Got thrown off my bus seat.......

We have a similar situation in the US - except a lot of seats are reserved for seniors (the elderly); it's not based on gender. I don't think it's fair to have seats especially reserved for women - that doesn't seem right to me. Men & women alike should be able to sit on any section they'd like.

I'm a girl but I just wanted to say that I had a similar situation. When I was 15 I had been walking around for ages in Manchester, UK (probably has walked about 6 miles) and was so happy to finally get on a bus home. My legs were incredibly tired and it was such a relief to sit down (I did not want the day out, I was forced to walk around for ages with my parents). A few stops later, an old man came onto the bus and all of the seats were full. Being the age that I was and looked, everyone looked at me as if it was my job to get up and offer my seat. Seeing as my dad was there, I turned and stated that my feet were hurting a lot. I refused to get up but to my dismay not a single other person got up for the elderly man and I was given bad stares all around. I was about to give up and get up but luckily he was only on the bus for a couple of stops.

Personally I would never have given that lady a chance to start lecturing me because even if I was too tired to stand I would have at least tried. Maybe if I fell on the floor she would have said to keep the seat but I would have tried. I was raised to respect my elders, even if they don't deserve it. :)

to be frank, I don't always give my seat to other people. but every time I fail to give me seat to an old person, I feel guilty really. I normally take long bus ride, and the buses are always overcrowded, sometimes I really can't afford to give my seat to others. but if we change our position with elderly, we would better understand that old people really are less energetic and they need seats more than any of us young guys.

If I was really tired then I would not have given my seat to that old lady. In normal situation I would have given the seat as I do . As it is there is already too much of reservation in every fields for women in your country more than any other country in the world still some of the women are complaining unnecessarily. That is a different issue but I would not have given up my seat if I was tired even if the whole people of the bus were against me.

I have alot of problems with this. I am not obviously disabled in fact I'm not disabled but my health affects me so much I am unable to drive, which means I have to use public transport, most commonly the bus. Now, getting the bus for me is tiring itself even when I get to sit down and standing up for me for half an hour at a time simply isn't an option. So I get enormously frustrated when I get frowned upon for wanting to sit down. Just because my illness is visible on the outside doens't mean it isn't there. I am not the healthy 20 year old woman people may think I am. Yet still I am normally the one who gives up seats for the elderly and I end up sitting on the floor. I don't know why someone who is more than capable of standing could give up their seat too. I notice it is always the young adults that are pin pointed as being bad people when it's always us who give up the seats.

We dont have public transportation where I live, however I think she was very rude. Being older does not give you the right to lecture or embarrass anyone. I like you would have gotten up but I would have told her that my legs hurt and she was rude. I didnt know that there was special sitting for the old and disabled. It does seem that they get more then the fair share with those percents.

It's OK dude.. You could have told her that your legs hurt cos of the football and asked her to ask someone else to give their seat to her. I know people do this very often. In fact the next time make sure that you catch a seat that is not meant for handicapped or elderly people cos you never know when your luck will run out. I know that we do good all the time and when we really need help people wont get back to us the way we want them to, but I guess that's just life.. bourne

I don't think that mem are made to suffer pain. I think the old woman was just nasty. She could have asked to be seated in the area for the elderly... You did have your ten percent after all. I think you just happened to be in the wrong place and the wrong time. Better luck next time!

really, we should get up and give a old lady or a female our seat. but when someone go about that way. tough break granny. i tell her sorry i hurt my leg. had my nephew grandma do that too me, i smile and got up and said dam for how old you are you have no manners

not really.boys are really expected to give their seat to female,especially the old and the pregnant.they are expected to be a gentleman.however,with what the old lady did,it's rude.no need to lecture people on virtue and kindness.

WOW! Where do you live? I have never heard of seats being reserved on a bus! I think it's wonderful that someone would give up their seat for an elderly person, however, around here, there aren't many handicapped people who would take a normal bus...we have special buses for them. And since we have more younger kids riding the bus, 10% would certainly not be good around here.

Hi Harshrosicky, I'm sorry to hear about your bad experience. Please don't hate the grandmother or the people who eyeballed you. Though you were tired and exhausted you still gave your seat to her. Just take it positively and walk pass it! It's just one of God's test towards you and you've passed. Good on you!

i dont fink dat boys are made 2 suffer pain,, for me, i fink that the old lady is quite rude!

I am a female bit I do not really approve of this Harsh! we make a hue and cry of women's lib, equality of men and women but see how we fight for reservation! Its sad, we must have a true understanding of our beliefs, values and what do we want.

I'm sorry to hear that.. I know what you feeling after a long day football practice.. However, no matter how tired or sleepy a guy is, whenever they get in a bus, subway or any public transportation, a courtesy of giving the seat to a woman, a senior and the handicapped seems to be a must especially when it's crowded.. You know, as giving respect to them.. On the other hand, if your feel like you needed rest, might as well, tell it to them that you needed to rest your knees after a long day of practice just to let them know(whoever you must offer the seat) rather sitting there without saying a word.. It's much better to let the elders and women know how you feel rather not, and think of you being UN-gentleman.. I hope you have a good rest though..

lol no boys were not made to suffer but they were made to be stronger. I understand your frustration on this and the old lady had no right to lecture you on that. I think the fact that she babbled out at you without her giving you a chance to make the seat available then you had the right not to offer it to her. But in my case regardless of how tired I am, If there is someone that looks like they need a seat more than I do, I usually offer my seat.