to know you are not on your own.Maybe sitting in there will wake her up.Make her realise what sort of life she is heading for if she does not change her ways.You just make the most of the peace and quite with no strain for a short while.You will have to sort our somewhere else for her to live maybe a hostel or something ,only if she starts up her tricks again.Good luck to you and take care.

I didn't see the last post on this story. So I don't know the whole story. I can tell you this that I hope she learned her lesson and she will not end up back in jail! I have a 23 year old nephew is prison who is severing 32 to life for a murder he commited at 17! He srewed up his life and shamed his parents who are my younger brother and my sister-in-law! So I hope you don't have to through what my family has! It isn't fun!

Oh you have a tough girl on your hands. I hope the jail time works but don't count on it. It is going to take much more than that to keep her on track. To get her to understand her part in all of this as well as your own. My prayer is that your daughter and her parents can actually work together to find out what is the underlying cause of such behavior. That Mom, Dad, and daughter can move in a direction of understanding without judgement to be able to help each other through this time for a young adult to become who she will be, depending on the choices that are made from this point on, by her, and by you her parents. God give them all strength, the love, and the knowledge to pull through this time. Amen

Hi Purple, Well it sounds like you both are getting the break you needed, and her a reality check. This could go one of two ways, it could scare the beegeezus out of her and make her turn around for the better, or it could be " no big deal " to her she might run into some friends in there and it's just a passing time. Let's hope it happens to be the first of the two ways. Unfortunately for my brother Juvy did no good but I pray for your daughters sake and yours that she makes a come around. Some kids just aren't meant for school there are many reasons behind it, it starts with the self esteem level being extremely low, then the only crowd that will accept those with the low esteem are of course others in the same predicament. So they band together and the peer pressure sets in, examples from other kids that might be more rebelious than she and she tries to follow suit. be careful tell her you love her but be firm in your words. She needs to know if you say NO then that means no period. She needs to earn your trust and earn the right to go out to her friends place. She needs to call and check in and be home but a certain hour. " These are your daily chores after they are done you may go out for a little while call me to check in before 5 and we will go from there." My son is just going on 14 and has started to do this thing where he wants to be over at his friends all of the time. At first I allowed it but then I realized he was becoming mouthy and back talking, and started to argue with everything I said so... his freedom got taken away. He can still go out to his friends but now it's only 3 days a week instead of daily ( though I might adjust since he's out of school now ) When he does go he is to call me within 2 hours and normally be home by 7 p.m. before he can go anywhere he only has 2 chores,.. make sure his room is clean, and unload the dishwasher if both those things are done then I allow him some freedom though for now until his attitude improves I tighten the leash a little bit so to speak and if it still doesn't improve I tighten more and then start taking away luxuries. It's hard because things are different with each generation but they aren't much different from 15 years ago so we just have to try and remember when we were their age what it was like, and what it was that made us act the way we did ( however we acted then ) and go from there. Best of luck and I look forward to reading the updates :)

It is so sad to see a daughter that takes a wrong way.. I don't know if i can tell you what she did, but she has been so luky! I image what you felt when you saw her to cry and this means that she was sad for what she did. It is important that at the end of this days in jail, you will control his friends and what she do, because at this age the children are strange, they have not their character yet and sometimes they can take a wrong way.

I hope everything gets better from now, I will be more than glad to hear that your daughter is in the right way. I wish you the best of lucks.