I have selfless friends......Yeah right...
@siddharthjeevan (645)
India
June 21, 2009 10:21am CST
I see myself as a stoic person who is not affected by life and keeps a straight face even through the toughest challenges.I always take friends for granted and never care much about there welfare.But yesterday something happened that completely changed my outlook on life and the way i see my friends.
Yesterday i was not at home the entire day. And since i was away from home i told my neighbour to take care of the house while i was gone. I trusted him with the keys and told him to contact me if anything went wrong. Well when i came home at night i saw that the lights were on and the front door was open. When i entered the house what i saw was that the entire place was a mess and my neighbour sleeping drunk on the couch. There were a couple of his friends there as well. He had thrown a party AT MY HOUSE, messed up my entire house and didn't even bother apologizing. I guess its my fault for trusting him. I learned my lesson yesterday. Have you ever had a situation where your friends took advantage of you
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11 responses
@Glow1971 (354)
• Spain
21 Jun 09
Wow this is terrible! I'm sorry that your friend was extremely inconsiderate and disrespectful in doing what he did. You have absolutely every right to be upset about your friend doing this to your apartment and leaving the doors open for anyone to just come in whenever they feel like it and not to mention you found him on your couch passed out drunk. Now you know you can't rely on your neighbor to take care of your apartment and perhaps you thought you could trust him but it's obvious you are not able to trust him to care for your house. Oh and on top of everything he had a party at your house! What is this guys problem?? He obviously doesn't respect your household and I hope you have understood you can't trust him anymore. Ask someone else that you trust the next time you need someone to care for your apartment. We work too hard for the things we have and for someone to just disrespect and destroy our houses is not acceptable.
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@siddharthjeevan (645)
• India
21 Jun 09
I moved into the apartment 2 months back and he really seemed alright. He behaved well and never did these kinds of things. I never expected this from him
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
22 Jun 09
I have had selfish friends and that is why they arent my friends anymore. I however how a best friend and I trust her with everything. It took awhile to find that one. I dont have many because it really is the way I like it. I have a full life with my family and dont feel the need for many friends. I do have a few more friends but I dont consider them a best friend.
@siddharthjeevan (645)
• India
22 Jun 09
Yes i too have a best friend but after this experience i'm not sure about who to trust and who not to right now
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
22 Jun 09
That is totally understandable, when what I thought was my best friend screwed me over I didnt do anything with anyone other then family for quite awhile as I didnt trust anyone. It takes awhile to build that trust up. In my case I have decided less is best too.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
21 Jun 09
This is most uncivil! I just cannot imagine doing that myself to anyone. How could some people are like that! You have learnt the lesson and wiser today. i remember once lending my degree course books, valuable ones to some needy student. He on his part totally forgot about it and let alone studying for the exam sold them off! i was demoralised to a great extent!
@siddharthjeevan (645)
• India
21 Jun 09
I learned my lesson alright. Learned it the hard way. Never going to forget this experience
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
Oh my God, what kind of person they are. Do you check all your things and stuff, kindly check it if it still complete because maybe they are not the only one entered the house, maybe there are other people because they are sleeping and drunk. Atleast now you learn your lesson to do not just trust anyone now.
@siddharthjeevan (645)
• India
22 Jun 09
Yes i did check all my stuff. Thank you for asking grecychunny. Thankfully none of them seem to be missing.
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
Well just don't give him your keys anymore. He left the door open, that's just terrible. If you don't have any pets, its okay just to leave the house locked. It's more dangerous if other people know about your keys or other locker combination. You can always trust your family, its rare to have good trusted friends. Just imagine, he's all drunk and none of his friends are there when you arrive... who knows what might have happened, you don't even know who his friends are. Just don't be too trusty...
@siddharthjeevan (645)
• India
22 Jun 09
Yes i know. But he seemed a nice person you know. I've known him for 2 months and i never thought of him like this
@createmoney (209)
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
there are a lot of my friends who are fair weatherd friend. and that's the way it is. they are born to do that. it's up to us to adjust and stay away from them
@siddharthjeevan (645)
• India
22 Jun 09
Yes i failed to realize his flaws and i have suffered for that. I have learant my lesson and don't plan on repeating it
@savypat (20216)
• United States
21 Jun 09
This has got to be such a disappointment to you, look carefully at what you had known about your friend in the past and you may have some clue of what to look out for in your new friends. Remember that if people treat others with disrespect sooner or later they will treat you that way. Learn your lesson well. Blessings
@siddharthjeevan (645)
• India
22 Jun 09
Thanks for the response savypat. I'll try to follow your advice from now onwards
@shirley183 (252)
• China
22 Jun 09
Well,as i think you trust your neighbour so much,can i say if he didn't act you a friend and just a neighbour.I think a friend indeed is a friend in need.I have lots friends,and we talk everythink and help each other.
@marcyyyy (517)
• United States
22 Jun 09
You had said you take your friends for granted and don't care about their welfare. Is that being a good friend? I'm so sorry about what happened! It's a shame you couldn't trust your neighbor! But is your neighbor, really your friend? You really didn't say that. WOW! I've never had anything like that happen to me, and we've left keys with friends to take care of our place while on vacation. What a shame!!!
@deepzholic (256)
• India
22 Jun 09
i really feel sorry for you......i never had a situation like your but yes...i used to trust my friend a lot and i was also back stabbed.......and trusted him blindly that i used to believe whatever he used to say to me.....i never thought that he would do that to me......he spoilt my name i my entire college.....he made stories of m and told to the entire class just for fun........he wanted some entertainment so he used me.....
@Sangkala (238)
• Indonesia
21 Jun 09
what you call friend maybe not a really "friend". did you know him for long or just a new friend? if you know him for long you should know who he really are, and if you know who he really are you shouldn't trust him to take care of your house and even give her your house key.
i think you just need to be more becareful next time..
and i feel sorry about the situation you had..
