I like him, but I think he finds me annoying..
@classicelfryoko (109)
United States
June 23, 2009 2:39pm CST
gahh..i've asked my friends this question, and i'm still not getting a really good answer so i'll try here.
Anywho I really like this guy at work..Long sotry short when I stsarted working with him he was nice to me, and talked to me every once in awhile. I mentioned this to a friend that now all I do is see him jokingly flirt/tease/talk with any other person than me, and she agreed after thinking on it. He will talk to the other employees, and tease the girls, but when it comes to me the only time he will say something is when it's work related. And it's very short like. "Can you get this?" And the only thing that I can say to him is "what's up?" and that is only once in awhile when he passes by me. He say's "What's up girl?" back, but that's about it.
OH and before this, one time I was kinda flirting with him[kinda rubbing on his arm], and he was like "ooh wait don't do that I got a girlfriend." And then he said while flinging his arm in the air "naw i'm just playing girl" and he walked away.
Why won't he talk to me like everyone else? My friend thinks that he likes me and is trying to avoid me because he has a girlfriend, and temptation can be strong or some crap. I'm not even sure if he is dating anyone. Why is he acting this way? Bah.. the only thing i've notice lately is that i've tried to ignore him, and only talk to him if I have to. Sometimes we make eye contact, but I always look away. *sighs*..what do you guys think? lol, am I imtimidating? Does he just not like me? I mean he used to be nice to me...now he just well ignores me..
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13 responses
@crazychickster (8)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
hmmm..let me think...Well, honestly I have had this experience before. Sometimes you really can't assume things because we girls are over analyzing every move that guys make. I guess you have to wait and see. Just talk to him in a normal way. Ask friendly questions and so on. Don't be too nervous when talking to him. Just be yourself. Maybe the guy is just shy to approach you because he is attracted to you. You really do not know. I hope my advices would help.^^ Guys gives us to much headache. They are toooo slowwwwwwwww!!!!hahaha
@classicelfryoko (109)
• United States
24 Jun 09
yesss:( I hate how guys do that to us. I'm not going to flirt with him or anything but if I do get a chance to talk to him it will be just normal conversation like you said. He is a nice guy, but right now he's appearing like an a$$hole to me lol because he is ignoring me.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
to be honest, i really don't understand boy's minds....:) they are somehow unpredictable at times... i think he finds you attractive, however, he's controlling his emotions towards you because of the fact that he has already a girlfriend. another thing is that maybe you can somehow be too expressive that without saying anything he can tell that you're into him through your actions and he doesn't want you to expect anything from him... in my opinion, flirting to someone who's already taken is sort of a foul to your love's lover... it would be best for you to become friends and who knows he may later realize that he likes you... :) let's not complicate love
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@classicelfryoko (109)
• United States
24 Jun 09
thank you for you responce I really like all that you have to say.
@rsa101 (38126)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
First thing you should really know is to confirm if he has a girlfriend already. If he has then I guess make no more expectation from him because I sincerely think he wants to be faithful to his GF. If indeed he has some attraction to you in some ways that is why he avoids you then I guess he still is trying to be faithful to his GF that you should respect and understand.
So the first thing that you should really know is if he has a GF indeed. If he has not then you are free to be a good friend before you go intimate with him.
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@classicelfryoko (109)
• United States
24 Jun 09
Hey,
yea that's what I was thinking. I think that he does, but he denies it, and pretends like he doesn't. I have asked other people to ask him, and he'll say "I have a fiance/GF..*laughs it off* then says nah not really." Then they will ask him why isn't he wearing a ring and he says. "guys don't wear rings, besides I don't have one.
IF he does have a girlfriend then why flirt with other people at the job? o_O unless it just doesn't mean anything to him that he does it. Cause he Really flirts/touches/gropes some girls.
It sucks to find a guy that your interested in after such a long time, and to be ignored...but I understand why now.
thanks for your answer as much as I don't want to realize it.
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
I think he likes you. There might be some things that keeps him from taking another step and time is usually a good thing for sorting out stuff like this. Cheers!!
