What do you think of husband and wife's who have separate bedrooms?

Well, its unfair for me to comment as it depends on a couple to couple basis. If they have too many problems and can't stand to see each other, the only way to save the marriage would be to not see each other. Also, they might want extra privacy....After all when you see someone every night when you go to sleep, and every day when u wake up, you sort of get bored of her.

Well your reasons are valid and it has nothing to do with the marriage being shaky. Well if i am you husband, i guess i should tone down the airconditioning. Just enough for the two of us. If it's still too cold, then aside from the blanket, i would just embraced you. You know, body heat. As long we both of us should stay and sleep in one room. I don't think i can afford to let you sleep alone in another room. I can sacrifice the air con though.

I dont see any problem with it at all. Its far more important to be comfortable and getting enough sleep than staying in the same room because other people expect you to. It doesn't seem wrong to me - it seems sensible.

Well I think it is ok if you two sleep on different bedrooms. I don't think that is a big deal. But if I'm your husband, I just turn-off the aircon and just use electric fan instead so it's not cold. For me, it is better if I just follow what my partner wants just to be with her. And by the way, I am just curious with your username. Where did you get the word mindoro? Is it your surname or it's the place where you came from? Because I am from Oriental Mindoro here in the Philippines. Happy posting

I don't sleep in the same room with my husband because of my breathing issues. He has dogs that he lets sleep with him, they break me out in a rash, and he smokes, so I can't breath when I'm near him. I don't blame you at all for sleeping in a separate room. If he doesn't seem to consider your needs, you should sleep in a separate room.

If you don't feel comfortable than that's fine but it is always good to spend time with your significant other.

I would move out too! What has your husband done about it? I would expect my husband to understand my sufferings and act accordingly. If he doesn’t, then what are the vows for? Its our mutual responsibility, as a couple, to take care of each other. If my husband cares only for his own pleasure, very soon I’ll be tempted to forget that he exists at all!

i am a horribly light sleeper and cannot sleep that well and well, my hubby is a very restless sleeper and tosses, turns and snores all night. i have to work outside of the house because of money issues, so we sleep in seperate rooms just so i can get a good nights sleep.

Did you talk with your husband about your health problems in relation to low surrounding temperatures? Maybe it has not really gone into him about this matter/ In a marriage there should be a give and take situation, needing some sacrifice on both sides. Based on your discussion you seem to be the one doing all the giving. Ideally he should show more concern, and be prepared to make some sacrifice. Sleeping apart, while physically not very far from each other, can eventually make the hearts drift apart. Let's hope that this will not happen.

It is sad that husband and wife sleep in seperate bedrooms. I feel so lost to wake up in a bed alone. My husband also keeps the AC always to the very cold. It is very difficult for me to stand with cold. I often sleep with a blanket, whenever I reach the maximum point, where I can't stand the chillness, I switch it off or ask him to switch it off. He listens to me. I think you can tell your husband that you can't stand very cold. I think he will consider that and adjust. Life is full of adjustments. I will love to handle a little inconvenience for someone I love.

Sleeping singleness on occasion does not matter at all. But if it keep a long time will affect the relationship between your husband.

hmm... I think it sounds a little weird to me... so why doesn't your husband turn the air conditioner down a little bit so you feel better? or he can have fan that blow in the room or only his side so you and him can still sleep together, I think he should be more thoughful about it, cannot be so selfish.

I really feel sorry for you. If you have a kind of Husband who could not adjust with you, then I would consider what you have done is absolutely right. Although it is craziness to have a seperate bed rooms for Husband and Wife, your case is an exception. Your husband must have known about your discomfort in sleeping under the extreme conditions of Aircon and must have set the temperature according to your wish. As you suffer from Asthma, it is highly necessary that your needs and deeds regarding health has to be taken care properly. If I were in your position, then definitely I would have done what you did. Have a great day.

I'm in a rather similar situation with you except for the part of separate bedrooms. My husband too loves putting the aircorn day and night. I too have some athsma problems. I usually use a very warm quilt or blanket to keep warm.However we talk it out. I tell him whem I'm too cold and he will either turn it on low or switch it off. May be you can talk to your husband. Marriage is a two way street. Both sides need to be tolerant to each other, that's what makes marriage special. Besides having separate bedrooms, takes all the fun out of marriage leaving it cold and distant. It might hurt your marriage in the long run. Besides how would you explain to your children later on why you guys have separate bedrooms.

I do not take out any meaning. But you are quite justified I think. Its ok.

I would think that couples should find a common ground when it comes to sleeping arrangements. It would be good to get a very think blanket in order not to get too cold. Cheers!!

Well.i don't know.But as you said you have uncomfortable with the cold air.and you moved out of you bedroom.it was a little wired.If your husband knew that.i think he should turn the air conditioner been the warm.he couldn't consider how you feeling i think this is not good.

i hope you couple talked over that issue and resolve it quite well. you see to most people know it is wrong to not sleep with your spouse on the same bed with tons of reasons religously and by its definition. but in your case that the issue raise your health into a difficult stage it is necessary to talk over your husband about it and let him understand how that makes you. and decide in the middle how you both resolve the issue of Air conditioning the entire room the whole day and night. i am sure right communication results to right execution of output.

oh no , that is something i cannot believe, they change room for some temporary time, but not for a longer period, but living seperately is something unbeilevale, oh my God , that is rediculous and no no no i dont believe this, sorry, and i think if they are living also ,they are no longer husband and wife.

Honestly I don't think it is wrong, As long as it's for the right reasons. If it is because your having marital problems, then yes it is wrong and you need to go get counseling. But scince it is because your husbands room is too cold then its not a big deal, but you do need to address him and tell him you WANT to sleep with him, because he is your husband after all. My parents don't sleep together because my dad has chronic snoring problems. I can hear him all the way downstairs and it pisses me off. Don't worry about it, and you'll get through this! Thanks