Is this worng to expect something who is close to you?

i think its not wrong to expect something to somebody else, especially one that close to us. i believe those who close to us expect something to us too, in any form.. just take and give, sharing each other, loving and to be loved.. we expect and need each other. maybe i'll be disappointed if somebody close to me deny to give what we asked, but we better look the reason, situation, why they denies someting we ask first.

I expected too much from my parents, and they never refused me. frankly, I never thought for them.One day,I suddenly felt I was wrong because both of them were too old to earn more money, and it is time I should do something for them.

I think that it is wrong to have expectations of anyone. People will never cease to shock, and surprise you. Aside from the fact that to have expectations of someone does not obligate them to fulfill either your material or emotional roles or needs. Expectation is another way of abdicating the responsibility that each of us has when we see something we want, or something that we feel we need but do not have and have no other way to get than to ask someone else to give us theirs. That is not fair. Nor do we have the right to be hurt or mad when someone we ask things of tells us no or grows tired of us always taking things and expecting things. It is best not to put them in the position to say no to you, and it is never a good position to put yourself into to get hurt feelings when someone won't give us something that does not belong to us, and that we are not entitled through our work.

hi dark sorrow, People close to us can be family or friends. if you dont expect them to come to your rescue when ever you are in dire needs then what is the use of such family or friendship. It is not only money but also other things like they use their contacts when you need them the same way you would use them when they need you. Now i would not only be sad but very hurt and would show my hurt if my brother refuse me anything which he has or can do. We must see that if the person we are asking for help can help or not but if he can then he must or he is not so close or not worth being close to.

I have learnt that "expecting" is no a good thing in life and will most of the time leave you disappointed. There is no harm in expecting a few things from your near and dear ones but it is very important to communicate it. Like if i expect my mother to do something, i would prefer telling her about my expectations politely. It would hurt if she tells me that she cannot do that, but i alwyas try to remain cool. Probably the other person has some other priority, who knows!

it is just human nature. we are all human. when someone is really close to us, we naturally have gown a feeling that want to be dependant on him. out of this or that , in my opion, we all expect something. It hard to answer this one with simple words like yes or wrong. It is what it is. When the one fail to live up to your hugh expectation, you can put him on a blame after all.

Frankly, i am not so often expect something from the people around myself. i dont' know why . maybe i dont' like them. or am too selfish? i am puzzeled. with regard to your situation, i think i'ts normal to ask somehting from your love, but when refused, you shouldn't feel that you have lose your face. maybe, that doesn't mean they dont; like you. everything depends.

Hello darksorrow, This is one question which is a little bit hard for me to answer I don't think it is too much if you expect something from people really close to you but at the same time, I also don't know how much is too much for you to expect from someone that is close to you For example, I have a best friend and I know pretty well that she is just a best friend to me and she has a family and people closer to her beside me. But when I expect something from her and she can't give that, I pretty much annoyed and sometimes, feel a bit sad with her. I don't know too whether it is right or not for me to have that feelings....Well, maybe we are in the same boat!

Well for me it is really wrong to expect more from the people who close to us coz when they can't give what we want it makes us upset and give us hurt fellings. So better not to expect just contented what they give to you and wait. If they asks you what you want then that's your chance tell them your wishes. Like me, i don't expect anything from my hubby, i just wait that he asks me for what i want and he do his best to give it to me. Happy posting.

Hi there, This is human nature to expect something from the ones who are close to us. The expectation might not come to the fore that you are expecting something. The wheel of our life is based on give and take. But remember this should be equal and mutual. Suppose you have a very influential friend and you are sort of in a fix. In this case expecting something from this influential in nor wrong.

hi, that was a really good question, i expect people to be like me, i expect a lot from others and in the end i get disappointed. i learned not to have any expectations on anyone. but i guess that is human nature and we all have that quality in us. PSYCHIATRIST say that our lives will be happy without expectations. i guess that is the formula to be happy in live. we wont be disappointed or hurt. goodluck

I think it's not wrong to expect something from person who close to us.Usually,if we feel close with someone and so does them,we will need each other and will hep each other.So,i think it's ok.And if they can't help me or can't give something that I expect,it's ok to disappointed but don't hate them.There is not good to coerce them.

I don`t think it is wrong. People who close to us must have kind of connetion. They are the ones who loved or trusted by us. Therefore, if we get success or fail may expect the close ones can do the same things to success or to fulfill our dreams. However, if they deny the expection, I wouldn`t feel angry. Everyone has his or her own life style and ambition. I can`t impose my willing on them. I am happy if what they do can make themselves successful. That is enough. So wish they luck sincerely.

it is human nature to feel that way. for us, we should love unconditionally. let if flow and let God give us the graces

Hi there Dark! Interesting topic you have here! I very, very rarely ask because I don't like imposing on people. I don't want them to have to be in a bad situation where they might want (or have) to deny my request so I prefer not to create that problem for them. It didn't happen a few years ago that I had a very bad financial problem and I just had to ask and indeed I knew that it would be a problem for some of those that I was asking. On the other hand if we do not ask help from those who are close to us them whoshould we ask? I always let my friends know that if they have a problem then they must ask and if I can then I will help. They also know that I will if I can and I would rather they ask and I have the chance to refuse than not ask for fear of hurting my feelings and that is how I tend to deal with the situation should it happen again to me. So far so good and I have not created problems onthe few occasions that I have needed help. Only once did I not ask my son for something and when he found out that I had not asked I got a right telling off from him so I know how to handle it and how he would view a similar situation should it arise.

I feel bad when someone denies me of my request and it has nothing to do with whether the person is close to me or not. About whether it is wrong to expect, I can only say there is nothing right or wrong in these things and all it matters is whether you feel comfortable or not. For me, I don't really expect something as return as I do believe that when you expect more, you will just lose more in the end.