Does anyone else Mom drive them crazy ??????????????????
By JRoberson
@JRoberson (82)
United States
June 21, 2009 11:30pm CST
I believe my mom only contacts me to drive me crazy. It's always something with her and it seems that everything is going fine she will find something to try to flip my life upside down. I feel like she always wants something to hold over my head, she wants me to be her puppet or something. I'm grown now and I feel like cutting her off, people tell me that I shouldn't because I would be wrong for doing that. This woman stress me out so bad that at one point my hair was coming out, and I had bad migraines. My hair has grown back, and it is very rare that I have a migraine, I think it's because I no longer talkk to her as much. It just seems like she is always trying to get something started. I dbout she cares anything for me or her grandchildren which she might get them for one night every other year, which is too much for my liking cause I don't want her to rub off on them. One example: she is a Jehovah's witness I attend a Baptist church but we both were raised in a Holiness church, after I went through my club stage, I started going to chruch faithfully, she told me that it would be better if I went to clubs and ran the street than attend a church, that everyone that goes to chruch isn't going to make it to paradise(their Heaven). I think that if someone goes to any church to better themselves, that isn't harming anyone else, then good for them and everyone else. I don't respect her, trust her, or even consider her as a mother figure. I feel like this woman was not there for me how she should have been when I was growing up, so why should I have to deal with her now. I'm 2 second from changing my phone number. What would you do? I know she carried me for nine months and gave birth to me but what happened to those 18 years when she was suppose to be my mother? Does the fact that she gave birth to me give her the right to drive me crazy for the rest of my life, I'm glad I'm here but honestly I didn't ask HER to have part in that.
3 responses
@JRoberson (82)
• United States
22 Jun 09
That's another point too. I know there is no set mold for what a normal relationship with a parent is suppose to be, but we have never really done anything together besides her taking me to the park when I was five (that's it). I see other people with their moms and there are things that they do together rather it is mother and son or mother and daughter, I never had that with her and I started out slow asking her to come over for dinner so we could get to know each other and she had a million excuses. So I asked her about going out to different places (like the movies or something), and she started treating me like I was a bill collector or something, I learned that that was a good way to get rid of her for a while. When ever she starts coming back around she acts like she wants to know how I'm doing and acts like she's concerned, and then she starts with drama and just doing crazy stuff and sometime it effects my life and ends up with me and family having to make changes. I'm just tired of her and all the craziness.
@chingmerry (414)
• China
22 Jun 09
my mum also makes me crazy too. we have same age but my mum couldn't control me at all.although she knew it very clearly but she still love to give me some wrong idea for everything which was related me.i often answered her with impatient tone.but now just for this week i have told my self i couldn't do like to her.i have to learn to respect her whatever she talk to me.after all she is my mum who is always care about me with kindly heart.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
22 Jun 09
*sigh*how old are you? I think I was around 16/18 when I told my mom that giving birth to me does not make her the owner of my life! When she shot back calling me ungrateful (and many other sweet things)…I told her again that giving birth does not mean she can control me for seven lives!
So I know what you are talking about. My mom is still that way…controlling, overbearing and a perfect miser with praises…I had also told her that for me to be her sweet daughter, I would have to go ‘yes ma, no ma’ with everything everytime, which of course I never did and so I was never her obedient well behaved daughter.
Now at 36 I visit her regularly just because she takes care of my son…maybe I am sounding selfish but I have a family, a child and an office to manage so I need my peace of mind. If it was not for my son, I would not have visited her regularly, maybe once a week. Even my dad is absolutely exasperated with her but then what to do? Its family you know…just be deaf to most of your mom’s crap but be sure to take care of her when she will be needing you. That is what you must never avoid.