Is it easy for an introvert to make friends?
By andresimp
@andresimp (818)
India
June 22, 2009 11:57am CST
Extroverts make friends easily. they have whole group of friends around all the time. They are talkative that attracts everyone around them and that makes everyone want to be friends with extroverts. Introverts are difficult to understand as in it is hard for them to make friends. People wouldn't find them interesting. im an introvert myself. i would like to make friends. but I HAVE JUST ONE OR TWO friends. i hardly meet them. it takes time for me to be friendly. First few conversations i hardly talk.. once i get the comfort level, no one can stop me from talking. so is it really difficult for introverts to make friends? please share it with me! thanks
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4 responses
@thecreditor (389)
• Trinidad And Tobago
28 Jun 09
I am somewhat a mix between the two.
I can be friendly & quite talkative when I am ready, I can also make friends quickly.
However I actually prefer to be by myself.
I find friendships are unnecessary & I do NOT miss them or need them.
I actually like being alone.
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@andresimp (818)
• India
30 Jun 09
i assume that your friends had cheated you previously, and you are frustrated. or may be i m wrong.. however i appreciate your boldness of facing the world alone without the need of your friends.. i like to be around friends, but don't have anyone as such.. i do like being alone on certain days but not always.. i would feel lonely. thanks for the response.. happy mylotting!
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
28 Jun 09
I am also an introvert, and I am sometimes a bit jealous of the extroverts, because it seems easier for them to talk to new people and to make friends. I am usually shy at first, but once I get to know people better I can get really talktative. I don't think that all of my problems would disappear if I became an extrovert, but I think that many things would be easier if I were less introverted. It has often been a help for me to meet friends online. I have made some great friends that way, we usually exchange some emails first or chat a bit and later on we meet in real life.
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@andresimp (818)
• India
30 Jun 09
i agree with you, extroverts make friends easily.. i always wonder how they could talk to anyone so boldly.. i was jealous at first, they get recognition and famous all over.. but since we cant speak out, we would be invisible, even if we have more talents than the extroverts. now i learned to accept myself. introverts need extroverts in life. but they should accept the way we are, instead some people are so judgmental and bossy over introverts.. which i hate it. its nice that yo make online friends and then meet them later.. For me i would only feel comfortable chatting online.. lol:) thanks for you response
@John4Christ (1597)
• India
30 Jun 09
I am also little bit introvert when it comes to making friends.........not that i don't like to speak, once i make friends i don't have a stop button, i have very selected friends whom i talk and interact with.......i don't gel along so well with all people.......i take some time in the beginning to make friends.....but then once they become my friends they remember me for quite a long time.......it is a myth that introverts cant make friends..........they indeed can, but the only difference is they take time than the extroverts and that the number of friends they have varies.......but i feel that's ok, as long as they fall in your comfort zone there is no harm.......
@Tiamjr (435)
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23 Jun 09
I am a bit of an introvert myself so understand the problem. I think it does take more effort on the part of the introvert to make friends. Introverts and extroverts often make good friends because extroverts like to talk and introverts like to listen. When you make friends with an extrovert you also find that they can sometimes bring you out of your shell a bit more.
I personally believe the quality of the type of friendship you have is more important than the quantity of friends you acquire. So I wouldn't be concerned at only having one or two friends. If they are true friends that make you feel happy then you are lucky.
@andresimp (818)
• India
23 Jun 09
well said! you are right. but some introverts end up with no friends. they may have few but not close ones. that is what i think. i do have few friends but not so that i talk to them often and meet them once in a week. it is quiet complicated with me. thanks for the response!
