Whom do you think the most successful,working woman or ahouse wife............?

I think the only thing that matters is that the couple, the mom and dad, or mom and mom or dad and dad sit down and make a decision as to what is best for their family. Some mom's are not cut out to be stay at home moms, it is hard work, it is also boring at times, and the same thing day after day. Some women thrive on working, I did, and never dreamed of being a SAHM, it kind of happened to me, I had to leave work at 11 weeks pg due to high risk pregnancy. It was difficult but I managed, I managed and adapted to being a sahm. It was not easy at first and I even attempted to go back to work last year. It was harder for me to be a working mom. I still had to do everything I did as a SAHM plus the stress of a job. I stopped working after six months, when the travel changed to 10% to about 60% of the time. Again the only thing that matters is that you are happy in what you are doing and that you are doing what is best for your family, so if that is being a working mom, then go to work, and if your child is sick, if you have an emergency and you need me to pick up your child for you, by all means give me a call I will help out where I can and not judge you for working.

Working woman or Housewife ??? After placements, i have been attending quite a lot of marraiges ( thanks to relatively free schedule this trimester and the marraige season which is currently going on ). Watching my friends with their wifes ( bhabhijis) , i always try to visualise how would my wife would or should be ??? i know i still have quite a lot of time (atleast 2 more years) but somehow i have started thinking about it (courtesy mamijis, bhabhijis, didis and my friend circle who contantly keep prodding me on the same topic)..Infact i have already done a research on the same starting from my family members as their point of view has a very heavy weightage :) About Myself, I belong to a business family and have been the lucky chap in the matter of studies and qualification obtained among my whole set of relatives both paternal and maternal..most of them have to sacrifice their studies in the middle of their career..But my family and my mamaji always supported me in continuing my studies.. also my younger brother who was very much interested in my father business did not let my absence felt to my father.. I love my brother alot.. he is very cute :) My mother whom i admire more than anybody in this world was the first target of my research. i have seen her all through my life and to tell you, i consider my father the most luckiest person in the world to have a wife like her. she has been my role model right from my childhood. she is very understanding, very caring, good at her work... somebody on whom one can bank upon for advice. I had a good number of memorable moments with her.. i was just pondering that would i got the same amount of caring, if my mom would have been working?? A working woman would be having her own career aspirations, her own set of responsibilties and things like that. But for a housewife, life starts and ends with her husband, children, her own family !!! I was just thinking that how good it will be feeling if u come to know that for someone, you are everything. when you will come back from office , you will get the proper attention and care that u aspire for. your children will be given proper personal care and attention, which is very essential for them...which will actually make the bond between the parents and the children more stroger.. i was just looking at an episode where the daughter was put in a boarding school very early as both the parents were very busy making their career. Now the daughter grows up, she could hardly feel that bonding and love for her parents.. she infact says that to her parents that " you were not there when i needed you the most.. How can you expect me to have feelings for you ". With a working woman, u actually have to make a lot of compromises.. take it food, household work, child care..I was thinking that i will be making more money than what my father is making ( i mean to say is that money will never be going to be a problem,thanks to GOD for that ).. then why should i compromise?? why should i marry a girl who is very career conscious and want to make a mark of herself.will she be able devote as much time for me and my kids as a housewife can ? Never !!! The Picture till now reflects that Housewife scores a lot over working woman... Now let us see the other side of the picture. till now i was thinking from my point of view and not from hers.. Consider the scenario, i am posted in a Metro and have working hours from 8 am - 7 pm ( it is definitely going to extend courtesy the big salaries :)) so i was thinking what will a housewife do all this time?? ok ghar main thoda bahut kaam hota hai par still there will be enuugh time with nothing to do. probably TV will become her best friend but how much time.. after some point of time, she is get bored of this routine. she would be having 100 things to talk to me which she would have thought all throughout the day.. and it may happen that i have a bad day and i am not interested to listen her talks which she is very interested to tell me. for me, there are many things in life to think about ( my job, career , office friends...)but for her i am the only person and if at all she is not getting the duo recognition, attention and love from me, then it will sadden her which will definitely affect the relationship. Now replace her with a working woman, she will be also having somewhat the same working hours so no point of getting bored in the home alone..secondly, now she will be having her own set of friends, job responsiblites..so for her, there will be lot of other things in mind other than me.. Again being a working woman, she would able to appreciate me and my job responsibities far better as she herself will be undergoing the same.. So, apart from double income, both of us will be more independent and more happy than in the case of her being a housewife. Again i have heard from my friends whose both parents are working that the scenario is not that bleak in the case of working woman as i have painted in the early part of my blog.. The most important thing in such cases is that there has to be good amount of understanding between the two. i always thought about why at all arranged marraiges are more successful than love marraiges . In love marraiges there are better chances of one understanding the other person and making a informed and well thought out choice..what i have figured out is that in most of the arranged marraiges, the woman is not financially independent and hence has to make a lot of compromises.. i have seen my didis, mamijis, bhabhijis doing the same and there will be many like them... i sometime feel sorry about their situation.. why is that, they have to make most of the compromises? have they done any crime to be a female ? i always believe in equality, be it any relationship. Kissi ka dil nahin dukhna chahiye. Now coming back to the topic, what i can say is that what i have thought about it. i will prefer a working woman :) i always feared that my family may not accept this that but to my surprise i have actually got positive statements regarding that.. But yes, i will ensure that my kids does not suffer becoz of our career aspirations.They should get the proper care, attention, nourishment and advice that they need.I know that it is possible with a working woman and for all this there has to be good understanding among us and i know it will be :)

both are important in there own feild...as they work a lot to serve there family...

I was a stay at home mom but now I am divorced. I think that it is up to the individual or what works for your family. My mom was always a working mom and she doesn't share that same point of view. I remember times when I needed her and she wasn't always able to be there.

This is a difficult question to answer and a question that I see quite frequenly discussed. For our family what works out the best and makes me feel more successful as far as our family goes is for me to be a housemaker. We are in such a situation that despite the fact that we struggle (I'm not going to claim that we don't), it works better for us for me to be home with the kids. For the next family down the line, it may work best for the mother to be a working mom. I have friends that will openly admit that they don't make good stay-at-home moms. That said, I don't think either one or the other is the more successful woman in the world. Each and every mother that makes the decision to have children and makes the effort to raise them with good behavior and morals is the most successful woman in the world in her own right.