why is love so hard to let go?

It really is difficult especially if he's your first love. I should know becuase its been 7 years now and still at time I still think about my ex despite the fact that I am engaged now. I guess you can say, no matter what, its really hard to let go when it come to matters of the heart. My advise to you is what I've been doing to ease things a bit and move on. Surround yourself with supporting people, do things that you enjoy -- make changes in your routine and hang out with friends who knows how you feel. Don't try to think of the bad memories with your ex but linger on the good ones and keep telling yourself that at least at a point in both your lives you were able to make memories but you are not meant to be...so life must go on so you can find your true love. I know its easier said than done, especially since its just been 2-3 months, but believe me, time heals all wounds. We always face hard times in our lives to make us a better and stronger person. Just stay true to yourself and give yourself the chance to be happy. Moving on is a 'matter of decision' in my opinion. When you are determined to move on, trust me, you will! Another thing I should let you know is that, you have a better chance of doing so when you dont see your exboyfriend. Seeing him like everyday or often than you should, will cause you more pain. Stay away and minimize contact but be sure that you have said everything that needed to say to him before doing so otherwise, you will always have this suppressed feelings and the need to lash it out on someone else. Don't worry Cutie238890, I have a good feeling you can and will move on...so stay positive and God bless you.

Letting go of someone you love is always very hard. It seemed the world is crumbling into pieces infront of you. But we have to accept the fact that there are some person that is not really meant for us. We have to wait for the right one to arrive in our life. Just be patient...

Well because we humans are made from it. So letting it go is hard. Well there is no immediate solution to that when you are in a stage of letting go. Just live by it day by day and slowly move and heal yourself from it. Eventually, you will just know that you've gone through it. Just keep in mind that you will forget the past and move on with your life.

When you love someone, it is definitely hard to let go. But time will heal everything. Meet someone else, or go out with your friends more often. Keep yourself busy, and try to keep yourself positive. You might meet someone pretty soon! Don't beat yourself up like that.

just don't ignore the fact he is already gone. try to be comfortable with all the things that may reminisce him, like his name, his favorite food, his sceent etc. then you'll see if your used to those things you will only remember his name but never the feelings.. believe me i have done that before and its effective i even make his name my nick in the office. so every time i am called with his name i can neutralize the feeling unlike before. tc beejay

i remember the same question as the topic proposed by a friend, and another friend answered,"because we are all human beings." It's naturally hard to let go the once loved. but life has to go on. i think the best way to let it go is keep yourself occupied and force yourself not to think about him anymore. it would be hard, but hopefully as days pass by, time would eventually heal everything~best wishes for you~

It isn't easy to let your heart know it is ok to feel like it does, yet move on with life. Not to make it worse, that feeling just doesn't go away, the reason is because if you truly love someone with your heart, that person became apart of your heart. The thing is you have to learn to live with that within your heart, knowing that the footprints left with you are the joy and love you shared. What you need to do now is know that this will be with you for life, it is how you choose to work with this in your life now. You can allow this to depress you or you can know in your heart you did feel joy and love at one time. Move forward with that and live your journey of life. Life's lessons stay with us through out our life. Accept that you may love this man, now you need to turn your life into something positive to use the energy for you to move on to your own path. Faith has away of bringing you to something new.