Who should be responsible in holding the budget money?

We awaken in sometimes that in our family the mother manage the finances. Plan and do all paying, expenditure, something like this. In some other couple, they agreed to share each other like this month, husband will pay all the bills, will shoulder all expenses, and next month its wife turn. There are couples that they share all expenses. If both are earning this can be an arrangement. Whoever is available and capable of paying something, spending or saving for family needs is the one responsible for holding the budget.

In my relationship, I handle the money and the finances. My fiance doesn't even know how much we pay in bills, let alone how much we have in either of our accounts. :) He's not very good with money and he's never had to work on a budget. My family, on the other hand, has always been pretty poor and we live off of a budget. So I handle the money. I also do all the grocery shopping, pay all the bills, and buy all the gifts for holidays and events, but that's how it goes. ^_^ I know where to find the deals. I prefer it this way, though, because then I know exactly what is going to where and such.

In every household it's been the wife who holds the money for budgeting. Husband is already tired from working and he can no longer budget money for the households needs. In some couples I know, the husband has some portion of his salary for personal expenses. I think most husband agree to this set up.

My husband and I have a fair share of the house expenses. We have our own obligations. He pays for the house rent and utilities. I pay for the monthly bills of credit cards.

Hubby handles all of our finances. He is much better with money than I am. Not that I am horrible at it. He should have been an accountant. He not only is good at it, he enjoys it too! And I hate worrying about that stuff, so it works out well. He pays the bills and balances the budget, I buy the groceries and household stuff. I just hand him the receipts (he likes to enter in the things I buy into categories on spreadsheets so he knows how much we spend on what). It isn't degrading to me at all. If there is something I want to buy that is going to cost a lot of money, I would need to go to him anyway to discuss it. I leave it up to him to tell me not to spend so much or that we spent too much last month, etc. Then, I just hold down the spending until he says we're doing well again. If I ever want to see anything regarding our finances, he is always happy to show me and explain what I'm looking at (some of those charts and graphs are a little overwhelming!).

When me and my husband go shopping and he wants something to buy, i always check the price first to know if it fits our budget. Although for now, he is the only one making money, he always ask me first whether we should buy something or not. I really don't have the full control of our money. It really depends upon him whether he's going to ask me first or what, because I really don't want him to feel being degraded.

Well,as i think everyone can keep the part that his own earn,and you two can share the fee that every money must pay ,that's ok.

I believe that both partners should be able to hold the budget because finally it is the same home that they are wishing to prosper in. So I will prefer both me and my partner to handle that. We have even cash boxes at home and we just fill it whenever we have surplus money with us. I do not mind and neither my partner do mind if we keep a control on the money personally so as far as there is this understanding I think everything will go smoothly.