Will You Allow It?

It depends on the trust you have for him. But, tell you what. There would definitely come a time that he would be curious with the one he is chatting with, which you said are beautiful and sexy. Let's just hope he wont cross that line, if he does, that's the end of it, or rather the start of it. If I were you, I won't let him flirt with other girls. I'm sorry.

BORED? That's no excuse!!! If he loves you, he'll only want to pay attention to you. A man who chats with other women that he hardly knows, and who goes on DATING SITES when he is supposedly EXCLUSIVE to someone else, is emotionally chating on the woman. He may not be having a physical relationship, but he IS cheating on you, by getting some kind of fulfillment from OTHER WOMEN!! That is not right. He needs to STOP. If he doesn't, you go on some sites and start talking with MEN, and see how he likes it!!!

I understand your being understanding for him but I think there is also a possibility that this online flinging could become an offline affair too if he would want to and without you knowing it. so I say just be careful that you are allowing him to do this and hopefully the trust that you've given him would not be violated because you allowed him to do so.

Hi Maple! I think you should feel contended to know that he was honest with as he told you all about his on-line ventures/adventures. He probably did not conceal anything from you. I think, his honesty should be considered by you and you should 'trust' him. You trusting him and reposing faith on him will make him more responsible and he may not even think in his dream to 'cheat you'. You can always spell out your true feelings to him and always tell him 'not to break your trust'. You are wise enough, when you say that you cannot be with him all the time, so let him enjoy and be loyal and faithful to you. All the best to you.

U have more boyfriend troubles than u need. Maybe u need to get a rest from guys for awhile. What happen to the older guy?? how is nico. I'M SORRY I NEVER HEAR FROM U.

i think the short version of all answers would still boil down to the fact that it is hurting his girlfriend and that is enough for any decent man to put a stop to. if it is platonic friendship he shares with that other woman then he should allot a different time for you. what is this? you sharing his time with that other woman or she sharing his time with you?

As for me regardless if it is online or not it still would be cheating to join online dating sites because in the first place why join it if you already are in a relationship? I think that whether it's online or not it is still cheating if you flirt with other people while in a relationship.

i don't think so ,if someone love you he will devote all of his time on you not other ladies with no doult. In my opinion i can stand my boyfriend to chat with the other beautiful girl. It is easy.

Dear Maple I think this is a waning for you try to stop your boy friend doing all these because I am saying my own experience when my girl friend tried to chat and flirt and then they fall in love I do not blame my girl friend because there may be some lack from my side but what ever I loose my girl friend so be aware for that

Hi Maple_kisses, I'm amaze that you allowed it because if it were me,it's a big "no way" because sometimes an innocent chatting leads into something else especially the one that he is chatting with is interesting and as you have said beautiful and sexy.. Although it's a good thing that he honest with you about it but still I won't be confortable with it if I were in your place.

Your situation is hard, you can't do nothing but trust him. Tell him of how you feel and be on line everytime as much as possible. Pray hard that your boyfriend won't change his feelings and do everything to keep your relationship. Trust him and always pray to God to bless and keep your relationship.

Being away from each other will create temptations. You don't need a boyfriend that will put you in a position to feel like you are competing with others. Either he focases on you or he's capable of well...who knows what.

Acually, if i were you, i won't allow him to do it. Because who on the earth can know what is going to happen next? Yes, he promised he will not see any girls in person, but, what about things is out of his control? Like the girls fall in love with him, then they can't control themself, and having a fair or the worst thing, what about then they have a baby? Which means you lost the battle! I think you should talk to your boyfriend about all the fears that you have, if he love you truely, he will give up anything like you, if he still keep doing the same thing, then you need to think about it. Good luck!

heck noo i would never llet my girl do that and its a two way street for her too.... you should have kept him in check abot that

I understand the pain it must've caused you knowing that your boyfriend chats with other women. I would condone such a thing for one thing alone - respect. In a long distance relationship or in any relationship for that matter, respect for the other partner is of utmost importance. I hope you were able to convey your thoughts well to your boyfriend on how his actions make you feel miserable. YEs it may be harmless because he doesn't meet with the women he chats. But consider turning the table on him theoretically. Ask him how he would feel if YOU chat and make friends online with guys? How would he feel? If he respects and as he claims "Love" you that much, he would work hard and save money so he can be with you. :)

Hi there Maple Kisses. This is a controversy topic and real life situation. To be honest, as long as both couple members agree on something it makes it o.k. for them, but telling you that he can join dating sites and you can't because you are a woman, that's ludicrous if you ask me. I do hope he won't cheat on you, but even if he does, and you don't find out about it, it will be on his head, as if he has a conscience he will feel guilty about it. Take care and hope it all works out fine for you 2.

You need ell him that he needs to end that now or it's over. If you were in a relationship, he wouldn't be searching for other women. If he really misses you so much, he wouldn't be looking for a replacement. Good luck but it seems like you are going about this all wrong.

Well, I wouldn't allow it. The fact that he misses you is not a good reason to start doing what he is doing. If he misses you, he is supposed to want to talk to you and not to other girls. Besides you never know, if he is not going to date these girls at some point. If online is harmless, why does he "forbid" you doing it (even if you wanted to)? It is hurtful, but you should maybe try show him that you are not that naive. At the moment he thinks he got you, he knows you love him and he pushes the limits, he has simply forgotten himself a bit. If you don't clearly show him your opinion and your limits he will continue. Internet is nasty when it comes to something like this. No one can "control" what the other one is doing, it is only a question of morals and trust.

No matter what are first intentions he'll end up hurting you, dumping you or something like that. He is bored because he IS a man, it's in man's nature to look all the time for females that could be a chance to have children, it's down there in heads as one of self-behavioral impulses. If u love him don't let him act as he pleases, cuz he'll soon forget bout it. It's like with parents and relatives. We love much more someone that has it's own rules instead of someone who only gives us donuts no matter what. If u allow him to do that, it's equal to sayin, wella, i don't care bout ya that much.

No, I would not allow it unless I knew for sure that there was nothing going on....and its a double standard if he isnt allowing you to chat with men because it is NOT different.