Are you jealous if you see that your lover flirt with other person to internet?
By icesmile
@icesmile (7160)
Romania
June 19, 2009 8:20am CST
If a lot of people believe that love relation can be to internet too, this mean that people can cheat or flirting to net too. I am right or not?
If you, in a way or other, will know that your lover flirt to net with other woman or man, you will be jealous? Can be this, a form of cheating somebody who really love you? What you will do if you see that he or she say same words as he say to you ..to others too? That mean that he or she just like to flirt to internet and nothing is not serious, with you and with others too?Can you feel hurt if you see that he can talk with other person how talk with you too? Or is just a kids game ? all to net is only imagination? nothing true?
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19 responses
@vetiver12 (162)
• Spain
19 Jun 09
yes, I will, of course. Because I think if he flirt with someone, he wants something with her. Kids game? Maybe, but on the other hand, I think if he flirts he wants something more than just flirt
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
19 Jun 09
i never feel jealous, do u know why because i dont have a girl friend..im single and my single life rockss.
and i flirt with all girls in the internet and i end up only with flirting..no more extension...
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
19 Jun 09
i cant understand u..
please explain me again clearly
thanks..
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@figjam00 (1445)
• India
19 Jun 09
I am a possessive kinda person so it is obvious that I would be more than a jealous fellow. But over the years I have learned that you need to have some degree of faith in your partner if you want to sustain the relationship. My first reaction would be to eavesdrop and see if she is hiding anything from me.
@robertshay00 (446)
• United States
19 Jun 09
I get mad if PERSONAL INFO is exchange like what are your dream's are you happy with the one you love ECT for me that's between the 2 of us...
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@emilie2300 (1882)
• United States
20 Jun 09
I was saying if that would happen that would make me jeaulous...
@meapas (2436)
• India
19 Jun 09
Jealousy is a type of virus, most of us are infected by it and so we can't see our partner singing love songs to someone else. This virus is found in animals also. Just watch some dogs you will know what I am trying to point out.
So let us be little different from the animals. If your partner wants to sing love songs to someone else give enough space and be sporting. Soon your partner will know that you are the super human to be kept for life. You will loose nothing. Never mistrust your lover come what may. Life will be heaven. If mistrust creeps in then it will be hell.
meapas.
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 Jun 09
Jealousy is a love virus, when you don t care about somebody, you are nor jealouse of course. Of course i don t ask about extreme jealousy , like a obsession...don t tell me that you never feel jealousy...is impossible. If you never was jealous, never feel in love,. Of course that all are free to sing what song they want to every woman or man, is not forbidden, but i ask about what feel somebody who is really in love.
@carmel_anne016 (123)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
if he do flirt online, he is cheating on you, it is preety obvious that he is committed but still he is flirting other woman; flirting online and in person is still flirting. i will be hurt for that act, i will confront him.
@cecillecarmela (3818)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Hi icesmile, what's up? =D
Well currently I don't have a boyfriend, but if that happens to me, well I think my reaction would be DEPENDENT on how he flirts with another girl on the internet.
Hmmm.. I think if I really feel secure with this guy, I'd choose not to be jealous over the girl on the internet because everything's a virtual relationship between them and that won't matter.. I understand that guys are just like that.. As long as in the end, he'll comes back to me and would ignore the other girls, it's okay with me. Let's call it quits. It's okay for me for him to flirt with other girls, and I do the same too.. Haha. As long as his relationship with others would have limits. =D
But if I don't feel secure with the guy, I'd tell it to him honestly.. I'll confront him that I'm jealous and I'll let him choose. I guess the reaction would really depend on the seriousness and depth of your relationship.. SO knowing that it's just an internet thing and not the real thing.. probably I won't get jealous.. =D but if it becomes too much, I'll confront him about it.
