Absence makes the heart grow fonder, is this true?
By workinggurl
@workinggurl (399)
Philippines
5 responses
@ryaeneolver (87)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
I guess it depends on the persons who are involved in a long distance relationship,I have a friend of mine who has a long distance relationship, at first everything was in good terms, until lately she felt that something was wrong... her boyfriend was changing, he didnt make any phonecalls anymore and she wondered why, until one day, her bf told her that they should end up their relationship,he also told her that he already had a gf... So I think the saying absence makes the heart grow fonder is not always true...
@workinggurl (399)
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
Hi ryaeneolver 
yeah to some it doesn't hold true especially nowadays, but again as what nanayangel posted it depends upon the person involve and the kind of relationship that they have. Happy mylotting
yeah to some it doesn't hold true especially nowadays, but again as what nanayangel posted it depends upon the person involve and the kind of relationship that they have. Happy mylotting
@swtpareek (650)
• United States
21 Jun 09
Absolutely right!! I think when you don't see your loved ones for quite some time then you realise how much you love them and how much their presence means to you. I was away from my family for just a week when i went on a trip from college and I really missed them very badly!! I woulud call them three or more times a day and really felt home-sick. Though the feeling subsides in a while to some extent but still one feels nostalgic in long distance relationships.
@workinggurl (399)
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
Hi Swtpareek, i can't imagine being away with my family for a very long time :) but yeah we'll just get use to it in the long run. Happy mylotting.
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
My boyfriend is miles away from me and my love for him keeps growing with each passing day, so maybe absence does make the heart grow fonder. Still, I believe it depends on the type of person that the heart belongs to. I mean, there are people who seem to find it difficult to be loyal and faithful to their loveones and so they wander and venture into someone else's arms thinking that playing with fire could take away the loneliness that they feel because of the great distance between them and their loveones. But not me, I'm not one of those people. I love my boyfriend and it will stay that way, come what may.
@workinggurl (399)
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
Your boyfriend is lucky to have you maple_kisses :)...yes some would play with fire in order to take away the loneliness for the meantime but by doing so they might lose the most important thing they the very person that they love and betrayed.
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
Hi there Working Gurl!
I have read a saying from a book that goes something like, absence is like the wind which blows a fire. It extinguishes the small ones but makes the big ones stronger. I think that shows that it depends upon the quality of the relationship and the personality of both parties are. If they are both strong and God fearing, and they have a really deep, meaningful, special relationship, then absence will make the heart go fonder but if not, it will do the opposite.
@workinggurl (399)
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
I strongly agree with you nanayangel, I think it depends on how deep the relationship and how committed are the couple and also their values. thanks for the reply.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
It really depends on each person's capability to be able to wait for each other. Being honest and faithful to that person whom you don't see every passing day. It is rather a challenge for some, a very difficult hurdle to overcome until they just decide to relent and not cling on to that person whom they don't get to see everyday. Of course, if they still want to keep in touch, and since technology has made it possible for quick communications, they could still send each other messages or even call each other if their voices are the closest that they can think of to satiate their longing for each other.
There are some success stories and there are those that didn't end so well. At any rate, it just depends on those involved if they would make it happen or not at all, even with all the difficulties that they encounter like coercions and temptations.
