Woman must to change all time shes look , to keep man interest alive?
By icesmile
@icesmile (7160)
Romania
June 20, 2009 6:56am CST
Are woman who all the time try to change something in shes look, change hair color, change many styles in clothes, try to be more atractive every day. Do you think that this can help keep a man interest alive? Or a man want to have same woman, same look every day, nothing change? Long hair? she must keep always she hair long. Classic clothes? Never change she style because shes man like this style.
So, a woman must to be "other" woman every day or she must keep shes style all the time? What man like?What woman make to keep man interest alive? All time something new or all to be as was always?
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26 responses
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Yes if it is also the likes of your man.
Every man has individual likes and deslikes.
As you are together long time you know what the taste
of your spouse whether he likes it or not. And you know
how to be flexible for him to attract his attention.
Some other man dont like too much tyle in the hair
and make up others do like also.
@angemac23 (2003)
• Canada
20 Jun 09
Men should be happy with that their women look like all the time....women should not have to change the way they look to make a man happy...the many should be happy with her no matter what she looks like.
@nosferatu07 (404)
• Denmark
20 Jun 09
I think men want change but not every day. I mean my boyfriends likes me the way I am but he really appreciates when I wear a skirt instead of my regular jeans and he likes it when I wear makeup because I don't do it every day.
The trick is to know what your partner likes and find the balance with your own willingness to offer change or to spice up your life.
@nosferatu07 (404)
• Denmark
20 Jun 09
Yeah I do think that. I guess it wont hurt to men do the same actually. LOL
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@mentalward (14690)
• United States
21 Jun 09
Thinking about this in reverse, I'd have to say that it doesn't matter to me if my husband stayed the same or changed his appearance. He didn't have a beard when we met but he does not. I really don't care one way or the other. I did not fall in love with him because of his looks.
I firmly believe that it's what is inside a person that keeps interest alive. If interest is only based on what a person looks like, then it's not love, it's lust.
If a man is interested in other women, that's a good indication that he's either not happy at home or he can't be tied down to just one woman and should never have gotten married. Looking at other women is one thing, but acting on it is completely different.
I think that acting a bit out of character every now and then adds interest and excitement in any relationship but, if it takes looking completely different, then that relationship is too superficial for me!
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
21 Jun 09
Hi icesmile! I don't really think that a woman has to change the way she looks to keep her man pleased. Afterall..he married her because he liked the way she looked. I do think it's nice to mix it up a bit here and there...keep things exciting. I don't mean like with hair or makeup...I think a lot of men like their women natural. I mean like getting a special night gown every now and again or planning special alone time with him. I'm not a man though..so..?..lol
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
i guess not. the thing that made you a hit with your man is probably what he saw in you. i think he will prefer to see the same thing and not another lady the next time.
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
25 Aug 09
I never bought into the idea that women need to change, and do all the work to keep men interested. I just want to be myself, and I always have been, My husband feels the same way. We are happy with eachother just as we are, and no one needs to do any changing to keep the other's interest.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
22 Jun 09
Hello icesmile,
I don't think that women must change how they look all the times just to keep the interest of their man alive. There are many aspect to look at, so that a relationship will be able to last long. I did ask my husband once, whether he wants me to be like this or like that for example, and his answer was amazing. It is not because of my look only that makes him stay in love with me. I asked him too, why do pretty and beautiful women are also left by the person that they love so much, and again his answer - it is not because of beautiful aspect only that can make men to stay. My opinion is that, there are just too many aspects in life that we need to look into just to be happily together. You might be the prettiest girl in the group but it doesn't mean you are the happiest among all
@pratyushtamhankar (859)
• India
20 Jun 09
Change comes along...
I wouldn't mind my girlfriend to change her looks and neither would I mind her keeping the same looks. Although she likes to change her looks a lot and I don't have a say in it. What I always think is that I fell in love with her the way she was. So I wouldn't want her to change if she doesn't want to. But if she wants to do a makeover, I have full faith in her that she would take the best decision...
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
that's a nice question and probably one that has baffled women over the ages. but i think the answer depends on the woman herself. i think it doesn't have to do with trying to be attractive or changing all the time. i think it is basically trying to take care of herself. as long as this doesn't get in the way of her role as a wife and as a mother then i think no man can ever deny this "simple" pleasure to a woman .
@my_name_is_coco (4333)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
I actually change my hair or looks because I want to.I don't do it for the sake of pleasing a guy.right now,I want to have my hair curled into big waves.I know guys love long,straight hair.but I'll go for the curls because they look good on me.I don't care if guys find it repulsive.I'll curl my hair because I want to.
@dknkyle (446)
• Singapore
12 Sep 09
This is true for some women, but not for all women in this world I would say. There are women who loves to change their image very often just to satisfy their men but some are just doing it for their own interest.
Some women change their image when they're tired of their old image and wanted something new to look fresh while some just like to go by the trend and try out something new in order to keep up with the latest trends. There are also women who change their image because they find a certain new image attractive on someone and as a result they wanted so much to try it out on themselves.
As a man, I think not all women change their image just for the interest of man because I do experience women who insist on a certain image which many men find weird or ugly reason being they are doing it just because it satisfy them.
@janette2009 (168)
• United States
22 Jun 09
I believe that maybe sometimes we should try a little something different. Maybe not just for our "men" but for ourselves as well. Being ourselves is what matters the most, so whatever we're comfortable with. If we find the right man, I believe he will love us for who we are, and accept us in any shape style or form.
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
21 Jun 09
IcePeople who love us don't have to be kept interested artificially. They love us for whom we are. If we have to work that hard at a relationship, it isn't much of a relationship.
@thanusha85 (532)
• Malaysia
21 Jun 09
Well I think womans would always change their appearance not only to keep their man with them but to follow the trend. It is important for them to be updated with latest fashion and style as is she is not then there is high chances for a man to be attracted to another person. Very seldom I see mans who want their woman to remain the same. They prefer their womans to change with time.
Thanusha
@yoyozhou (356)
• China
21 Jun 09
I think it is OK to keep yourself. I want to say,that women change their cloth,hairs or other things is not for men but for themsleves. All of women want to be pretty,fashion,special.So women change themsleves.They wanna feel good and have confidence. If a man love you,I think he don't care your apearance too much. There must be some special personality of you to attract him.So just be yourself.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
It is important that a woman should always try to reinvent herself to spice up the relationship. A man is very appreciative of beauty. If he sees you as someone pleasing to his eyes, then, it is less likely that he would go astray. The woman should not only concentrate on the physical appearance but also on improving her knowledge. It would help if there is something valuable you can talk to and share with.
@mypriv8link (180)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
I think that change happens everyday. It is the only thing that is constant in this world. Everyone changes every second. And when it comes to the very relationship between man and woman, I think that change is essential otherwise things become stagnant. I dont think a woman should be pressured to change herself physically though, simply to keep a guy interested. If she decides to change her looks, its to satisfy her, to boost her self-confidence. Confidence is one of the many things that attracts a guy to a woman.