How many times you should forgive?

As a Christian, I believe that you should always forgive. When you don't forgive, you give the other person power over you. By this I mean that the issue consumes you, your thoughts, your conversation. So forgiveness is really for you. However, the real question is should you continue with them as a partner. If they are always cheating, that's a problem. The couple needs to address that problem. You can forgive and move on. Forgiveness doesn't not mean letting someone abuse you. I constitute constant cheating as abuse.

MyzDy19, As the old saying goes; [b]Fool me once . . shame on you Fool me twice . . shame on me[/b]

I'm a guy and if I had a girlfriend or wife that cheated, even once, there is no forgiveness. All the begging in the world would not gain my trust back. For me trust is everything. If I can't trust you I don't want to be associated with you. Just that simple for me.

Obviously, there's a big difference between honest mistake & choice... It may be a bad choice but still a choice... Cheating is a choice... I can forgive all the honest mistakes but never a choice... I'm not trying to start up a religious argument here but I see some christians here... I believe that's one of the reasons why Adam & Eve were kicked out of Garden of Eden, not because of their "mistake" but because of their "choice"... They chose to dis-obey God... They were fully aware of the Consequences of eating that apple but they did anyway... No amount of excuses saved them from being Condemned... I know, I know... Jesus came for our sins & for that, we were forgiven... But the point here is, one bad choice & we were condemned for eternity... It's not like the apple fell off the tree & Adam didn't know it was the "fruit of knowledge" because it was on the ground mixed with other fruits... That would be a mistake... If somebody hit on my girlfriend & the guy didn't know she was in a relationship, that would be a mistake... If she takes up on his offer, that would be a choice on her part... Accidents & mistakes happen... Bad choices can be avoided... If a partner cheats, that's "willfully" hurting & dis-respecting the other person & the whole marriage/relationship as an institution... I'm not saying by not forgiving, I would resort to any type of violence... I'm just saying that once is enough for me to end the relationship & move on...

I read a few comments about being Christian, so you should forgive. Not trying to be disrespectful, but that is not the way to go about this situation. If you keep letting him come back after cheating, hes going to think that he can do whatever the heck he wants, because you will always let him back because you are "a forgiving person". You can't let people walk all over you, you have to punish him some way for cheating, even if its the first time, so that he will never do it again. What that punishment is I don't know, but don't let him off lightly and dump him if he cheats again.

Always forgive, it makes you a better person. Never forget. Foll me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. You have to recognize is this person worth it? Why not finid someone who doesnt keep betraying your trust?? They are out there, you just have to keep your eyes peeled.

You can forgive, but you don't have to trust him anymore. I am not very good at taking people back, I will always be suspicious. Once the trust is gone, there is no use in a relationship anymore. It is like a glass. Once broken, you will always be able to see the break. No matter how you try to fix it.

Every individual deserves a second chance, "our benefit of the doubt" coz for all u know he really deserves it or sincere about it..But when a person does the same thing over and over, then he is not worth keeping dear. Sorry to burst ur bubble but i doubt if he knows ur importance at all if u keep holding on to him and be smitten again by his mere plea for forgiveness. Personally, il consider being alone than be with someone who doesnt respect you as a person...in relationship without respect, u cant expect trust and love in return and also people or individual only see's ones importance when he/she is gone. take one step backward to see the whole picture!

I'm a christian too, If he or she cheated so many times then always asking for forgiveness, I will forgive them but with conditions. If he or she do it again, I will leave her/him alone. We must be wise too, if we let that things happen again, we are what they call a martyr.