How many relationships should one have before marriage?
By mipen2006
@mipen2006 (5528)
Australia
June 18, 2009 8:02pm CST
Hi myLoters this is my first discussion in relationships, and I'd love to hear your views. Here's mine in brief, I had many relationships before I got married the first time, and still made a mistake. The marriage didn't work. Do you think you should have multiple relationships, or is one enough?
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9 responses
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
19 Jun 09
It depends. Some people find their true love on the first try, others have to go through several people before finding the right one. It all depends on the people. I dated a lot before I met my true love. It just takes awhile.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Okay, do you have a list? By which I mean, do you have standards? Because if you have a list of things that you want it a person, that will make your life a lot easier. Also, how accepting are you? If you cannot accept a person for who they are, then you are not going to make in very far in a relationship either. I say all this because I have seen relationships go down fast because the person just decided to settle without checking to see whether or not they were really the person for them. Don't settle! Find a person who meets your standards, or who is someone that you can really live with.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
19 Jun 09
I dated a lot also, and still made the wrong decision. Maybe, one of the ones I passed over would have been right for me. Something I'll never know.
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@zura80 (48)
• Singapore
19 Jun 09
It all really depends on your approach to realtionships. Sometimes,some people end up marrying their partner whom they have known since childhood. And some people went through lots of failed relationships before finally settling down. For me there is really no right or wrong or how many realtionships you have to go into before finally marrying the right one. Compatibility also plays a big part.
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@sunita64 (6469)
• India
19 Jun 09
Few things in life are not under the control of human beings, you keep meeting people at every age, but it depends on you to keep relationship with whom. I feel one must be moderate in approach towards life even if it is a case of relationship.To be honest it is really tough to maintain a single relationship so to think of multiple is really impossible.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
19 Jun 09
Hello sunita, I didn't mean having multiple relationships at the same time, I meant how many boys you might date before Mr. Right comes into your life.
@changsheng (40)
• China
19 Jun 09
the relationship between this and both sides may be responsible for men not respect,or lack of female tenderness,the reasons are manifold sure ,if there is only one reason is gathered by the many problems.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
19 Jun 09
Hi sunchany, the right person can enter your life anywhere and anytime, the difficult part is recognizing this person.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
19 Jun 09
I understand what you're saying , and agree with you. You need to be lucky to find tru love at the first attempt.
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
19 Jun 09
It is not about numbers, but about right choices. people rush into relationship knowing that relationship may not work. I knew what relationship may not work and I shouldn't start few relationship....I am wondering why I didn't trust my instincts...
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
19 Jun 09
Hi polachicago, I am probably one of those who rushed into several relationships, especially when I was young. When do you think casual dating becomes into a relationship? Is it when the couple decide not to date others? Or is there some other factor.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
8 Sep 10
sometimes you just need to be lucky enough that your first bf is the one for you and then you marry and be happy forever^^ anyway is not easy that this happens^^ also there is not a exact number of how many bfs or gfs someone need to have to marry^^ it just happens that we find the right guy or not^^ anyway bad relationships also teach us what we must avoid in new ones^^ so is not that bad that sometimes things go wrong sure we get hurt but also we learn^^ and that way we become better people in most part of times^^ and can be totally happy someday bcs we will know exactly what we have to do to make things work this time^^
@shevechang (35)
• China
6 Sep 10
well...
In my view, I think it's hard to say
yup, it's really hard to say
at present,I am so depressed, actually.
coz the girl who I have been into love for almost 5years..
you know, she has been loving by me secrectly till 4 months ago..
but, the point is she has a new BF ...
even though my friends ask me just forget her and try to looking for another girl,
I can not do that..coz the feelling to her is pretty strong..
and i think maybe,it'll be go on and on...
take care.my friend
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