@sonusd (1547)
• India
20 Jun 09
Friends who ever have read this posts please be concious because I want to share one of my own experience,my girl friend was chatting with a guy just for fun and making him fool but after some day Ifeel that they are spending more time then me also because that guy has started saying that he has financially problem, family problem and so manythings and some emotional type of things so she showed sympathy to him and slowly slowly it converted to love, I do not blame her because from my side there may be any lack of love or may be that guy has more convincing quality wwhat ever it may be but finally I loose my girl friend so never give your boy friend /girl friend to do all these at least in front of you
@zzyw87 (1254)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
If my guy flirted with a woman on the internet, I will get hurt and jealous. I will also let him know my feelings. Sometimes, there are other women on the internet who flirts with him especially on facebook. After I told him I am hurt by the flirting, he stopped. He explained to him for him it was just harmless and nothing more. He does not even know the person personally. Well, I don't go so far as to consider this cheating because it is not.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
In the net I dont think so , its just a kind of friendship
I think. I will not be jealous if its in the net but if in
real I will be. I just observe him and check whether he did
it or not. I just make it a surveilnce to my partner but I will
not ask until I found it. Its normal to be jealous if it is
real but if in the net I will not have a big deal for it.
Depends on the situation happen.
@check23 (448)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
I trust my husband so much, i know him well and doesn't do any kind of mistake that has to do with girls. But if he does, i will surely get jealous but it is not that serious problem. I encountered a kind of guy like that, who loves to flirt online and personal. He was my last boyfriend before i marry my husband. At first when he did it, as i said it is not that big problem so i forgave him even i got hurt but he did it again and again and again. He said he love me and he can't live without me. And that's what he said to all his girls too. What a crap! Well enough is enough. I hate guys who do that. They have a girlfriend and then flirt other girls too. Why can't be contented with just one? It's not just a game and it's definitely not an imagination because the girl they flirt with is existing and breathing. Grrr! Hehehe! =P
@AndrewBoi (369)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Yeah of course, i will be jealous if my lover will flirt anyone, anywhere, anytime, and in any form (internet, cellphone, in person, etc). Yes, flirting in the internet is a form of cheating. If I knew my lover is flirting to someone else, I woul end up our relationship immediately.
@sharkee (64)
• China
20 Jun 09
Not really, I would probably allow that to happen and I'm sure it has. I do believe there's a limit to the flirting, and feelings can develop online but everyone's got a certain responsibility to hold when they're in a relationship so if he screws that up then that's not on me.
@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
20 Jun 09
Hi, icesmile. I will definitely be jealous if my lover flirt with someone on the net. I got a serious attitude toward love. It is only when two persons find them sharing something in common and having a strong attachment to each other can they decide to be in relationship. From that very moment, he/she means the one in his/her partner's heart though they do not really swear oath or something. To me, love means the faithfulness and loyalty to one's partner. Of course I don't mean that we can't have other friends of the opposite gender. It's normal that my partner has many female friends. But the point is he should know how to control his act. There must be no emotional attachment between he and his female friends, no matter it is in real life or in virtual life like the internet. So if he flirts with someone on the net, that means he's no longer faithful to me. In that case, I'll break up with him immediately.
Just my personal idea. Happy mylotting!
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Flirting is going to be with us for a long time and I don't know if it means something to some people. It would surely raise alarm bells with me if it happened to me. I would be worried if my mate flirted. That is a danger sign. Cheers!!
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
No one can really know what the person on the other side of the monitor is doing. It is hard to find someone honest here on the net. But I am not being cynical. Others have been really truthful on the net, ending up in real relationship.
If on my side, I am 100 % honest with this person, and I accidentally find out that he is flirting with someone, then I think there is no reason for us to continue the frienship. If at first he can not be totally honest, what more in real life.
@marianna45 (1399)
• Romania
19 Jun 09
I am sure that love exist to net, as exist in real too.
Who like to flirt in real, will flirt to net too.
Of course i will feel hurt if somebody who i am in a relation, talk with others how talk with me. Yes, i am jealous if i care about somebody. If i don t care of course i never feel jealousy.
Any way, who like just flirt, is not serious, and never will be to net or in real.