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@classicelfryoko (109)
• United States
24 Jun 09
Hello and thanks for your responce.
I really like him, and I think that waiting may be a good thing in the position that I am. Time will never tell, is that how it goes? Well anyway, if he does have a gf I wouldn't want to mess that up. That is the whole reason I broke up with my ex bf of 5 years. He had to many girls that liked him during HS, and it followed him up until college. I hate him for everything he did to me. And it sucks now to finally find a guy after 8 months who I find so interesting yet he might be taken.
Life can be so complicated...lol..I think i'm gonna be single for a long time..
@pinklemonade (486)
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23 Jun 09
Gahhh I hate it when guys are so hard to read!! Why do they do things like this? It's so confusing! I think he likes you though, because he is acting different around you so he obviously thinks of you different than everyone else. It sounds like he is kind of intrieged by you. I think you should make the first move by flirting with him again and see how he reacts to that. You can always just make a joke of it but try and read his body language. If you get to know him better as a friend you should go out to somewhere (as friends) and then see how things work from there. I think it sounds like he probably really likes you though and he is just shy and doesn't know what to say. Let us know how it works out!
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@classicelfryoko (109)
• United States
24 Jun 09
hello thank you for your responce. I don't think i'm going to flirt with him, but i'll tell yall what happens.
thanks again.
@cbantly (236)
• United States
23 Jun 09
Here comes the best response...LOL. It may be the opposite of what you think. You said that he used to be nice to you and now he ignores you. Maybe he has feelings for you now and he's uncomfortable around you. He may be confident and cool and calm around the girls that he has no attraction to, but maybe you blow his mind! You could always start some type of conversation with him...like...So tell me about this infamous girlfriend of yours.
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@classicelfryoko (109)
• United States
23 Jun 09
hmm, that could be true. He's so hard to approach though, well in my situation. _
@maikarumike (458)
• Malaysia
24 Jun 09
Everyone's point of view and interest for another person is different from one another.Maybe put of ten people you are likeable by all 8 except for two. Maybe the other 8 likes your sense of humour but the other 2 don't.You see, everyone is different and we can't please everyone and if we, we are not human anymore.Maybe you should go and talk to him and maybe he really likes you but scared to express it as well.Guys are all very shy and not going to admit easily when they are caught red handed by the person they like.
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@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
Well, it's not that he doesn't like you or anything but If it's a fact that he has a girl friend, i think you should stop flirting with this guy. You can at least be friend him for the moment and get to know him a little. i think he didn't mean to offend you when he told you he got a gf and then said some thing like "just playing girl" defense statement. get to know him first and their relationship, if it's true that is.
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
well it's quite easy thing I mean all you have to know is if he is taken or not
and if he is not then it is ok to continue what you feel towards this guy but if he is then you know what you have to do....
If this guy really like you, you will know coz in time he will tell you about it for now just let it be and just enjoy your work as if he is not there then soon he would realize what an a**h*** he is not to say his feelings for you 
good luck my friend and I hope you will find a mate soon.
good luck my friend and I hope you will find a mate soon.1 person likes this
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
Yes I agree with you that his doings is not pleasant for you.
Its nice that you see his activity before having the great relation.
Its your time to weigh all things in your relationship whether to
get forward or not. If I'm the girl I will not make it longer
cause I dont want to see my bf like that.
@iFamous23 (10)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I think he likes you. I do the same thing to a lot of girls. It's hard when you like somebody a lot and you just want to always see them, but you dont wanna seem annoying or too touchy. Give it some time and maybe you'll grow closer with him? Who knows? :) good things happen when you wait.
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@ztep_d (8)
• Thailand
24 Jun 09
ahhhh.......in my opinion,He doesn't like you in the way of girlfriend.I know it because sometimes I found some situations like he did.My reccommendation for you is that you should make yourself to be better....That's the only way to get his attention and of course,he might look at you in the new way.And who knows???? Thing might change. ^__^
