Even if you no longer love them, you do still have dreams about your ex?

United States
June 23, 2009 1:39am CST
Hello all...I fell out of love with my ex years ago, and he was very dangerous to me. Yet I sometimes still have dreams about him or when we were together. I was wondering if this is normal! Do you still have dreams about your ex, even if the relationship was horrible and you no longer love them?
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@sonusd (1547)
• India
23 Jun 09
girl friend - ex girl friend
My girl friend left me 4 year back as we were child hood friend I have not forgot her yet and there is another reason because she is staying near my home,as she is engaged with another guy and I am still single I feel some time jealeous when I saw both them are so happy ,I fel very frustrated because I think that I have less quality so he left me and now she is very happy with another guy.
• United States
23 Jun 09
I think those circumstances would be hard! And make it difficult not to think about things or feel some jealousy. I hope that gets easier as time goes on. Thank you for your insights. :) Karen
• United States
23 Jun 09
Yes I have dreams about my ex, more like nightmares that he is back in my life and won't go away.,,I have dreams too where its like a flashback and instead, i do things differently...I think if you are emotionally and mentally invested in a person for a lengthy period of time, you are bound to subconsciously think of them, and i think if the experiences were negative, then that adds to the likely hood that your subconscious will dwell on that
• United States
23 Jun 09
Hello Spicy...what you say makes so much sense. I will bear that in mind from now on and try not to let the bad dreams be so frightening. Have a beautiful day. Karen
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
Yeah, I still have dreams of my ex-bfs, but my dreams with them aren't romantic at all. There are just scenes in my dream wherein I see them standing or sitting down looking at me, sometimes talking to me but we weren't really sweet or anything. You see, once I'm done with my ex, I'm done with him.
• United States
23 Jun 09
Thank you for adding this insight. I am done with my ex, for sure, and now I want to be done with the nightmares! Karen
@med889 (5941)
23 Jun 09
I believe this is normal when I first left my ex I still had dreams about him for the next coming months some were even nightmares but then after I met my boyfriend the dreams were all over as I do not have time to think about my ex now even if he calls me sometimes and ask me to return but I don't find myself leaving my partner with whom I am for 3 years now.
• United States
23 Jun 09
I hope the dreams stop, as yours did. Most of them, not all, but most are along the lines of nightmares! Thank you for responding :) Karen
• China
23 Jun 09
I ended up relationship with my ex boyfriend almost 5 years agao, but sometimes i still have dreams about him. we had the horrible relationship like you gays and i am sure i don't have feelings on him anymore. I felt terrible when i first had a dream about him since we broke up.
• United States
23 Jun 09
Yes, since I've ended a horrible relationship several years ago, I do not like the bad dreams coming back to "haunt" me. I always wake up feeling scared and unsettled. Thank you for your input :) Karen
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
23 Jun 09
Hi dreams are about everything, and in special about relations, about people who was in your life, for long or short time. Is impossible to forgot your ex relation, is normal to think on this sometimes, or to have some dreams about this. Human are human, and can t forgot what was important in theirs life, good or bad. We must assume our past, is not something what we can say...in this moment never dream or think in this.
• United States
23 Jun 09
You make a lot of sense. Once someone or something has ever been a part of their life, those impressions are there forever. Thank you for your response. :) Karen