Can parents really avoid hitting their children?
By Azaerus
@Azaerus (820)
Philippines
June 20, 2009 7:07am CST
I know there's a law that parents can't hurt their children,but in some cases parents really can't avoid in huring their child..
Children today is much different from the children in the old days..I would say that the average of children today are way spoiled..they get whatever they want whenever they want,all they gotta do is cry out loud..haays spoiled brats..this kids are raised in the wrong way..
In some situations,a parents patience also has limitations,and when the child has reached the highest level of their parents temper,the parent loses it and hurts the child..the usual thing that parents do is slap their mouth or hands or butt..I think that's enough punishment for a child..parents should also know when to stop punishing their child..
In some cases the parent punishes the child way too much until such things happen that even the childs life is put in a great danger..I have watched a news yesterday about a young boy beaten up to death by his father because he doesn't want to study..the father hit the boy several times in the back with a really hard wood..he has lost his temper and didn't notice that his son coudn't take anymore of his beating..he left his son in the house when he realized he was dead and went in the police station and admit everything he did..he coudn't forgive himself of what he did..he was really sorry but his sorry can't bring back his sons' life..
Sad to know this kind of stuff happens..:(
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14 responses
@klw5000 (213)
• United States
20 Jun 09
I do believe that parents should discipline their children. If they have to resort to spanking to make them follow orders, then they should. I have to say I have 2 wonderful children and I can't tell you the last time either of them needed to be spanked or even disciplined. I have been divorced for 15 years and they are now 15 and 17. We were always together when they were young because I didn't have anyone to babysit, so I didn't go out and if 1 had something to do, we all did it. I feel like there are limits to everything, if you love your children and teach them properly, without over indulgence in anything they will respect you. Children today are spoiled. Parents think they have to give them material items, but those things are given in place of time and attention. Children need the attention more than a playstation or xbox. Spending time with them and getting to REALLY know them is more important than anything you could ever give them and they will behave in the same manner that you do. Lead by example!!!!!!
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
I totally agree with you..in some cases spanking is really needed but not too much though..sometimes it is needed for the children to obey and respect their parents..on the other hand parents should guide them and give attention to them so the bond between parent and child will be stronger..
@imgrandma12 (677)
• United States
20 Jun 09
I HAVE NEVER HIT MY CHILDREN I HAD SIX OF COURSE YOU HAVE TO BE CONSTANT WHEN IT COMES TAKING AWAY THINGS THEY LIKE AND ETC AND YOU HAVE TO MAKE SURE YOU CAN FOLLOW THREW WITH WHAT YOU SAY AND DOING ALSO CHURCH AND GOD AND TEACHING YOUR CHILD FROM A EARLY TO HELP AND LOVE OTHERS i THINK i DID PRETTY WELL WITH MY CHILDREN THEY ARE GROWN AND HAVE FAMILYS OF THEIR OWN TO ME SPANKY CHILDREN TEACHES THEM IT OKAY INFLICK PAIN TO OTHERS
@WilliamC87 (163)
• United States
20 Jun 09
I think there is a fine line between abuse and hitting a child. I dont think that people should hit thier children with any kind of force but sometimes a child desearves a spankin. I think that the spankin should mostly be applied in situations where the child could get harmed, or cause harm to someone else. I personaly have raised a couple and kids and feel that sometimes nothing but a spankin is gonna fix the problem.
I do agree that children now are alot diffrent then the old days and mostly have everything handed to them. Kids are alot more rebelious and feel like they dont have to listen to anyone, especially thier own parents.
@arkansos (545)
• India
20 Jun 09
Well, its not about how bad the children are....Its mostly about whether you should hit them. If your boss is an evil person. I mean really evil. Hides the remote for the TV in the lobby, do you smack. Why should kid be an exception. If it gets to a point where you have to hit your kid, I question your parenting skills, no offense
@marites31 (267)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
the parents are the models for the children, if they hit them, they should explain why. hitting is diffent from beating. the parent way of hitting should be in a disciplinarian way that the child will not have any phobia or bad experience about it rather, the child should learn from the mistake. and hitting should never cause any marks, losses or even feeling of hardly hurt on the part of the child.
@magkaperaonline (18)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
I am thinking if you are from Phil. This was the same news I have seen in tv yesterday. Same situation happened with the 7 yr. old boy beaten and killed by his own father. We as parents should always understand our children. Of course there are instances that we can't avoid hitting them as part of discipline but we must take control for each action. We must always put in our mind that our no.1 responsibility is to take care of them. "Too much can kill..."
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
Yes im live here in Phils.,I dont often watch news because of some reports like that..it's kind'a bothersome for me..that's why I swear that when the time comes that I'm going to have children I'll find better ways to discipline them and not hurt them..
@Cdjran2015 (273)
• Manila, Philippines
11 Oct 15
I hit my sons if they don't follow my instruction so that they will learn how to obey. Nowadays, kids are so different in our time. If you cannot hit them, they think that we can always forgive their wrong doings. There are kids who needs hit and kids who don't. I can say depends.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
I used to wonder that same question when i was younger, my dad used to spank us whenever we make mistakes. No that im a mother, i tried my best to be as patient a possible. Whenever he makes mistakes, i make sure we talk about it and not get mad at him. He may still be 6 y/o but he already know how to talk and can already somehow undertand things youre talking about. I dont want him to feel what i felt before, getting beaten by my dad, i feel sorry for the boy.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
21 Jun 09
I think hitting can be avoided. It is wrong. I raised 4 on my own and yes I do know about stress. Still...hitting is not an answer. One of my girls was so very frustrating to raise..you'd not believe it. Still, with the exception of once when I lost control...she was 16 almost 17...I picked that little girl up and flipped her over and I paddled her behind with my open hand. She held her head!! They are grown and good kids...very good kids.it can be done. My daughter laughs about that incident and I still will look at it as a weak moment on my part.
@ladyjinggay (76)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
It is really sad that these things are happening. I have heard about similar incidents and it horrible. I have never hit my child ever since. If he commits some mistakes or mis behave, I talk to my child and inform him that such is bad and should not be done again. I can see that it works. What is important is that our children will respect us, not fear us.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Yes by being calm in solving the misunderstanding between
the kids. Control the temper so that we cannot go beyongd our
anger in them. Sometimes as the need or events happen we
can open u minds that why I have done this.So in very move
we should thin it twice.
@lolislol (82)
• Finland
21 Jun 09
My parents never hitted me they just shouted and i believed after it, but today children are different, some even ignore parents wholeoutly doing what they want, and parents can't affect it without taking physical action, like hitting, but without no reason i don't think it's good.
@shauryagupta (92)
• India
21 Jun 09
Its the fault of children , they must not be to harsh towards their parents and must obey them. Parents also love their children and they know whats good for them, they wont just turn mad and kill their child with no reason. They just scold the child to improve him. If the child does the mistake again and again then parents must slap him so as to improve him. A child must know that their parents are much more experienced and must obey their parents
