What are signs your bf/gf is controlling?

United States
June 23, 2009 1:35am CST
What do you think is "controlling" and what are signs of it? Do you think it's okay if someone in t he relationship was controlling and if not, how could you stop them from being so controlling?
2 responses
meggggg
@meggggg (155)
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
signs of being controlling: -prevents you from seeing your friends -clingy, like has to be with you 100% of your time -no manners -too many questions -thinks he can buy you love (will buy you nice jewelry take you to expensive restaurant) -you always do what he chooses -No means no if so i would leave him/her and find another
chocopuffs
@chocopuffs (67)
• United States
23 Jun 09
Hmm. Thanks for the reply meggggg. Is it ALL of those you mentioned or can it be some? I am clingy, asks a lot of questions, don't want my man hanging out with friends that are girls, but I don't think I'm controlling. And him, well, I think he's a little controlling but I couldn't just leave him, I love him too much.
chocopuffs
@chocopuffs (67)
• United States
23 Jun 09
Bah, I replied to your response but my internet decided to "time out". do you have to be all of those you stated above or just a couple of those? I mean I fit some of those descriptions but I don't think I'm that controlling and the same with my boyfriend, but he fits a little bit more of the descriptions you mentioned. Thanks for replying Meggggg.
meggggg
@meggggg (155)
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
these are just warning signs but not rules :-) so having imaybe a combination of some of the above might mean one is controling. just try to give each other some space hope it works out
khayshenz
@khayshenz (1384)
• United States
24 Jun 09
Just to add to Megg's signs of a controlling person; - always calls when you're out with other people to ask who are you with, where are you going, why didn't you ask me first (mann, that's one of my pet peeves, DUDE! You don't own me!), etc. - He/she starts telling you what you can and cannot wear when clearly what you wear is fairly respectable - they get mad at you if you don't do as they say. I don't think you can stop anyone from being controlling - all you can really do is talk to them about it (when you're in those lovey dovey times, and everything is all right in the world). Why are some people controlling? For different reasons - but one of the main root is that they are insecure. So what you can do is reassure that person that they don't have to worry. Of course you can only do so much reassuring - at some point, he's gonna have to learn to trust you and take your word for it. Good luck!